How to be happy in love (59)
serene56: Been reading some Proust (via Alain de Botton )Have loosely translated and would like your thoughts re:Can love last forever
'Well no, but the limits to eternity don't lie specifically with love.
They lay in the general difficulty of maintaining an appreciative relationship with anyone that is always around.'So is it possible that the longing is the best part and that feeling could wear off within 15 minutes of being with that person
Does familiarity breed contempt?
better the love for an old jersey than the love for a new jacket 'Well no, but the limits to eternity don't lie specifically with love.
They lay in the general difficulty of maintaining an appreciative relationship with anyone that is always around.'So is it possible that the longing is the best part and that feeling could wear off within 15 minutes of being with that person
Does familiarity breed contempt?
epirb: better the love for an old jersey than the love for a new jacket
But is it possible that the attraction to the new jacket could add a different dimension to the love for the old jersey
serene56: But is it possible that the attraction to the new jacket could add a different dimension to the love for the old jersey
yeah , lessen it . Just like somebody chasing after another man or woman .
gee serene are you smoking those vegies instead of eating them
mickyj63: gee serene are you smoking those vegies instead of eating them
Bless
No, in fact
I am spending my time (pre unemployment lol) investigating all the stuff that I lurve 
Philosophy is one of those things, me ol' c ock
serene56: Been reading some Proust (via Alain de Botton )Have loosely translated and would like your thoughts re:Can love last forever
'Well no, but the limits to eternity don't lie specifically with love.
They lay in the general difficulty of maintaining an appreciative relationship with anyone that is always around.'So is it possible that the longing is the best part and that feeling could wear off within 15 minutes of being with that person
Does familiarity breed contempt?
'Well no, but the limits to eternity don't lie specifically with love.
They lay in the general difficulty of maintaining an appreciative relationship with anyone that is always around.'So is it possible that the longing is the best part and that feeling could wear off within 15 minutes of being with that person
Does familiarity breed contempt?
It is not familiarity that necessarily breeds contempt. I believe it is lust and the lack of being content and satisfied with what one has in life, in love, and in relationships that lead to contempt. It is the comparing of one with another. It is the unfulfilled desire and the mind dwelling on this lust that leads to contempt.
In the saying of an ancient letter:
"Whenever people are jealous or selfish, they cause trouble and do all sorts of cruel things. But the wisdom that comes from above leads us to be pure, friendly, gentle, sensible, kind, helpful, genuine, and sincere. When peacemakers plant seeds of peace, they will harvest justice......"
"... Where do all the fights and quarrels among you come from? They come from your desires for pleasure, which are constantly fighting within you. You want things, but you cannot have them, so you are ready to kill; you strongly desire things, but you cannot get them, so you quarrel and fight."
serene56: Bless No, in fact I am spending my time (pre unemployment lol) investigating all the stuff that I lurve
Philosophy is one of those things, me ol' c ock
Philosophy is one of those things, me ol' c ock
To bad I'm not on leave I could have flown up for a lesson
And I'm not old
my motto is
carpe diem
serene56: Been reading some Proust (via Alain de Botton )Have loosely translated and would like your thoughts re:Can love last forever
'Well no, but the limits to eternity don't lie specifically with love.
They lay in the general difficulty of maintaining an appreciative relationship with anyone that is always around.'So is it possible that the longing is the best part and that feeling could wear off within 15 minutes of being with that person
Does familiarity breed contempt?
'Well no, but the limits to eternity don't lie specifically with love.
They lay in the general difficulty of maintaining an appreciative relationship with anyone that is always around.'So is it possible that the longing is the best part and that feeling could wear off within 15 minutes of being with that person
Does familiarity breed contempt?
Hi Serene..
I have not read what you are reading, but clearly it has made you wonder..?
I think its different for everyone..
I don't agree that longing is the best part... not at all..
You can spend your whole life longing for the $ jackpot.. and if it came.. you would not be displeased..
For me... I prefer to have the person with me...
and if he is not there... well, I think.. I have managed so far without him, so I can continue...
But I am a very practical person... and strange in a way...
Halv0: It is not familiarity that necessarily breeds contempt. I believe it is lust and the lack of being content and satisfied with what one has in life, in love, and in relationships that lead to contempt. It is the comparing of one with another. It is the unfulfilled desire and the mind dwelling on this lust that leads to contempt.
In the saying of an ancient letter:
"Whenever people are jealous or selfish, they cause trouble and do all sorts of cruel things. But the wisdom that comes from above leads us to be pure, friendly, gentle, sensible, kind, helpful, genuine, and sincere. When peacemakers plant seeds of peace, they will harvest justice......"
"... Where do all the fights and quarrels among you come from? They come from your desires for pleasure, which are constantly fighting within you. You want things, but you cannot have them, so you are ready to kill; you strongly desire things, but you cannot get them, so you quarrel and fight."
In the saying of an ancient letter:
"Whenever people are jealous or selfish, they cause trouble and do all sorts of cruel things. But the wisdom that comes from above leads us to be pure, friendly, gentle, sensible, kind, helpful, genuine, and sincere. When peacemakers plant seeds of peace, they will harvest justice......"
"... Where do all the fights and quarrels among you come from? They come from your desires for pleasure, which are constantly fighting within you. You want things, but you cannot have them, so you are ready to kill; you strongly desire things, but you cannot get them, so you quarrel and fight."
I feel this is possibly from an ancient Asiatic script
And I agree with it, it sits nicely with a Buddhist outlook on life
Halv0: It is not familiarity that necessarily breeds contempt. I believe it is lust and the lack of being content and satisfied with what one has in life, in love, and in relationships that lead to contempt. It is the comparing of one with another. It is the unfulfilled desire and the mind dwelling on this lust that leads to contempt.
In the saying of an ancient letter:
"Whenever people are jealous or selfish, they cause trouble and do all sorts of cruel things. But the wisdom that comes from above leads us to be pure, friendly, gentle, sensible, kind, helpful, genuine, and sincere. When peacemakers plant seeds of peace, they will harvest justice......"
"... Where do all the fights and quarrels among you come from? They come from your desires for pleasure, which are constantly fighting within you. You want things, but you cannot have them, so you are ready to kill; you strongly desire things, but you cannot get them, so you quarrel and fight."
In the saying of an ancient letter:
"Whenever people are jealous or selfish, they cause trouble and do all sorts of cruel things. But the wisdom that comes from above leads us to be pure, friendly, gentle, sensible, kind, helpful, genuine, and sincere. When peacemakers plant seeds of peace, they will harvest justice......"
"... Where do all the fights and quarrels among you come from? They come from your desires for pleasure, which are constantly fighting within you. You want things, but you cannot have them, so you are ready to kill; you strongly desire things, but you cannot get them, so you quarrel and fight."
Hi Halvo..
But what if you have a non jealous nature, and cannot be fussed with things that are unattainable.. and happy and content in your own wee world.. ??
and detest arguments.. like for me... I just wont go there.. I totally refuse.
serene56: with a Buddhist outlook on life
I had a very attractive shop assistant in awe in a shop call Chakra in St Kilda !! I asked why they had Buddhism which almost died out before the West discovered it .
I still at time sway towards the EARTH MOTHER GODDESS as that is the oldest known . Stuff that the shielas that follow it are prettier
Merriweather: Hi Halvo..
But what if you have a non jealous nature, and cannot be fussed with things that are unattainable.. and happy and content in your own wee world.. ??
and detest arguments.. like for me... I just wont go there.. I totally refuse.
But what if you have a non jealous nature, and cannot be fussed with things that are unattainable.. and happy and content in your own wee world.. ??
and detest arguments.. like for me... I just wont go there.. I totally refuse.
Then my dear merri the other person may cheat on you !! oops that's my life
Sorry but its true
mickyj63: I had a very attractive shop assistant in awe in a shop call Chakra in St Kilda !! I asked why they had Buddhism which almost died out before the West discovered it .
I still at time sway towards the EARTH MOTHER GODDESS as that is the oldest known . Stuff that the shielas that follow it are prettier
I still at time sway towards the EARTH MOTHER GODDESS as that is the oldest known . Stuff that the shielas that follow it are prettier
Micky you continue to astound me
Life is about serendipity
mickyj63: Then my dear merri the other person may cheat on you !! oops that's my life
Sorry but its true
Sorry but its true
I'd rather not know Micky...
Merriweather: I'd rather not know Micky...
Some might say that ignorance is bliss merri
But I think you (and I for that matter) have truly found peace
serene56: Micky you continue to astound me Life is about serendipity
Carpe diem my dear Serene
I'm grabbing life and giving it a big wet French kiss babe
Yes the Adrenal gland must be pumping out adrenaline today peeps because I'm feeling awesome
Sorry Im feeling great for a change
Merriweather: I'd rather not know Micky...
I didn't know merri
And now I really don't care
mickyj63: I didn't know merri
And now I really don't care
And now I really don't care
Good on ya Micky... join Serene and I in our world of bliss
Merriweather: Hi Halvo..
But what if you have a non jealous nature, and cannot be fussed with things that are unattainable.. and happy and content in your own wee world.. ??
and detest arguments.. like for me... I just wont go there.. I totally refuse.
But what if you have a non jealous nature, and cannot be fussed with things that are unattainable.. and happy and content in your own wee world.. ??
and detest arguments.. like for me... I just wont go there.. I totally refuse.
Hi Merri,
If one has what you have, then you have contentment. And this refusal to "go there" keeps your heart in peace. This is a teaching from ancient times that has automatic outcomes, as you experience them. It is a simple philosophy and law of nature.
Most of nature is in harmony, is at peace. Mankind however has to disrupt this peace.
How infantile of our politicians and war mongers, who could feed the whole world for a whole year with the money that they spend in just 8 days on the military.
Peace is cheaper than war, but then people (especially politicians and CEOs) are prepared to pay very high prices for their lust and discontent.
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Have loosely translated and would like your thoughts re:
Can love last forever
'Well no, but the limits to eternity don't lie specifically with love.
They lay in the general difficulty of maintaining an appreciative relationship with anyone that is always around.'
So is it possible that the longing is the best part and that feeling could wear off within 15 minutes of being with that person
Does familiarity breed contempt?