Now how do I do this online dating thing ;-) (10)

I finally signed up today. To be honest I've never been interested in online dating. I think I'm a bit nervous about the anonymity of it all, but I'm trying to keep an open mind. I've read lots of posts about other peoples online dating experiences. I don't want to be taken advantage of. I want to meet someone honest, someone who's real. Any advice? I've never even met anyone for coffee that I've met online.

Is it all just instinct?



P.S. any suggestions as to how I can improve my profile would be appreciated. Its nearly impossible to write about yourself without sounding like...

First the welcome.
Join the forums where you get to forget about online dating and see the banter that goes on...


Don't open your mind so far that ye brain falls out 'cause it's not instinct when it comes to the scammers. it's instinct that is their friend, not yours.

Have fun and uh...have more fun!

Hello Lassinfrance
You have taken a brave step and I wish you luck. Personally I do not trust my instinct and have never met up with a date via any Internet site without at least speaking on the telephone a few times first. You will get a feeling of the other person and if they are what they say they are as far as their outlook on meeting up. They will have to also make you feel they are glad you are both in contact and that will come over to you.

As most of us live in permanent homes we are all tied to a geogrphical area so as yours is maybe within a few hours of Bordeaux, it limits th scope but we are all in the same boat there. Just search the site for local members and if there is someone that could become a friend, same interests and so on, then great. I nearly always first send an e-mail suggesting they look at my listing and that if they are interested perhaps I will hear from them. That is really all you can do without overpowering with flowers of gifts or whatever.

Best of luck and hope it helps.

hey lass

don't be nervous,there are lots of nice peeps on here,take your time with the lads and don't be rushed into meeting untill you're comfortable.goodluck!

You sound quite sensible, take your time and all the prescribed precautions,good luck, hope you find what you are looking for.

The short answer is yes...There's a longer answer but it's the same only longer..

Thank you to everyone for the warm welcome and all of the generous words of advice.

Its all a bit overwhelming, but I'm ready for it, at least I am now ;-)

You're all a great bunch!