Many members filter mail because they don't want to communicate with members outside of their own Area, Age Range or Marital Status preference. Members can set their mail preferences using the Edit Block Settings
page. Connecting Singles has no control over member email preferences.
Block Specific Members
Also... Members can block specific members from contacting them by clicking the "Block this Member" button in an incoming message or flower.
You can do a Search
for members in your own area, where you will not be filtered.