Ex Factor (12)

Nope. It's not your business. You are divorced now so let it go... she is history and whatever she does, it's nothing to do with you.

I presume that the man she's marrying isn't your best mate or your brother? Nope? So it's doubly none of your business.

You have to move on...

Lol. Not Frigid!
Just great at covering up her Motel Ceiling Inspections!

But this bloke is an innocent. One wife who died. Thinks my Ex is so special?
Guess it isn't my business. Let him endure what I did.

People have right to make their own mistakes, it’s called “life”. However your ex and her current man would have it, it’s their business.

By the way, do you think that following your ex is sound?

You have no reason to bother what she does or with whom any longer. If you tell him he will most likely not listen to you anyway, all you achieve is to dig deeper into the self-pity-bit for once being 'fooled'.

It's over, gone, buried and decomposed, it's not your life.

More interesting question is... Will you now expect a future date to have the same "motel ceiling inspection skills" ?

E.g. will you trust again? Did you yet grow stronger?

All True. Thanks for genuine insights. Yes Ithink I'm still a bit too involved. Not following her just told too much!
Will let it go.
Sincere thanks to you all.

I trust till betrayed. Seems the only decent way to be.
But all other comments very true. Thanks.

He wouldn't listen even if you did say something. She would tell him you were jealous or just trying to spoil their relationship.

It's an unfortunate lesson he might have to learn on his own. Maybe though she will not treat him the way she has treated men in the past.

Leave well alone and wish him luck....he's probably going to need it.

We’ve talked about internet “stalkers” and how unpleasant it is to be followed through the cyberspace, but it’s more unpleasant in the real life. I know because my both exes tried that. A divorce leaves a lot of negative feelings, it means that two people, that had plans and dreams about their family (and otherwise why they got married in the first place) failed. Of course it leaves a sense of bitterness and disappointment, and of course it takes time to recover.

People don’t like to fail, so we prefer blame someone else for the failure, and who is there better to blame than one’s ex? Especially when the said ex isn’t here and cannot object. It’s a very easy way. But where does it lead? Back to bitterness and disappointment. And it’s only you who can decide for how long you’ll go in circles.

“Time spent on getting even, could have been spent on getting ahead” (q)

Hi Danny,
It sounds as though some people in your life derive a perverse satisfaction from telling you things about your ex....... maybe because they can see it still winds you up, and to agree I can understand that, but the best course of action is to let these people know that you do not want to hear it.

Just tell them, that you are happy she is out of your life and that now some poor other sobb has to deal with it/her.
That you wish all the best for her, are moving on with your own life and really have no interest in what she is doing.

Best of luck with moving on