Has to be done, tips on being a Mother in Law.. (61)

Yes, I am about to be one. I like the lad, nice he is. I know they sleep together, they do here, try keeping a 23 year old out of her room it was not going to work.

I knew he wanted to marry her, he told me last year, when she sleepily walked onto my balcony and snuggled up on his lap and he brushed her hair, while she snored curled up like only my child can, he pointed to her and mouthed to me, he was going to marry her. I took it lightly, (thinking, I wonder if he has said this to her father)

Now, I have a vicar chasing me, to go to the bans, dates to be set, a venue to be decided on, a damn bloody wedding where I am to be taken the piss out of by yes, my son in law to be...

So, in keeping with tradition, he has to buy me a present and I want a new cat.

And he has to be nice to me, very nice. Yes? As her boyfriend, I could say things to him, now I am to step over that threshold to MIL. Does this mean I have to have a Woman's Own haircut and wear elasticated waist skirts?

The whole thing is giving me the heebie jeebies...

You only have to be you..........

Humour aside Ginger, I know this and I think you know this.

I am actually thrilled to bits, he is a super young man and adores her. Four years older than her, which sort of seems alot at that age, but I can see what this young man is about. Steady as a train and I completely trust him to take care of my precious one...

How are you feeling about your new daughter in law?

I haven't met her yet since she lives in Kiev. She is Ukranian. they will marry in Croatia. My son met her on a conference he was on, to do with computers. She works for Google. She also has a degree in psychology as well as a business degree. He is a systems anylist and works as a systems engineer from time to time too and is a specialist programmer for Sky. They have much in common.

They have spent as much time together as they could over the last year, and finally about a month ago, he decided to move there permanently. Her family adore him and he really gets on with them too.

Her pictures are wonderful. She is 4 years his junior. My daughters, (same age roughly), talk to her from time to time as they are all close, and they say she is a beautiful person, and very much in love with him. He is very happy. He adores her, so much so that he made the ring she will wear. He bought the platignum and actually made it, and designed and engraved it himself.

She is from a lovely family and they are decent people whom I am looking forward to meeting in the next couple of months when I visit there. Because of EU regulations, it is very difficult for them to visit here. Too much red tape for a whole family to come here, so easier to go there.

My daughter in Spain will be getting married some time next year too. She recons next summer at a festival here that she works at each year. Apparantly they have a bouncy-castly church there and she can wear her flowery wellies. She has always been my little hippy. Her and her boyfriend are both artists and teachers and musicians. They have been in a permanent state of "first love" for the last two years now...

Beautiful Ginger, wow, Croatia. I want to go there, as you know it is the Captain's homeland and it looks beautiful,should be easy for me to get to as it borders Austria.

How lovely about your daughter and her wellies... What a lovely warm thought with flowers on...

And what a beautiful thing to have a ring made by the man one loves, wow, amazing...

Not opening Ven???? Looks like I will have to have a whole new wardrobe...

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