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josingleinspainLa Cala, Andalusia Spain86 Threads 1 Polls 430 PostsKnow that a person on a dating site's profile is a total lie and everything that he/she says in their profile is untrue should you not have a way to warn others about it???? When they meet somebody and this person they met will not know the truth it is not fair is it.????
josingleinspain: Know that a person on a dating site's profile is a total lie and everything that he/she says in their profile is untrue should you not have a way to warn others about it???? When they meet somebody and this person they met will not know the truth it is not fair is it.????
Well… there are few sides in the situation. If I cared about the person that, by my suspicions, can be a target for someone’s unscrupulous behavior, then yes, I’d share the information, though not as an absolute true, but only as my personal impression.
A year or so ago, I’ve started to get letters from a person from this site warning me about different participants in the International forums that they are not who they claim they are. Frankly, those “warnings” felt as something dirty. I wasn’t on those terms with the “warner” to share personal information. I didn’t know and even never communicated with the people the “warner” warned me against. I never asked for those "warnings". I have no idea why this person chose me, but I’m glad that this “spring” of dirt has dried out.
josingleinspain: Know that a person on a dating site's profile is a total lie and everything that he/she says in their profile is untrue should you not have a way to warn others about it???? When they meet somebody and this person they met will not know the truth it is not fair is it.????
That is rather a difficult decision.
How can any one know about other person not being honest or portraying him/her as someone else? Unless, you have met that person or you have had a relationship with “the person”.
But, who is real?
Whom should I trust?
lifeisadream: That is rather a difficult decision.
How can any one know about other person not being honest or portraying him/her as someone else? Unless, you have met that person or you have had a relationship with “the person”.But, who is real?
Whom should I trust?
Well that is the piont I know it for a fact I have more then met this personHow can any one know about other person not being honest or portraying him/her as someone else? Unless, you have met that person or you have had a relationship with “the person”.But, who is real?
Whom should I trust?
josingleinspain: Well that is the piont I know it for a fact I have more then met this person
Could that person be dangerous?
How?
Could that person pose a treat to anyone else?
Even so, how could you alert anyone else?
That person could open another profile in a wink.
lifeisadream: Could that person be dangerous?
How?
Could that person pose a treat to anyone else?
Even so, how could you alert anyone else?
That person could open another profile in a wink.
How?
Could that person pose a treat to anyone else?
Even so, how could you alert anyone else?
That person could open another profile in a wink.
Perhaps, that person has already several profiles here.
It’s very possible, but the fact would mean that the person in question isn’t playing clean. And that is a warning in itself.
But I strictly disagree with an idea of alerting people about someone on this site in an open forum. What can be done to one person, can also be done to another, sometimes of no other reason but grudge. You can though warn your friends in a private letter, if you so wish.
But I strictly disagree with an idea of alerting people about someone on this site in an open forum. What can be done to one person, can also be done to another, sometimes of no other reason but grudge. You can though warn your friends in a private letter, if you so wish.
josingleinspain: Know that a person on a dating site's profile is a total lie and everything that he/she says in their profile is untrue should you not have a way to warn others about it???? When they meet somebody and this person they met will not know the truth it is not fair is it.????
Unfortunately life is not fair, which I know most of us know only too well
The other problem is that, as others have mentioned, there are different sides to every story, (three in fact, his, hers & the truth)..I would advise two options though, one to contact said member and inform that unless they show the true situation then you will inform the site owner;
And two, inform the site owner anyway as it is to all intense purposes deception and a form of scamming, just on a much higher more emotional level, (though to be hurt emotionally is not a crime in itself, well not legally anyway).
However, you must be able to prove this, for as others also mention whose to say what you state is the truth and can the person concerned state that there is a crazy person telling lies about them..
While we always want to warn others of what we see as danger, we must also let others find out for themselves and hope their inner senses make them spot the warning signals and move on, for we never stop learning in our lives..
Yash124g: Unfortunately life is not fair, which I know most of us know only too well The other problem is that, as others have mentioned, there are different sides to every story, (three in fact, his, hers & the truth)..
I would advise two options though, one to contact said member and inform that unless they show the true situation then you will inform the site owner;
And two, inform the site owner anyway as it is to all intense purposes deception and a form of scamming, just on a much higher more emotional level, (though to be hurt emotionally is not a crime in itself, well not legally anyway).
However, you must be able to prove this, for as others also mention whose to say what you state is the truth and can the person concerned state that there is a crazy person telling lies about them..
While we always want to warn others of what we see as danger, we must also let others find out for themselves and hope their inner senses make them spot the warning signals and move on, for we never stop learning in our lives..
What if a person claims to be single but is married and the people that she/ he is talking to on the site and they get involved with a married person without them even knowing it. It really is not fair.it can be proven that it is a married person. Did contact the site owner and did report nothing was done. Hence why I asked for advice here. Not to be mean just to make sure nobody gets hurt by this person. Maybe I should just not worry about others. It never served me well in the past to care about others. In fact quite the opposite.I would advise two options though, one to contact said member and inform that unless they show the true situation then you will inform the site owner;
And two, inform the site owner anyway as it is to all intense purposes deception and a form of scamming, just on a much higher more emotional level, (though to be hurt emotionally is not a crime in itself, well not legally anyway).
However, you must be able to prove this, for as others also mention whose to say what you state is the truth and can the person concerned state that there is a crazy person telling lies about them..
While we always want to warn others of what we see as danger, we must also let others find out for themselves and hope their inner senses make them spot the warning signals and move on, for we never stop learning in our lives..
josingleinspain: What if a person claims to be single but is married and the people that she/ he is talking to on the site and they get involved with a married person without them even knowing it. It really is not fair.it can be proven that it is a married person. Did contact the site owner and did report nothing was done. Hence why I asked for advice here. Not to be mean just to make sure nobody gets hurt by this person. Maybe I should just not worry about others. It never served me well in the past to care about others. In fact quite the opposite.
I think there is a certain circle of people that we can care about, and very often it’s a limited circle: family, friends, perhaps neighbours or colleagues. But that’s all.
I also think that a married man is easy to spot: there are a few things that a married man wouldn’t do. He would never invite you to his place, he wouldn’t meet in a popular place, he wouldn’t go together with you on a week-end trip, let alone a longer vocation. You will understand after a few dates that he isn’t free.
There certainly are women, who prefer to date married men. It suits them to meet him for a couple of hours now and then when he is in flirting mood, meanwhile his bad mood, problems and laundry are left to his wife to deal with.
Again, there are worse things that encounter a married man. There are criminals, wife-beaters, gamblers, drug abusers… you name it. You never know who is who until you were dating them for some while.
And by the way, people here are adult, they have intellect, intuition, experience and preferences. I believe that they are capable to make an opinion about their contacts on their own.
hi there, a question regarding this matter. Is it possible for someone, let us say living in Denmark to set up a profile saying he/she is from China?
If the answer is yes, you may be talking to the same person, shaped in different costumes.
Thank you
If the answer is yes, you may be talking to the same person, shaped in different costumes.
Thank you
silentspring: hi there, a question regarding this matter. Is it possible for someone, let us say living in Denmark to set up a profile saying he/she is from China?
If the answer is yes, you may be talking to the same person, shaped in different costumes.
Thank you
If the answer is yes, you may be talking to the same person, shaped in different costumes.
Thank you
Hello!
I have no idea whether it’s possible, and I have no idea, as usual, who it may be.
silentspring: hi there, a question regarding this matter. Is it possible for someone, let us say living in Denmark to set up a profile saying he/she is from China?
If the answer is yes, you may be talking to the same person, shaped in different costumes.
Thank you
Well on that not I know that some people can be extremly deceiptive and I just wanted to know if anybody out there care's to know. It seems it does not matter. Thanx for ur reply's.If the answer is yes, you may be talking to the same person, shaped in different costumes.
Thank you
josingleinspain: What if a person claims to be single but is married and the people that she/ he is talking to on the site and they get involved with a married person without them even knowing it. It really is not fair.it can be proven that it is a married person. Did contact the site owner and did report nothing was done. Hence why I asked for advice here. Not to be mean just to make sure nobody gets hurt by this person. Maybe I should just not worry about others. It never served me well in the past to care about others. In fact quite the opposite.
That is sad to read, but do not change who you are, for that is what makes you You and I believe it is the correct ethics to be raised with..
As for the marriage aspect and not stating soo.. without knowing more details its hard to say and there could be a multitude of reasons, such as.. lack of confidence; loveless marriage, (but one half will not divorce); a player; law restrictions; religion, etc, etc..
Tule makes some good points as well and its not that we do not care, I would say its more a point of information and knowing the facts, which only the two people will know fully what has been discussed regarding their respective past relationships.
Its a hard call but again, I'd contact the person concerned requesting them to change their status to the correct one as within a given time period you will inform the site owners, though I also think it is not ideal to interfere with someone else's affairs unless they are a friend or it is a former partner who I know is not telling all the full details, but this would always be done privately..
josingleinspain: What if a person claims to be single but is married and the people that she/ he is talking to on the site and they get involved with a married person without them even knowing it. It really is not fair.it can be proven that it is a married person. Did contact the site owner and did report nothing was done. Hence why I asked for advice here. Not to be mean just to make sure nobody gets hurt by this person. Maybe I should just not worry about others. It never served me well in the past to care about others. In fact quite the opposite.
It is kind of you to be concern about other people.
Liars like the one you are refereeing to unfortunately there are many. Yet it is up to us not to trust so easily anyone and take things on solid bases if looking for a long term relationship.
Thanks for your genuine concern anyway.
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