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first of all....happy newyear to everyone. I hope all your wishes, in good health, will come through this year.
I was wondering about something and I want to ask you what you think of it. I don't know in which catgory my question belongs but I think 'relating' is a good option.
right after my wee girl was born, my ex and I broke up. I had a lot of soulsearching to do and after 3 years, I'm glad to say I'm ready for new things.
it came as no surprise that he moved on very short after the breakup and now he is living together with a girl (the one he met during our time together) and they will a have a baby soon. that's fine, I wish them well.
I know men move on much more easy then women with these things.
but what I never expected was that I have female friends in my circle who act the same. my former sister in law kicked her boyfriend out of the house and started a new relationship within a month and she is happily living with him for almost 2 years now. she claims he's an old friend and he was there to comfort her...one thing led to another...and so on.
a ohter friend of mine had her baby and after two months she broke up with her boyfriend. after 3 weeks she met an old friend and she is happily living with him now.
another friend, married for 10 years, had her babies 3 and 1 years ago...always happy with her husband untill the news came that they were going to be divorced because the love was gone and they lived as brother and sister. she is not even divorced yet, still living with her soon to be ex husband but already she is in a new relationship, a guy she knew a long time before. she claims he is not the reason for the breakup and I believe her.
believe me, I wish them all well but it makes me wonder. It took me quite some time to let my wounds heal, to get my life back on track and to find out what and who I am on my own, not as a part of a couple anymore and I wasn't ready and open for a new relationship untill now, 3 years later.
how come people, after a breakup, rush into a new relationship and don't take time to heal?
I mean, they say they are happy and that they made the right decision, but I doubt their motives and if these motives are genuine. I think they seek strength in another persons arms just to avoid negative emotions.
I guess my friends are taking their hurt from the previous relationship into the new one and setting themselves up for new hurt in the future.
am I right or wrong in this?