bet none of you can tell us who or what really shaped you into being the person you are today & why (39)
saseez: so true gilly ....
its also very hard to explain to other people what you loved about the person that died without sometimes offending the person you might be telling... because they might not have the same qualities about them ?
gillyloves69: its also very hard to explain to other people what you loved about the person that died without sometimes offending the person you might be telling... because they might not have the same qualities about them ?
i guess that could be the case but the one yuo have lost is just as important so never stop speaking about them...... and its up to the other person to deal with that i think ...
All i can say gilly ...with grief no one can tell you whats right or wrong you have to do what helps you .... if you can talk to this guy and you feel comfortable and it helps you cope with your loss just go with it ..but just because he maybe a bad influence dosnt mean you have to let him influence you ....
but its so hard to find someone to talk to who understands how you feel when your grieving, so i do understand your need for this.....just stick to your morals and dont go doing anything you will regret later ....
feeling for you gilly
but its so hard to find someone to talk to who understands how you feel when your grieving, so i do understand your need for this.....just stick to your morals and dont go doing anything you will regret later ....
feeling for you gilly
saseez: All i can say gilly ...with grief no one can tell you whats right or wrong you have to do what helps you .... if you can talk to this guy and you feel comfortable and it helps you cope with your loss just go with it ..but just because he maybe a bad influence dosnt mean you have to let him influence you ....
but its so hard to find someone to talk to who understands how you feel when your grieving, so i do understand your need for this.....just stick to your morals and dont go doing anything you will regret later ....
feeling for you gilly
but its so hard to find someone to talk to who understands how you feel when your grieving, so i do understand your need for this.....just stick to your morals and dont go doing anything you will regret later ....
feeling for you gilly
i feel for you too because i've never lost a child
how do you cope with your lost ? so far mine is a delayed reaction...and what makes it worse....anyway lets talk about you more than me ?
gillyloves69: i feel for you too because i've never lost a child
how do you cope with your lost ? so far mine is a delayed reaction...and what makes it worse....anyway lets talk about you more than me ?
how do you cope with your lost ? so far mine is a delayed reaction...and what makes it worse....anyway lets talk about you more than me ?
no gilly talk abot you if you want ..
um how do i cope ..its been a yr and still have tears every day but can smile again now and im out of the black hole i was in at first... i cope by taking one day at a time gilly ..thats all i can do .....some days are ok some are still bad .... i lost my daughter and my best friend all mixed in one ... we were so alike in personality we knew what each other was thinking and going to do ... its lucky we have strength more than we ever thought we could have ...to get through a trauma like that ........ but the hardest thing for me is getting over having to identify her..and the police knocking on my door telling me my daughter had died ...
Phoenix: bet none of you can tell us who or what really shaped you into being the person you are today & why
Thats the Q. you asked on your thread gilly...In two words 'The Troubles'
Thats the Q. you asked on your thread gilly...In two words 'The Troubles'
Troubles and Strife - and more than one ex wife
saseez: no gilly talk abot you if you want ..
um how do i cope ..its been a yr and still have tears every day but can smile again now and im out of the black hole i was in at first... i cope by taking one day at a time gilly ..thats all i can do .....some days are ok some are still bad .... i lost my daughter and my best friend all mixed in one ... we were so alike in personality we knew what each other was thinking and going to do ... its lucky we have strength more than we ever thought we could have ...to get through a trauma like that ........ but the hardest thing for me is getting over having to identify her..and the police knocking on my door telling me my daughter had died ...
um how do i cope ..its been a yr and still have tears every day but can smile again now and im out of the black hole i was in at first... i cope by taking one day at a time gilly ..thats all i can do .....some days are ok some are still bad .... i lost my daughter and my best friend all mixed in one ... we were so alike in personality we knew what each other was thinking and going to do ... its lucky we have strength more than we ever thought we could have ...to get through a trauma like that ........ but the hardest thing for me is getting over having to identify her..and the police knocking on my door telling me my daughter had died ...
So sorry - not a nice thing to maybe discuss in a public forum, so you are one brave lady!
There's me crying over losing the woman I loved more than all the others put together and it's NOTHING compared to your loss.
You make me feel ashamed of myself.
saseez: no gilly talk abot you if you want ..
um how do i cope ..its been a yr and still have tears every day but can smile again now and im out of the black hole i was in at first... i cope by taking one day at a time gilly ..thats all i can do .....some days are ok some are still bad .... i lost my daughter and my best friend all mixed in one ... we were so alike in personality we knew what each other was thinking and going to do ... its lucky we have strength more than we ever thought we could have ...to get through a trauma like that ........ but the hardest thing for me is getting over having to identify her..and the police knocking on my door telling me my daughter had died ...
um how do i cope ..its been a yr and still have tears every day but can smile again now and im out of the black hole i was in at first... i cope by taking one day at a time gilly ..thats all i can do .....some days are ok some are still bad .... i lost my daughter and my best friend all mixed in one ... we were so alike in personality we knew what each other was thinking and going to do ... its lucky we have strength more than we ever thought we could have ...to get through a trauma like that ........ but the hardest thing for me is getting over having to identify her..and the police knocking on my door telling me my daughter had died ...
talk you another time love !
RobertC2: So sorry - not a nice thing to maybe discuss in a public forum, so you are one brave lady!
There's me crying over losing the woman I loved more than all the others put together and it's NOTHING compared to your loss.
You make me feel ashamed of myself.
robert everbody,s loss is important to them so dont feel like that .... everyoone has diffrent trials in life but none more meaningful than another ...... There's me crying over losing the woman I loved more than all the others put together and it's NOTHING compared to your loss.
You make me feel ashamed of myself.
i did have a few counceling sessions but it seemed to make it worse as the days i had the apponments i got up in the morning feeling good but afer the session felt crap again so i let it go .but di gain a few helpful points to get through it all a bit better ....
i buried her ....
i buried her ....
gillu i think thats enough questions on that subject for the thread now..... 
i hope what i have said might help someone else realize there not alone as when this has happend to you thats all you feel is alone .......
i hope what i have said might help someone else realize there not alone as when this has happend to you thats all you feel is alone ....... Other people did...
saseez: gillu i think thats enough questions on that subject for the thread now..... i hope what i have said might help someone else realize there not alone as when this has happend to you thats all you feel is alone .......
if you ever fancy i chat about it all you can call me anytime on skype love !
i'm going to see the movie ' the time travelers wife ' in the west end of london tommorow evening
you ever been to the west end to see a film or stage show ?
na gilly i havt been .. i have heard it fantasitic though
saseez: na gilly i havt been .. i have heard it fantasitic though
ere still lots to talk about ..but just to let you know that i've just started a thread called ' i bet one of you have changed in the last 10 years & and even if you have could'nt tell us the reason why ' on the international forums
In response to: this is a thread for people that love openly talking about THEMSELVES
and the things that's happened to them in THEIR LIVES
that's helped changed THE WAY THAT THEY ARE NOW
not for people that want to that just want to bore us and say that nothings changed about them at all... and that they are still the same person
we can all easily say that...but then they'll be nothing worth talking about ( as usual with those people ) !
we can also all easily go onto threads and start to bother other people that even don't bother us
but most of us don't.. because we prefer to spend time talking to people that we enjoy talking to
instead of going onto threads created by people that don't bother us
anyway for those people that " really want to talk "
1. have you finally settled down within yourself and decided what type of person you want to go through the rest of your being yet ?
2. was that an easy decision to make ?
3. how have you changed in the past 10 years ?
4. have you thought about the type of life you really want to live for the next 10 years ?
5. can you ever see yourself changing as a person again ?
Gilly, you see, I change every day, every hour and every minute. Experiences, facts and a bad stomach can make me change/make up my mind in an instant as well as add something not already there.
The answer to what made me me is other people and life in general.
To point out one single occurrence would be to underestimate the importance of all other events.
I have let one thing inspire me more than other, but most people do. A choice, something we took a liking too early in life often becomes the tune that sets the song we will try to play.
The answer to what made me me is other people and life in general.
To point out one single occurrence would be to underestimate the importance of all other events.
I have let one thing inspire me more than other, but most people do. A choice, something we took a liking too early in life often becomes the tune that sets the song we will try to play.
mike69spain: Gilly, you see, I change every day, every hour and every minute. Experiences, facts and a bad stomach can make me change/make up my mind in an instant as well as add something not already there.
The answer to what made me me is other people and life in general.
To point out one single occurrence would be to underestimate the importance of all other events.
I have let one thing inspire me more than other, but most people do. A choice, something we took a liking too early in life often becomes the tune that sets the song we will try to play.
The answer to what made me me is other people and life in general.
To point out one single occurrence would be to underestimate the importance of all other events.
I have let one thing inspire me more than other, but most people do. A choice, something we took a liking too early in life often becomes the tune that sets the song we will try to play.
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its also very hard to explain to other people what you loved about the person that died without sometimes offending the person you might be telling... because they might not have the same qualities about them ?