Love is not based on a feeling only There must also be a clear decision Passionate feelings may die off early Showing it was just infatuation
One should not need another as a crutch But be able to stand on one's feet This will allow each other space as such And enrichen the sharing when both meet
A love relationship has its demands It does not ensure smooth sailing always Be mindful of this in each circumstance And it will help you survive the rough days
The one that you love should be your best friend Someone with whom you can share everything A person upon whom you can depend In situations that can be trying
As time passes, both of you will change For change is inevitable in life Do not consider this as something strange Learn to adjust and avoid any strife
True love is the most precious emotion That a person can engage in sharing It fills the heart with blissful elation Giving one's life a rich sense of meaning
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Posted: Jan 2016
About this poem:
"Love is a decision, it is a judgement, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgement and decision."
- Erich Fromm - (The Art of Loving)
"But let there be spaces in your togetherness. And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
And stand together yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow."
I was once told by my grandmother, "True Love and a Soul Mate- One is a choice, the other is not". I thought about it for a moment and realized that she was right.
I always wanted to fall in love in my best friend (male of course) - I feel you must like someone and be friends in order for it to be a lasting love. Quick flash feelings can burn out fast and you are left with nothing but ashes.
Happychatty1unknown, Lancashire, England UKJun 29, 2018
Hi socrates44 This is a great poem and so are the quotes thanks for sharing it
roseoscuraAuckland, New ZealandJun 30, 2018
Yes Great poe from a wise person...thank you for the poem and quotes. PS;Also thank you for the translation of,"Changing"( German) I was trying to do it but when I went to post comment I realized you had already done it and better.
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I was once told by my grandmother, "True Love and a Soul Mate- One is a choice, the other is not". I thought about it for a moment and realized that she was right.
Very wise advise Socrates. Thank you.
Kathy
Wonderful...and yet freightening!
I have read and re-read this many times, including the quotes you gave at the end, and must say...I am still thinking, evaluating, and re-evaluating.
Mady
This is a great poem and so are the quotes thanks for sharing it
PS;Also thank you for the translation of,"Changing"( German) I was trying to do it but when I went to post comment I realized you had already done it and better.