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How do you handle grief? (35)

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#1
Oct 21, 2013 2:51 AM CST How do you handle grief?
Lookin4missright
Lookin4missrightLookin4missrightmelbourne, Victoria Australia400 Threads 24,032 Posts
Lookin4missrightOPmelbourne, Victoria Australia24,032 posts
I have a friend that jmo is over whelmed by the passing of a loved one, and hope you can help with whatever you have experienced, that have got /or is getting you through it australia newzealand

thanks thumbs up australia newzealand
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#2
Oct 21, 2013 2:59 AM CST How do you handle grief?
serene56online today!
serene56online today!serene56Myplace, New South Wales Australia543 Threads 10 Polls 27,957 Posts
serene56Myplace, New South Wales Australia27,957 posts
Lookin4missright: I have a friend that jmo is over whelmed by the passing of a loved one, and hope you can help with whatever you have experienced, that have got /or is getting you through it

thanks



A tough one lookin, the grieving process is different for everyone as they say and I'm not sure there is much I personally can offer in the way of advice.

I guess just to say that your friend needs to know that the feelings they have are perfectly natural, and it's ok to want to curl up in a corner alone at times and lick their wounds blues

Some people are hit so hard it can be months before they can see beyond that awful blackness that surrounds them and blocks the rest of the world out..

Having said that, each death we experience is different..

Your friend is lucky to have you around lookin, support is essential at times like this, someone to just be there hug

Maybe as a friend, just keep an eye on the possibility of long-term grief becoming depression..

All the best to your friend, I hope the sun shines for them again soon rose
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#3
Oct 21, 2013 3:05 AM CST How do you handle grief?
epirb
epirbepirbDannevirke, Hawke's Bay New Zealand32 Threads 2 Polls 7,379 Posts
epirbDannevirke, Hawke's Bay New Zealand7,379 posts
Lookin4missright: I have a friend that jmo is over whelmed by the passing of a loved one, and hope you can help with whatever you have experienced, that have got /or is getting you through it

thanks
badly I'm afraid , pragmatic a bit ,but badly
thank fec it was not me sort of feeling with a hope its not me next time either .
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#4
Oct 21, 2013 3:16 AM CST How do you handle grief?
Lookin4missright
Lookin4missrightLookin4missrightmelbourne, Victoria Australia400 Threads 24,032 Posts
Lookin4missrightOPmelbourne, Victoria Australia24,032 posts
Thanks guys kiss I think my friend needs a little advice in close death .... family,friends etc... blues

I have had my fare share of death, but i don't think my new friend has blues


any advice would be greatly appreciated thumbs up

Life goes on hug
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#5
Oct 21, 2013 3:25 AM CST How do you handle grief?
Torless
TorlessTorlessChristchurch, Canterbury New Zealand9 Threads 1,499 Posts
TorlessChristchurch, Canterbury New Zealand1,499 posts
I guess it depends on how close the person was and ..how long they were sick....
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#6
Oct 21, 2013 3:29 AM CST How do you handle grief?
AgentAjax
AgentAjaxAgentAjaxBrisbane, Queensland Australia81 Threads 1 Polls 3,965 Posts
AgentAjaxBrisbane, Queensland Australia3,965 posts
Lookin4missright: I have a friend that jmo is over whelmed by the passing of a loved one, and hope you can help with whatever you have experienced, that have got /or is getting you through it

thanks
Don’t know looking different things work for different people. Some like to be surrounded by friends and some left alone.
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#7
Oct 21, 2013 3:33 AM CST How do you handle grief?
Glitch101
Glitch101Glitch101London, Greater London, England UK21 Threads 1,079 Posts
Glitch101London, Greater London, England UK1,079 posts
Lookin4missright: I have a friend that jmo is over whelmed by the passing of a loved one, and hope you can help with whatever you have experienced, that have got /or is getting you through it

thanks


Hello you.wave

So sorry to hear that your friend is finding it difficult to cope. This unfortunately is normal when we lose a loved one,and we have to go through the grieving process,which for some is extremely painful.

Having supportive friends is a wonderful thing ,but sometimes the bereaved person may need some counselling to help them over this loss. You have this organisation in Australia so I'm sending you a link that you can pass on to your friend for them to peruse.

http://www.grief.org.au/grief_and_bereavement_support/understanding_grief/about_grief


We all deal with emotional pain in a different way. Hope your friend finds comfort soon.sad flower
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#8
Oct 21, 2013 3:59 AM CST How do you handle grief?
wash2u
wash2uwash2uMelbourne, Victoria Australia79 Threads 1 Polls 3,768 Posts
wash2uMelbourne, Victoria Australia3,768 posts
AgentAjax: Don’t know looking different things work for different people. Some like to be surrounded by friends and some left alone.


What he said.
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#9
Oct 21, 2013 4:14 AM CST How do you handle grief?
justjim63
justjim63justjim63port macquarie, New South Wales Australia14 Threads 2,592 Posts
justjim63port macquarie, New South Wales Australia2,592 posts
serene56: A tough one lookin, the grieving process is different for everyone as they say and I'm not sure there is much I personally can offer in the way of advice.

I guess just to say that your friend needs to know that the feelings they have are perfectly natural, and it's ok to want to curl up in a corner alone at times and lick their wounds

Some people are hit so hard it can be months before they can see beyond that awful blackness that surrounds them and blocks the rest of the world out..

Having said that, each death we experience is different..

Your friend is lucky to have you around lookin, support is essential at times like this, someone to just be there

Maybe as a friend, just keep an eye on the possibility of long-term grief becoming depression..

All the best to your friend, I hope the sun shines for them again soon


Having suffered quite severe grief after losing my little boy I've got to say that is one of the best explanations I've heard on how to deal with someone who is grieving, really well put Serene, awesome.
hug wine
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#10
Oct 21, 2013 4:28 AM CST How do you handle grief?
Girljuice
GirljuiceGirljuiceScottsdale, Arizona USA31 Threads 7 Polls 478 Posts
GirljuiceScottsdale, Arizona USA478 posts
Lookin4missright: I have a friend that jmo is over whelmed by the passing of a loved one, and hope you can help with whatever you have experienced, that have got /or is getting you through it

thanks


I'm sorry your friend is having a hard time. The only thing you can do is be a shoulder for him/,her to cry on when he needs you, be a good listener and reassure him that things will be okay and maybe you could mention that time heals all pain.

I'm not sure if that's good advice or not, but I hope it is and hope it helps.sad flower
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#11
Oct 21, 2013 4:33 AM CST How do you handle grief?
Girljuice
GirljuiceGirljuiceScottsdale, Arizona USA31 Threads 7 Polls 478 Posts
GirljuiceScottsdale, Arizona USA478 posts
justjim63: Having suffered quite severe grief after losing my little boy I've got to say that is one of the best explanations I've heard on how to deal with someone who is grieving, really well put Serene, awesome.


I'm truly sorry to hear you lost your son. How incredibly difficult this is. My heart pours out to you and your family. I hope you have found the strength to cope.

Best wishes to you and your family.sad flower
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#12
Oct 21, 2013 4:39 AM CST How do you handle grief?
justjim63
justjim63justjim63port macquarie, New South Wales Australia14 Threads 2,592 Posts
justjim63port macquarie, New South Wales Australia2,592 posts
Girljuice: I'm truly sorry to hear you lost your son. How incredibly difficult this is. My heart pours out to you and your family. I hope you have found the strength to cope.

Best wishes to you and your family.


Thanks GJ, He had a brain tumour, was 3 1/2 still miss him so much that it aches.hug angel
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#13
Oct 21, 2013 4:45 AM CST How do you handle grief?
Girljuice
GirljuiceGirljuiceScottsdale, Arizona USA31 Threads 7 Polls 478 Posts
GirljuiceScottsdale, Arizona USA478 posts
justjim63: Thanks GJ, He had a brain tumour, was 3 1/2 still miss him so much that it aches.


That is tragic. My heart wants to wrap around yours and your family's. I will always keep you and him in my thoughts.hug
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#14
Oct 21, 2013 4:47 AM CST How do you handle grief?
Lookin4missright
Lookin4missrightLookin4missrightmelbourne, Victoria Australia400 Threads 24,032 Posts
Lookin4missrightOPmelbourne, Victoria Australia24,032 posts
justjim63: Thanks GJ, He had a brain tumour, was 3 1/2 still miss him so much that it aches.




Farkin so sorry Mr Jimbob hug I wish i had'nt started this thread doh i thought i was helping somebody with there grief blues

So sorry bout your boy.......... gift <--- scaletrix car set . crying sorry bit sad hug comfort handshake cheers teddybear


sorry again Jim
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#15
Oct 21, 2013 4:58 AM CST How do you handle grief?
Girljuice
GirljuiceGirljuiceScottsdale, Arizona USA31 Threads 7 Polls 478 Posts
GirljuiceScottsdale, Arizona USA478 posts
I think it's therapeutic for some to talk about it.sad flower
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#16
Oct 21, 2013 5:07 AM CST How do you handle grief?
jem1964
jem1964jem1964Foothills of Dandenongs, Victoria Australia30 Threads 1 Polls 2,441 Posts
jem1964Foothills of Dandenongs, Victoria Australia2,441 posts
justjim63: Thanks GJ, He had a brain tumour, was 3 1/2 still miss him so much that it aches.


So glad you had Ben in your life Jim, even if it was for too short a time hug

Lookin, just be there for your friend, let them rabbit on about their loved one if they want, or just let them talk about anything, sometimes just to be there in silence is enough so they dont feel alone. But most of all just be there for them.
They will be happy to have someone who cares thumbs up
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#17
Oct 21, 2013 7:01 AM CST How do you handle grief?
justjim63
justjim63justjim63port macquarie, New South Wales Australia14 Threads 2,592 Posts
justjim63port macquarie, New South Wales Australia2,592 posts
jem1964: So glad you had Ben in your life Jim, even if it was for too short a time

Lookin, just be there for your friend, let them rabbit on about their loved one if they want, or just let them talk about anything, sometimes just to be there in silence is enough so they dont feel alone. But most of all just be there for them.
They will be happy to have someone who cares


Thankyou Jem.hug bouquet
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#18
Oct 21, 2013 2:47 PM CST How do you handle grief?
LiLee
LiLeeLiLeeIpswich, Queensland Australia53 Threads 1,760 Posts
LiLeeIpswich, Queensland Australia1,760 posts
justjim63: Thankyou Jem.


Condolences to you Jim sad flower I can't imagine how you felt and will always feel about the loss of your little boy. But I can empathise that it must have been the most difficult experience of your life hug

I have not had much experience with loosing a close loved one to death in my life. I was too young when my grandparents passed away. The first experience was loosing my mum recently. We did live a far way away from each other and were not in each others day to day life. She was still my mum. Not sure if that made a difference or not but I was surprised at the intensity of emotion I felt when the time came. Shock was the first thing I felt and then fell into organise mode with organising the funeral, clearing out her things and hosting the extended family and reminising. It wasn't until I returned to my home that the reality sank in.

I noticed how the world carried on and felt the insignificance of one life in the grand scheme of humanity and that made me sad. I was glad she had her family around her at the end. It was a very humbling experience and changes you in some deep way that I cannot explain.

I'm one who wants to be left alone to deal with it, but I did appreciate the kind words and acknowledgement from my friends and work colleagues and even people on here.

Be guided by your friend.....be there for them.....watch them and be ready to provide them with what they need when they need it. hug

Everyone needs to tell the ones they love that they love them everyday. That is so important in this fickle world. teddybear
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#19
Oct 21, 2013 4:44 PM CST How do you handle grief?
serene56online today!
serene56online today!serene56Myplace, New South Wales Australia543 Threads 10 Polls 27,957 Posts
serene56Myplace, New South Wales Australia27,957 posts
justjim63: Having suffered quite severe grief after losing my little boy I've got to say that is one of the best explanations I've heard on how to deal with someone who is grieving, really well put Serene, awesome.


Jim, I have no words to express my sympathy about your little boy except to say I am so sorry to hear this rose

Thanks for your comment, I hope you are planning to come back soon wine
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#20
Oct 21, 2013 5:48 PM CST How do you handle grief?
Nature123
Nature123Nature123Australia, Queensland Australia68 Threads 2 Polls 739 Posts
Nature123Australia, Queensland Australia739 posts
Hi all,
Sorry to hear about your son Jim,so sad,
The passing of loved ones is ,I think is the hardest thing I have had to deal with.

On my 18th birthday I had the funeral of my first boyfriend,

Then my daughter passed in my thirties,

My mum passed when I was in my thirties,
Relatives have passed
Friends have passed away,

Then 12 mths ago a little 2 year passed from a life time illness,he was like a grandson to me,he funeral was also on my birthday,

And you know all the grief was different,

My daughters death still has an impact on my life,she would have been 21 last Monday,

Death is a hard think to deal with,some people just need to know you are there,
Some times there is nothing any one can do,they just need time,

Looking,just be there for this person,and I am sure you will feel in your heart what is the right thing to say and do,


Love you all,

teddybear teddybear sad flower teddybear
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