Can anyone tell me why a lot of men will not date women of their own age group? (41)

I receive a lot of messages from men much older than me, although I state my age preferences. If men are not getting many replies maybe they need to consider that most women in their early thirties do not want to date men in their 40's - most women find it creepy to be honest. My friend has just sent me this thread:



We are not living in the days when women need to marry any old man anymore, most women have their own jobs etc so we do not need to get hitched to a older man, but still I get messages from a man, say around 40 odd, who specifies he wants to date 30-40 women. And you can't tell me that just because he has been a commitment phobe all his life he suddenly wants a young woman to look after him when he hits 40 plus.
Also, why do some men (and I guess some women ) on dating sites try to hook up with you if they are not even in your area, I means hundreds of miles away? I know all about scammers - but are these people for real? Or just wanting to skype all the time?

Your 36 how on earth is a man in his forties considered creepy?
Up to you if you want to date younger guys but a guy in his 40s is actually in your age group

@ wonderwoman 555 - because they want that! It is their own decision. Someone 69 want 32 years old. That's all!

And second - the world is : global village: If you find your man in... Australia, you will refuse because he is not the man from next door???? What is bad if the people are mixed???

Hi Glatlol, I meant that as a rule women in their early thirties and twenties (missed out the 'early') do not want to date men of 40 plus, if you look at my profile, I go either way of about 5 or 6 years. But check out a lot of the mens required ages and they very often will go down to 10 or so years younger but not so much if at all older.
If you get time, look at the website - it is a US website.

No, thats OK if you want a penpal, but if you are looking for dating and a relationship, most people like to have a drink and have dinner and go out - then I, who's Swiss, cannot see much point in being contacted by a man, say in Australia. so when you say 'Would I refuse? ' Would I refuse what? To talk to him? to meet up with him? When you consider that most online dating meets are not always very sucessful, then it's a long way to travel to decide that this man is not what youre looking for?? Am I right?
As for the age thing, yes I agree it's up to the person, but take a look at the majority of mens required ages, nearly all want a lot younger but are not all prepared to go out with their own age or older, as for me and my friends then yes, we fnd it creepy and I for one would avoid a man who does this. I already have a father and I dont want another one thanks. Its like we're living in the Middle Ages.

You're 36 and find a man in his 40s creepy while stating you're looking for 29 to 42. You may be creepy to a 29 year old man .

Men in their 40s are most likely looking for the mother of their future children - marriage material. Hence for obvious reasons they're looking for women in her 30s. It's that simple.
I've been in a relationship with a 28 year older men - there's much to learn from an older person.

As for the whole issue with the location I totally resonate with you even though you've to admit your statement that you want to see the world is encouraging to men from all over the globe. I've signed up on here many, many moons ago, thinking I could exchange a view mails and pictures and then simple meet for a coffee but of course it was nothing like that. By now I've more CS pen pal buddies all over the world than I can handle . The weird and somehow interesting part is that I'm getting an insane amount of attention from all continents but practical none where I live. The view members on my tiny speck or a nearby Island keep disappearing on me before we've even met in person. This makes me wonder whether majority of members on international dating sites are happiest to life out some online fantasy and get cold feet and run for the heels about anything real like an innocent meeting.

By the way, check out Zwink.com it's a Swiss site - it works much better for me than this one ;-) eusi manne sind ebe doch die beschte!

Thanks ww.

:)

I'm not very politically correct am I ?? I will get told off on here I think