Anxiety (63)
LiLee: okay, i'll admit I get anxious in new relationships. Always thinking the wheels will fall off any minute now and know this can ruin things before they can begin.
Who else does this happen to and what can be done to RELAX and enjoy the moment????
Who else does this happen to and what can be done to RELAX and enjoy the moment????
Hi LiLee
I'm wondering whether suspending expectations could be the answer .. just enjoy the excitement and lovely feelings that come with the early stages of getting to know someone
serene56: Hi LiLee
I'm wondering whether suspending expectations could be the answer .. just enjoy the excitement and lovely feelings that come with the early stages of getting to know someone
I'm wondering whether suspending expectations could be the answer .. just enjoy the excitement and lovely feelings that come with the early stages of getting to know someone
True Serene
LiLee: okay, i'll admit I get anxious in new relationships. Always thinking the wheels will fall off any minute now and know this can ruin things before they can begin.
Who else does this happen to and what can be done to RELAX and enjoy the moment????
lend Gold $10000 bride price may help get over anxiety . More so if the dosh is needed .Who else does this happen to and what can be done to RELAX and enjoy the moment????
LiLee: okay, i'll admit I get anxious in new relationships. Always thinking the wheels will fall off any minute now and know this can ruin things before they can begin.
Who else does this happen to and what can be done to RELAX and enjoy the moment????
Who else does this happen to and what can be done to RELAX and enjoy the moment????
Well that's me out of this thread
I get anxious in any r/ship
.... 2 mins on 
.. be good one day if a nice (non cyber)lady could fall in love with me 
LiLee: True Serene
I put up a thread about liking the idea of having a 'companion' on the Inters, someone to go out with from time to time
and while many got that idea, just as many, if not more, did not.In it, I suggested that the idea would be to proceed without expectation, purely enjoying each others' company rather than each being home alone on a regular basis.
Some took it as a FB relationship, others dismissed it by saying they were more or less looking for a 'happy ever after' which to me is short-sighted and possibly unrealistic.
Just seize the moment and enjoy it, life is right now at this minute.
serene56: I put up a thread about liking the idea of having a 'companion' on the Inters, someone to go out with from time to time and while many got that idea, just as many, if not more, did not.
In it, I suggested that the idea would be to proceed without expectation, purely enjoying each others' company rather than each being home alone on a regular basis.
Some took it as a FB relationship, others dismissed it by saying they were more or less looking for a 'happy ever after' which to me is short-sighted and possibly unrealistic.
Just seize the moment and enjoy it, life is right now at this minute.
one knows bloody well what it means but asked though.In it, I suggested that the idea would be to proceed without expectation, purely enjoying each others' company rather than each being home alone on a regular basis.
Some took it as a FB relationship, others dismissed it by saying they were more or less looking for a 'happy ever after' which to me is short-sighted and possibly unrealistic.
Just seize the moment and enjoy it, life is right now at this minute.
serene56: I put up a thread about liking the idea of having a 'companion' on the Inters, someone to go out with from time to time and while many got that idea, just as many, if not more, did not.
In it, I suggested that the idea would be to proceed without expectation, purely enjoying each others' company rather than each being home alone on a regular basis.
Some took it as a FB relationship, others dismissed it by saying they were more or less looking for a 'happy ever after' which to me is short-sighted and possibly unrealistic.
Just seize the moment and enjoy it, life is right now at this minute.
In it, I suggested that the idea would be to proceed without expectation, purely enjoying each others' company rather than each being home alone on a regular basis.
Some took it as a FB relationship, others dismissed it by saying they were more or less looking for a 'happy ever after' which to me is short-sighted and possibly unrealistic.
Just seize the moment and enjoy it, life is right now at this minute.
Its interesting when you look back at all the people you meet that might turn into a potential relationship.
Attitude can be so different from one to the other. Some you can take or leave, some knock your socks off.
Funny thing is you have no control over how you feel. Well maybe that's just me.
Would love to solve the mystery or at least gain some control over anxiety when it strikes.
Asking for what you want up front could be the way to go Serene.
LiLee: Its interesting when you look back at all the people you meet that might turn into a potential relationship.
Attitude can be so different from one to the other. Some you can take or leave, some knock your socks off.
Funny thing is you have no control over how you feel. Well maybe that's just me.
Would love to solve the mystery or at least gain some control over anxiety when it strikes.
Asking for what you want up front could be the way to go Serene.
Attitude can be so different from one to the other. Some you can take or leave, some knock your socks off.
Funny thing is you have no control over how you feel. Well maybe that's just me.
Would love to solve the mystery or at least gain some control over anxiety when it strikes.
Asking for what you want up front could be the way to go Serene.
I just feel people can tend to put a lot of pressure on themselves and possibly the other party when it comes to two people getting together
If something develops from companionship, that's great
But to me, being open-minded and having an adult approach to the getting together thing is possibly more conducive to each person enjoying themselves, especially when they are no longer 21
serene56: I just feel people can tend to put a lot of pressure on themselves and possibly the other party when it comes to two people getting together
If something develops from companionship, that's great
But to me, being open-minded and having an adult approach to the getting together thing is possibly more conducive to each person enjoying themselves, especially when they are no longer 21
If something develops from companionship, that's great
But to me, being open-minded and having an adult approach to the getting together thing is possibly more conducive to each person enjoying themselves, especially when they are no longer 21
Thanks for your thoughts Serene. I agree every experience is a bonus and remembering that you will be okay no matter what the outcome helps me and that's only come from experience of getting back up after being knocked down a few times or more.
LiLee: Thanks for your thoughts Serene. I agree every experience is a bonus and remembering that you will be okay no matter what the outcome helps me and that's only come from experience of getting back up after being knocked down a few times or more.
So that's where the anxiety stems from perhaps, being worried about getting hurt again
serene56: So that's where the anxiety stems from perhaps, being worried about getting hurt again
perhaps
But can't run from the past, only hope to not let it affect the future
LiLee: perhaps
But can't run from the past, only hope to not let it affect the future
But can't run from the past, only hope to not let it affect the future
I recently read a fragment of poetry written by Sappho, a Greek poet from ancient times and it simply said
'You burn me'
The passion in those words, to me, say everything about taking risks, taking the leap and loving to the full
serene56: I recently read a fragment of poetry written by Sappho, a Greek poet from ancient times and it simply said
'You burn me'
The passion in those words, to me, say everything about taking risks, taking the leap and loving to the full
'You burn me'
The passion in those words, to me, say everything about taking risks, taking the leap and loving to the full
Oh Serene, I love it .
I've always been one to jump right in and to hell with the consequences. Love living my life that way, except I scare myself to death sometimes, but hey, you only live once. Must be an air sign thing......
Live, laugh, love
LiLee: Oh Serene, I love it .
I've always been one to jump right in and to hell with the consequences. Love living my life that way, except I scare myself to death sometimes, but hey, you only live once. Must be an air sign thing......
Live, laugh, love
I've always been one to jump right in and to hell with the consequences. Love living my life that way, except I scare myself to death sometimes, but hey, you only live once. Must be an air sign thing......
Live, laugh, love
serene56:
Some took it as a FB relationship, others dismissed it by saying they were more or less looking for a 'happy ever after' which to me is short-sighted and possibly unrealistic.
Some took it as a FB relationship, others dismissed it by saying they were more or less looking for a 'happy ever after' which to me is short-sighted and possibly unrealistic.
I do get what you want and looking around, I see that a good few people who tried the forever thing before are looking for something similar.
Life is short and I think each to their own and just do what makes you happy and don't give a toss what others think - but if you want to ask others to "get you", you have to accept that others are looking for the "happy ever after" thing.
I do know myself that this is fairly unrealistic, but it doesn't change that this is what I would want.
LiLee: okay, i'll admit I get anxious in new relationships. Always thinking the wheels will fall off any minute now and know this can ruin things before they can begin.
Who else does this happen to and what can be done to RELAX and enjoy the moment????
Who else does this happen to and what can be done to RELAX and enjoy the moment????
Hi LiLee,
I was very happy and relaxed in my last long-term relationship. That obviously changed, and I just find it hard to meet someone, take the time to get to know someone, trying to get comfortable with someone...I just can't be arsed about it anymore tbh as it has been (apart from one exception) a waste of time.
I'm happy right now with my life, have a lot going on, socialising a lot and meeting a lot of people in the process and that is all I want at the moment. How it worked for me in the past, if you meet someone who is special to you, all of the above doesn't apply and you just enjoy spending time with that someone.
Trust 
KNenagh: I got that as well serene. I just can't understand why people just can't accept that there is more than 1 way and it is basically no one else's business what other people do as long as it's 2 consenting adults.
I had a great himself in the past and I would like to have that again, but I do know that no one is perfect and that the forever part is unlikely.
I had a great himself in the past and I would like to have that again, but I do know that no one is perfect and that the forever part is unlikely.
Narrow-mindedness is a universal phenomena eh
KNenagh: I got that as well serene. I just can't understand why people just can't accept that there is more than 1 way and it is basically no one else's business what other people do as long as it's 2 consenting adults.
I had a great himself in the past and I would like to have that again, but I do know that no one is perfect and that the forever part is unlikely.
I had a great himself in the past and I would like to have that again, but I do know that no one is perfect and that the forever part is unlikely.
Similar except it was "herself." Okay, enough to get married again believing it was the "forever" stuff. And another long-term which should have been okay except for "I want to get married again" ..... "I did not want to attend your daughter's wedding" ..."you are too close to your daughter."
Coming from a woman who has a daughter controlling her life.
I have things I like to do which I am happy to share with someone but not willing to give those things up because they mean a lot to me. Happy to give up on some things...such as golf, bowls, surfing, running
don't do those anyway
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Who else does this happen to and what can be done to RELAX and enjoy the moment????