Lets Be Friends (41)

May 23, 2010 6:00 PM CST Lets Be Friends
Danny48
Danny48Danny48Limoges, Nouvelle-Aquitaine France26 Threads 207 Posts
Can you be friends with a woman you have fallen for completely who has rejected you as a lover?

I have met my dream woman. We met several times and got on very well. But she is still in love with her Ex.
When rejected I said I'd vanish. She very warmly asked if we could be friends? Why?
Do I have hope?
May 24, 2010 12:55 AM CST Lets Be Friends
Phoenix
PhoenixPhoenixSarkoville, Ile-de-France France110 Threads 32 Polls 2,591 Posts
Danny48: Can you be friends with a woman you have fallen for completely who has rejected you as a lover?



I have met my dream woman. We met several times and got on very well. But she is still in love with her Ex.
When rejected I said I'd vanish. She very warmly asked if we could be friends? Why?
Do I have hope?

You've very little hope of getting her back because when she's with you, she's thinking about someone else...You've already admitted she's still in love with her 'Ex'..Bottom line is when you both are having breakfast...she'll every now and then (probably more than she let's on)..secretly wishes it was someone else looking at her across the table.

As for remaining friends anything is possible..But you'll have to keep this in the space between your ear's..She wants to be friends with out benefit's...Thing is everytime you see her you'll hope she'll change her mind and go off with you.. And from the very little you've said..I doubt she will..(JMO)
May 24, 2010 6:56 AM CST Lets Be Friends
Lillym
LillymLillymSliema, Majjistral Malta33 Threads 3,391 Posts
Phoenix: I have met my dream woman. We met several times and got on very well. But she is still in love with her Ex.
When rejected I said I'd vanish. She very warmly asked if we could be friends? Why?
Do I have hope?

You've very little hope of getting her back because when she's with you, she's thinking about someone else...You've already admitted she's still in love with her 'Ex'..Bottom line is when you both are having breakfast...she'll every now and then (probably more than she let's on)..secretly wishes it was someone else looking at her across the table.

As for remaining friends anything is possible..But you'll have to keep this in the space between your ear's..She wants to be friends with out benefit's...Thing is everytime you see her you'll hope she'll change her mind and go off with you.. And from the very little you've said..I doubt she will..(JMO)


Guess what.... I agree with what he ^^^^^^^ said !!!!
May 24, 2010 8:11 AM CST Lets Be Friends
Phoenix: I have met my dream woman. We met several times and got on very well. But she is still in love with her Ex.
When rejected I said I'd vanish. She very warmly asked if we could be friends? Why?
Do I have hope?

You've very little hope of getting her back because when she's with you, she's thinking about someone else...You've already admitted she's still in love with her 'Ex'..Bottom line is when you both are having breakfast...she'll every now and then (probably more than she let's on)..secretly wishes it was someone else looking at her across the table.

As for remaining friends anything is possible..But you'll have to keep this in the space between your ear's..She wants to be friends with out benefit's...Thing is everytime you see her you'll hope she'll change her mind and go off with you.. And from the very little you've said..I doubt she will..(JMO)
Absolutely untenable Situation!professor uh oh
May 25, 2010 3:26 AM CST Lets Be Friends
makis822
makis822makis822nicosia, Nicosia Cyprus1 Threads 89 Posts
Danny48: Can you be friends with a woman you have fallen for completely who has rejected you as a lover?

I have met my dream woman. We met several times and got on very well. But she is still in love with her Ex.
When rejected I said I'd vanish. She very warmly asked if we could be friends? Why?
Do I have hope?


Women is like the shadow..

When you walk towards them, you can't catch them..
and when you walk away, they follow you !!!!!cheers cheers handshake
May 25, 2010 3:32 AM CST Lets Be Friends
makis822
makis822makis822nicosia, Nicosia Cyprus1 Threads 89 Posts
Danny48: Can you be friends with a woman you have fallen for completely who has rejected you as a lover?

I have met my dream woman. We met several times and got on very well. But she is still in love with her Ex.
When rejected I said I'd vanish. She very warmly asked if we could be friends? Why?
Do I have hope?


Make her believe that you have also a relation whith another woman, or that these days you met a woman quite interesting etc..
Tell it to her, as a friend she asks you to be...

SEE HER REACTIONS...!!!handshake

Then you will know.. !!!

be prepared for everything...!!!
May 25, 2010 10:49 AM CST Lets Be Friends
smoky
smokysmokyUnterland, Zurich Switzerland266 Threads 6 Polls 9,412 Posts
makis822: Make her believe that you have also a relation whith another woman, or that these days you met a woman quite interesting etc..
Tell it to her, as a friend she asks you to be...

SEE HER REACTIONS...!!!

Then you will know.. !!!

be prepared for everything...!!!
Hahaha .... YES! Very good idea. Do try it?! See if she also REALLY wants to be your friend then ........?
May 25, 2010 10:55 AM CST Lets Be Friends
makis822: Make her believe that you have also a relation whith another woman, or that these days you met a woman quite interesting etc..
Tell it to her, as a friend she asks you to be...

SEE HER REACTIONS...!!!

Then you will know.. !!!

be prepared for everything...!!!
Better don that Steel-Helmet and Kevlar-Vest!rolling on the floor laughing
May 25, 2010 12:24 PM CST Lets Be Friends
tomboygirl
tomboygirltomboygirllarnaca, Larnaca Cyprus3 Threads 1,555 Posts
makis822: Make her believe that you have also a relation whith another woman, or that these days you met a woman quite interesting etc..
Tell it to her, as a friend she asks you to be...

SEE HER REACTIONS...!!!

Then you will know.. !!!

be prepared for everything...!!!


be carefull cos if she see's right through you-you will look like an idiot!
May 25, 2010 1:19 PM CST Lets Be Friends
Mazza1970
Mazza1970Mazza1970Lemesos, Limassol Cyprus1 Threads 626 Posts
if it works great, if it dont, dust yourself off and move on peace
May 25, 2010 2:08 PM CST Lets Be Friends
Maisie
MaisieMaisielarnaca, Larnaca Cyprus4 Threads 616 Posts
Let's be honest here - if she sees you as a friend she sure don't see you as a lover. Enjoy her friendship by all means but look for someone who sees you in a differnt light.
May 25, 2010 2:55 PM CST Lets Be Friends
Englishman55
Englishman55Englishman55Salisbury, Wiltshire, England UK31 Threads 2 Polls 6,405 Posts
makis822: Make her believe that you have also a relation whith another woman, or that these days you met a woman quite interesting etc..
Tell it to her, as a friend she asks you to be...

SEE HER REACTIONS...!!!

Then you will know.. !!!

be prepared for everything...!!!

Absolutely daft thing to do and it will prove nothing.

If she really only does want to be friends, then all she will do is wish you the best of luck with your new relationship.

If she wanted anything more out of the relationship then she would have said so from the start, or at least explained that she wants to take things slow, to get to know you better first and then maybe more.

Playing the jealousy game rarely works and will probably not end in your favour.

Just get out there and move on and if you want too, then keep the lady as a friend
May 25, 2010 3:30 PM CST Lets Be Friends
Englishman55: Absolutely daft thing to do and it will prove nothing.

If she really only does want to be friends, then all she will do is wish you the best of luck with your new relationship.

If she wanted anything more out of the relationship then she would have said so from the start, or at least explained that she wants to take things slow, to get to know you better first and then maybe more.

Playing the jealousy game rarely works and will probably not end in your favour.

Just get out there and move on and if you want too, then keep the lady as a friend
I agree playing any games is stupid...........Take her out for a drink sit her down tell her what you really feel, want and need, Then she has the facts and she will then be able to tell you how she feels and if it is only ever gonna be friendship for her........then you can be her friend or walk away. But at least she know the facts.::grin:
May 25, 2010 3:32 PM CST Lets Be Friends
Englishman55
Englishman55Englishman55Salisbury, Wiltshire, England UK31 Threads 2 Polls 6,405 Posts
josingleinspain: I agree playing any games is stupid...........Take her out for a drink sit her down tell her what you really feel, want and need, Then she has the facts and she will then be able to tell you how she feels and if it is only ever gonna be friendship for her........then you can be her friend or walk away. But at least she know the facts.::grin:

thumbs up cool
May 25, 2010 3:40 PM CST Lets Be Friends
MilanaSw
MilanaSwMilanaSwStockholm, Sweden4 Threads 3 Polls 13 Posts
Sometimes people are too nice to lose them completely if you are not the perfect match. But many do not understand this gift of a frienship preferring to keep being offended. All or nothing is usual thought of rejected person, but didn't you think how many great moments together you still could have? No, I think you shouldn't have a hope to become lovers, but you should see this offer as appreciation of your qualities as a person.
May 25, 2010 3:45 PM CST Lets Be Friends
Englishman55
Englishman55Englishman55Salisbury, Wiltshire, England UK31 Threads 2 Polls 6,405 Posts
MilanaSw: Sometimes people are too nice to lose them completely if you are not the perfect match. But many do not understand this gift of a frienship preferring to keep being offended. All or nothing is usual thought of rejected person, but didn't you think how many great moments together you still could have? No, I think you shouldn't have a hope to become lovers, but you should see this offer as appreciation of your qualities as a person.

Nicely said thumbs up wine
May 25, 2010 6:56 PM CST Lets Be Friends
Bental
BentalBentalAttard, Majjistral Malta2 Threads 574 Posts
Danny48: Can you be friends with a woman you have fallen for completely who has rejected you as a lover?

I have met my dream woman. We met several times and got on very well. But she is still in love with her Ex.
When rejected I said I'd vanish. She very warmly asked if we could be friends? Why?
Do I have hope?


Danny, don't play stupid games with people. You wouldn't like it if it happened to you.
When somebody tells you that they want to be just friends, drop it. What they are saying in a cowardly way is that they don't want an intimate relationship with you after all.
You do not decide to be friends with people; you just become friends with them because you find something in common.
Besides, you have a two-fold problem: one is to make your lady commit to a relationship and two, to get over her Ex. I wouldn't even try to.
Don’t let it effect you too badly, think of the good moments you had and move on.
handshake
May 26, 2010 12:12 AM CST Lets Be Friends
makis822
makis822makis822nicosia, Nicosia Cyprus1 Threads 89 Posts
Englishman55: Absolutely daft thing to do and it will prove nothing.

If she really only does want to be friends, then all she will do is wish you the best of luck with your new relationship.

If she wanted anything more out of the relationship then she would have said so from the start, or at least explained that she wants to take things slow, to get to know you better first and then maybe more.

Playing the jealousy game rarely works and will probably not end in your favour.

Just get out there and move on and if you want too, then keep the lady as a friend


Unfortunately my friend you know nothing about women..
Friendship is a rare thing between a man and a woman..

The jelousy game , is a game that is played for years, and WORKS ALLWAYS !!! but you must know how to play it...!!!

Didn't you se,e that the woman is playing games with him ??
She want's to use him as a spare....
The only way to know what to do with her, is to provoke her emotions..!!!
Or he wins or he looses.!! There is no other way.

Maybe you didn't like the example..ok.
There are other ways also.!!
wine
May 26, 2010 1:24 AM CST Lets Be Friends
Englishman55
Englishman55Englishman55Salisbury, Wiltshire, England UK31 Threads 2 Polls 6,405 Posts
makis822: Unfortunately my friend you know nothing about women..Friendship is a rare thing between a man and a woman..

The jelousy game , is a game that is played for years, and WORKS ALLWAYS !!! but you must know how to play it...!!!

Didn't you se,e that the woman is playing games with him ??
She want's to use him as a spare....
The only way to know what to do with her, is to provoke her emotions..!!!
Or he wins or he looses.!! There is no other way.

Maybe you didn't like the example..ok.
There are other ways also.!!

You are probably right............ I know nothing about women, which is why I am on dating site.

What's your excuse ? doh
May 26, 2010 2:53 AM CST Lets Be Friends
tomboygirl
tomboygirltomboygirllarnaca, Larnaca Cyprus3 Threads 1,555 Posts
Englishman55: You are probably right............ I know nothing about women, which is why I am on dating site.

What's your excuse ?


his excuse is he is cypriot....now do you all understand why us cyprus based girlys are falling for peeps from everywhere else on the forums..
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