A logical question (65)
Tulefel: (or at least it seems logical for me) when contacted by someone from a far-away country, is “Why have you contacted me”. Given all these cultural differences, not to mention language barrier, a long distance relationship is very difficult to maintain, both emotionally and financially. So I ask them “Why?”
And surprisingly, again at least for me, the reaction on this question is often very negative. Would want to know what’s wrong with this (logical) question.
And surprisingly, again at least for me, the reaction on this question is often very negative. Would want to know what’s wrong with this (logical) question.
A logical question, for sure, T.
A logical answer is...because they can.
No point fretting over it. Just say hi back to them. End of story.
(p.s. will write very soon, promise!...gorgeous pics of the 'kids')
Tulefel: (or at least it seems logical for me) when contacted by someone from a far-away country, is “Why have you contacted me”. Given all these cultural differences, not to mention language barrier, a long distance relationship is very difficult to maintain, both emotionally and financially. So I ask them “Why?”
And surprisingly, again at least for me, the reaction on this question is often very negative. Would want to know what’s wrong with this (logical) question.
And surprisingly, again at least for me, the reaction on this question is often very negative. Would want to know what’s wrong with this (logical) question.
LDR is not for everyone. It is not for me.
Some people state in their profiles that they would date only within their country but they keep posting on the “international or EU forums or others”, so what is the purpose of it? Besides some fun they might find.
Your logical question is very logical and it has to go with the right information in the people’s profile like:
Not interested in a virtual LDR.
Not interested in a once in a while visit to each countries (places).
Looking only in my own country.
I would consider moving to another country,
etc.
If the situation is like the 4th. Option then both have to have the means to do it.
However,
Love is such a strong power that will make the impossible possible.
(Helpless romantic me).
venere08: A logical question, for sure, T.
A logical answer is...because they can.
No point fretting over it. Just say hi back to them. End of story.
(p.s. will write very soon, promise!...gorgeous pics of the 'kids')
A logical answer is...because they can.
No point fretting over it. Just say hi back to them. End of story.
(p.s. will write very soon, promise!...gorgeous pics of the 'kids')
Yes, I’m aware of my work injury, but it’s either-or situation: I either have to be logical or unemployed.
I say hi, I blush cutely to compliments and thank for the flowers, then giggle girlishly and try to joke the whole thing off. But they insist on continuing the correspondence, and then I ask “Why?”. And get approximately the same answer for the most of the times: “No point to get sour” and the like. What is exactly that I don’t understand! From my perspective, when people ask questions it means that they show interest – you don’t ask if you don’t bother to know. And when I start to bother, they quit. My guess (but it’s only a guess), that they hunt you until you are running, but actually don’t want to catch you. “Also run” kind of. But again, it’s only a guess, would like to know certain. Just to adjust my speed.
lifeisadream: LDR is not for everyone. It is not for me.
Some people state in their profiles that they would date only within their country but they keep posting on the “international or EU forums or others”, so what is the purpose of it? Besides some fun they might find.
Your logical question is very logical and it has to go with the right information in the people’s profile like:
Not interested in a virtual LDR.
Not interested in a once in a while visit to each countries (places).
Looking only in my own country.
I would consider moving to another country,
etc.
If the situation is like the 4th. Option then both have to have the means to do it.
However,
Love is such a strong power that will make the impossible possible.
(Helpless romantic me).
Some people state in their profiles that they would date only within their country but they keep posting on the “international or EU forums or others”, so what is the purpose of it? Besides some fun they might find.
Your logical question is very logical and it has to go with the right information in the people’s profile like:
Not interested in a virtual LDR.
Not interested in a once in a while visit to each countries (places).
Looking only in my own country.
I would consider moving to another country,
etc.
If the situation is like the 4th. Option then both have to have the means to do it.
However,
Love is such a strong power that will make the impossible possible.
(Helpless romantic me).
Agree to the whole with the last statement, indeed it’s true. Though as they say, the eternal love lasts on the average for 6 months.
After that there has to be a reason, better a few, to stay together. Theoretically taken, I’m free: the baby-girl is adult and I have no pets. Hence, can move, even to another country, if I want to. But it’s not like I’m sitting on a packed suitcase and waiting for someone to come and rescue me. Wouldn’t thank no to a relationship that has some potential to last, but while there’s none I live my life as usual.
But so far, the most of “prospects” seemed not knowing what they’re doing. (Not that I myself always know what I’m doing, but that’s not the subject…
)
Tulefel: Yes, I’m aware of my work injury, but it’s either-or situation: I either have to be logical or unemployed.
I say hi, I blush cutely to compliments and thank for the flowers, then giggle girlishly and try to joke the whole thing off. But they insist on continuing the correspondence, and then I ask “Why?”. And get approximately the same answer for the most of the times: “No point to get sour” and the like. What is exactly that I don’t understand! From my perspective, when people ask questions it means that they show interest – you don’t ask if you don’t bother to know. And when I start to bother, they quit. My guess (but it’s only a guess), that they hunt you until you are running, but actually don’t want to catch you. “Also run” kind of. But again, it’s only a guess, would like to know certain. Just to adjust my speed.
I say hi, I blush cutely to compliments and thank for the flowers, then giggle girlishly and try to joke the whole thing off. But they insist on continuing the correspondence, and then I ask “Why?”. And get approximately the same answer for the most of the times: “No point to get sour” and the like. What is exactly that I don’t understand! From my perspective, when people ask questions it means that they show interest – you don’t ask if you don’t bother to know. And when I start to bother, they quit. My guess (but it’s only a guess), that they hunt you until you are running, but actually don’t want to catch you. “Also run” kind of. But again, it’s only a guess, would like to know certain. Just to adjust my speed.
I think you are onto something there, T.
Tulefel: Agree to the whole with the last statement, indeed it’s true. Though as they say, the eternal love lasts on the average for 6 months. After that there has to be a reason, better a few, to stay together.
Theoretically taken, I’m free: the baby-girl is adult and I have no pets. Hence, can move, even to another country, if I want to. But it’s not like I’m sitting on a packed suitcase and waiting for someone to come and rescue me. Wouldn’t thank no to a relationship that has some potential to last, but while there’s none I live my life as usual.
But so far, the most of “prospects” seemed not knowing what they’re doing. (Not that I myself always know what I’m doing, but that’s not the subject… )
Theoretically taken, I’m free: the baby-girl is adult and I have no pets. Hence, can move, even to another country, if I want to. But it’s not like I’m sitting on a packed suitcase and waiting for someone to come and rescue me. Wouldn’t thank no to a relationship that has some potential to last, but while there’s none I live my life as usual.
But so far, the most of “prospects” seemed not knowing what they’re doing. (Not that I myself always know what I’m doing, but that’s not the subject… )
"All love that has not friendship for its base, is like a mansion built upon sand."
Ella Wheeler Wilcox.
lifeisadream: "All love that has not friendship for its base, is like a mansion built upon sand."
Ella Wheeler Wilcox.
Ella Wheeler Wilcox.
lifeisadream: "All love that has not friendship for its base, is like a mansion built upon sand."
Ella Wheeler Wilcox.
Ella Wheeler Wilcox.
I with you on that...
PS..who was she?
Tulefel: Yes, I’m aware of my work injury, but it’s either-or situation: I either have to be logical or unemployed.
I say hi, I blush cutely to compliments and thank for the flowers, then giggle girlishly and try to joke the whole thing off. But they insist on continuing the correspondence, and then I ask “Why?”. And get approximately the same answer for the most of the times: “No point to get sour” and the like. What is exactly that I don’t understand! From my perspective, when people ask questions it means that they show interest – you don’t ask if you don’t bother to know. And when I start to bother, they quit. My guess (but it’s only a guess), that they hunt you until you are running, but actually don’t want to catch you. “Also run” kind of. But again, it’s only a guess, would like to know certain. Just to adjust my speed.
I say hi, I blush cutely to compliments and thank for the flowers, then giggle girlishly and try to joke the whole thing off. But they insist on continuing the correspondence, and then I ask “Why?”. And get approximately the same answer for the most of the times: “No point to get sour” and the like. What is exactly that I don’t understand! From my perspective, when people ask questions it means that they show interest – you don’t ask if you don’t bother to know. And when I start to bother, they quit. My guess (but it’s only a guess), that they hunt you until you are running, but actually don’t want to catch you. “Also run” kind of. But again, it’s only a guess, would like to know certain. Just to adjust my speed.
Hi Tule..
I agree with other views here but would add that by asking 'why' then you are dismissing previous correspondence between you both, or at least for the genuine ones..
I would expect any reasonable person who contacts someone abroad to have at least considered the possibility of travel, culture, and so on.. However, until you both get to know each better and know that each party wants to know more and are prepared to do, to the extent of arranging a proper meeting, both will take things tentatively at first. By asking why, does to me at least, come over as a negative, as by contacting you, (obviously ina romantic sense), they are showing a clear interest..
There are various reasons for wanting to try a LDR, some honest, some not-so-honest.. but I like to think most are just making the pond that little bigger and we never know what, or who..
is waiting round the corner for us.. 
I also love Life's words about making the impossible possible, though I am an optimist by nature..
Yash124g: Hi Tule..
I agree with other views here but would add that by asking 'why' then you are dismissing previous correspondence between you both, or at least for the genuine ones..
I would expect any reasonable person who contacts someone abroad to have at least considered the possibility of travel, culture, and so on.. However, until you both get to know each better and know that each party wants to know more and are prepared to do, to the extent of arranging a proper meeting, both will take things tentatively at first. By asking why, does to me at least, come over as a negative, as by contacting you, (obviously ina romantic sense), they are showing a clear interest..
There are various reasons for wanting to try a LDR, some honest, some not-so-honest.. but I like to think most are just making the pond that little bigger and we never know what, or who.. is waiting round the corner for us..
I also love Life's words about making the impossible possible, though I am an optimist by nature..
I agree with other views here but would add that by asking 'why' then you are dismissing previous correspondence between you both, or at least for the genuine ones..
I would expect any reasonable person who contacts someone abroad to have at least considered the possibility of travel, culture, and so on.. However, until you both get to know each better and know that each party wants to know more and are prepared to do, to the extent of arranging a proper meeting, both will take things tentatively at first. By asking why, does to me at least, come over as a negative, as by contacting you, (obviously ina romantic sense), they are showing a clear interest..
There are various reasons for wanting to try a LDR, some honest, some not-so-honest.. but I like to think most are just making the pond that little bigger and we never know what, or who.. is waiting round the corner for us..
I also love Life's words about making the impossible possible, though I am an optimist by nature..
Well… it isn’t clear from my OP, but when the correspondence is funny, stimulating and inspiring, I don’t ask “Why” – the pleasure in such a correspondence is a point in itself. I ask “Why” after a couple of boring weather reports or dull complaints about former wives/girlfriends. And my goal in asking this question isn’t to insult, but an attempt to turn communication in some other direction, to change the tune. But it looks like that my effort is misunderstood.
(Have to find some other method
)Actually, it’s very pleasant to get attention, and given the scarce means of internet dating, it’s rather touching how some men try to court and entertain you. Those encounters don’t last long (though I’ve kept corresponding with one older gentleman from Scotland for 3 or 4 years), because sooner or later you reach the point there you have to meet in person, and given the distance (and a number other circumstances) it’s seldom possible. But memories of such encounters are very warming – they keep my positive opinion about the strongest part of the gender alive.
Tulefel: (or at least it seems logical for me) when contacted by someone from a far-away country, is “Why have you contacted me”. Given all these cultural differences, not to mention language barrier, a long distance relationship is very difficult to maintain, both emotionally and financially. So I ask them “Why?”
And surprisingly, again at least for me, the reaction on this question is often very negative. Would want to know what’s wrong with this (logical) question.
And surprisingly, again at least for me, the reaction on this question is often very negative. Would want to know what’s wrong with this (logical) question.
Well this is an "International" site..if you are only interested in local contacts, then maybe you should change sites..and you always have to option to block out countries, if mail from foreigners annoys you that much..just saying..
iamwhoiamyousee: Well this is an "International" site..if you are only interested in local contacts, then maybe you should change sites..and you always have to option to block out countries, if mail from foreigners annoys you that much..just saying..
This is a EU forum (not an international forum) and it is the only option for people looking in the "Europe area".
Yet, there is an international forum that includes Europe of course.
For the blocking you do by regions not by countries although I might be wrong but if anyone knows how to block by countries I will appreciate their telling me please.
lifeisadream: This is a EU forum (not an international forum) and it is the only option for people looking in the "Europe area".
Yet, there is an international forum that includes Europe of course.
For the filtering you do by regions not by countries although I might be wrong but if anyone knows how to filter by countries I will appreciate their telling me please.
Yet, there is an international forum that includes Europe of course.
For the filtering you do by regions not by countries although I might be wrong but if anyone knows how to filter by countries I will appreciate their telling me please.
Phoenix: PS..who was she?
Goooooooooooogle is your friend!
Yash124g: Hi Tule..
I agree with other views here but would add that by asking 'why' then you are dismissing previous correspondence between you both, or at least for the genuine ones..
I would expect any reasonable person who contacts someone abroad to have at least considered the possibility of travel, culture, and so on.. However, until you both get to know each better and know that each party wants to know more and are prepared to do, to the extent of arranging a proper meeting, both will take things tentatively at first. By asking why, does to me at least, come over as a negative, as by contacting you, (obviously ina romantic sense), they are showing a clear interest..
There are various reasons for wanting to try a LDR, some honest, some not-so-honest.. but I like to think most are just making the pond that little bigger and we never know what, or who.. is waiting round the corner for us..
I also love Life's words about making the impossible possible, though
I am an optimist by nature..
I agree with other views here but would add that by asking 'why' then you are dismissing previous correspondence between you both, or at least for the genuine ones..
I would expect any reasonable person who contacts someone abroad to have at least considered the possibility of travel, culture, and so on.. However, until you both get to know each better and know that each party wants to know more and are prepared to do, to the extent of arranging a proper meeting, both will take things tentatively at first. By asking why, does to me at least, come over as a negative, as by contacting you, (obviously ina romantic sense), they are showing a clear interest..
There are various reasons for wanting to try a LDR, some honest, some not-so-honest.. but I like to think most are just making the pond that little bigger and we never know what, or who.. is waiting round the corner for us..
I also love Life's words about making the impossible possible, though
I am an optimist by nature..
Bental: Translation of old Maltese proverb:
"A good donkey is sold in its native land".
"A good donkey is sold in its native land".
Well… if you need it for work or for his beautiful voice
, then yes. But for breeding some new blood may be better, don’t you think?iamwhoiamyousee: Well this is an "International" site..if you are only interested in local contacts, then maybe you should change sites..and you always have to option to block out countries, if mail from foreigners annoys you that much..just saying..
The objective with me being on the international site isn’t to block as many people as possible. I wouldn’t be able to “meet” so many interesting people from different countries in some other way. And its’ not mail from foreigners that annoy me. You can get a boring weather report on a Swedish site as well. It’s boring mail that do. It’s still-born from the very beginning. And when I try to reanimate the conversation, I get negative response. I’ve set the age limits, and expect that men in my age and older are adult enough to know what they do and why.
More Threads
Gal / sdarlagg passed away on April 10, 2024
If Our Profiles Were Truly Honest
Iran- Israel war
Are the ads on here as phony as some of the profiles?
The weird and the random facts around the world
I'm a 53 YEAR'S YUNG MAN that lives back in the 80s
Say Anything Again
What happened to CS while i was away.. (Long time)
The Real Stormy Story
beauty of the heart
More Threads
Report threads that break rules, are offensive, or contain fighting. Staff may not be aware of the forum abuse, and cannot do anything about it unless you tell us about it. click to report forum abuse »
If one of the comments is offensive, please report the comment instead (there is a link in each comment to report it).
If one of the comments is offensive, please report the comment instead (there is a link in each comment to report it).
Stats for this Thread
4,736 Views
64 Comments
in EU Forums
Created: Jul 2011
Last Viewed: just now
Last Commented: Aug 2011
0 Likes
Related Forums
- Gal / sdarlagg passed away on April 10, 2024
- If Our Profiles Were Truly Honest
- Iran- Israel war
- Are the ads on here as phony as some of the profiles?
- The weird and the random facts around the world
- I'm a 53 YEAR'S YUNG MAN that lives back in the 80s
- Say Anything Again
- What happened to CS while i was away.. (Long time)
- The Real Stormy Story
- beauty of the heart
And surprisingly, again at least for me, the reaction on this question is often very negative. Would want to know what’s wrong with this (logical) question.