How do I overcome my shyness? (12)

Why can I sing on a stage with hundreds of people watching me and yet when it comes to talking one to one with a woman I completely lock up?
I have recently met a woman who made 1st initial contact, but she probably thinks I'm not interested because of my shyness.
Please help if you can!!!

I dont think there is a definate answer to that, but I DO think that you should do your best to conquer your fear. It will be hard the first times and may not go extremely well, but it will make it a little easier for each time you do it. You could try to practice on someone who you have no interest in like the people in the shops you go to...just small-talk a bit with them and in that way you will get used to talking with strangers. Ofc it is not the same as when romance is involved, but it is a small step in the right direction I think.

Say 'Boo' to a goose 3 times a day for 7 weeks.

I got rid of mine one step of the time. First I asked strangers what the time was. Then I fought my fear of calling to people on the phone. Then I started small talk with strangers in shops and such. Many years later life is not perfect but much easier nonetheless.
And to your question, try to find the media or scenario where you feel more comfortable. Try to get to know her then personal meeting is easier.

I could suggest trying Peruvian snow or getting to know some rasta's..

But your better re-reading the other posters repelies and you'll find more answers there..

Stop thinking about your own shyness and think about her. How is she feeling, who is she, where is she going in life... Ask questions beginning with What, Where, Who, How, When so that she can't just answer "yes" or "no" and listen to what she says. Then you won't be shy any more.

this is a perfect answer.
I have a lot of phobias, I can't speak on the phone or skype or any instant media with a person I don't know and never met. Before I started dating I had a terrible social phobia and was deadly scared to meet new people at all and had very low confidence. I started first email with people, it was easier because you don't see a person. When I put my pictures on I discovered that I was quite popular and some people even think that I am beautiful. Some of people even agreed to meet me without talking on the phone previously. After 2 years dating I have met 22 people who followed my rules, some of them are still my friends. When I meet I prefer to have something to do. The usual dating scenario when people start with eating food together is totally impossible for me. We take a walk or do some sightseeing, we have something to do, then it's a lot easier. I have even met two people from Internet abroad and it was perfect because we alsways had something to do, see places, then discuss what we have seen. So find your perfect scenario that would make you to relax, eating and staring at each other on the first meeting as a very bad idea at least for me.