LCBR - when I wrote this last night - I didn't know that a friend of mine had lost her niece yesterday morning to cancer. I posted it on FB and she thanked me for the comforting words even though (she said) I didn't know she needed them. How strange is that?

Thank you for your kind comments.

Kathy

Tomorrow will be 9 years since my Mom passed away - August 5, 2008 at night. I still miss her to this day. I wrote this poem because when people ask me how did you deal with her death - how did you get through - what helped you - how did you cope? Etc., Etc., Etc. I have to tell them - there is not fast way to get through grief - this is not a fast food restaurant folks. Grief is a process you have to go through only with the help of God - if you don't believe in our Father - then you have to go through the process alone.

Everyone grieves different. Some grieve for the rest of their life. Some grieve for a very little while and then say "Life goes on" and away they go. I have experienced this in my own family - different levels and personalities are involved in the grieving. Hard to explain - but true.

I know Mom is in Heaven with God - what the grief really is for is the person who is left behind we are grieving for ourselves. Myself included.

Kathy

You've a nice way with words. I lost my mam recently. Thanks for sharing.

Hi Mady - still waters run deep and mine are very very deep. I'm not as peaceful as you may think. Mom always said "Smile - the whole World smiles with you. Cry - you cry alone!"

Thank you dear friend for your kind comments.

Kathy

Mysterious Girl - thank you for your kind words regarding my poem.

And I wish to extend my condolences on the loss of your Mam - to me in the U.S. would be Mom. Losing your Mom is a very traumatic life experience to go through. Especially if you were very close. It will take a long time for you but you will get through each day and eventually the pain will ease bit by bit. Until then - remember the good times and if you write poems, it helps to express your feelings in words.

Kathy

Lovely poem Kathy
And comforting too plus I like how you make the point of explaining that grief can be unique experience and a long process...poetry can be powerful outlet for our own mental emotional state and bring comfort and healing...not just for ourself but also others in their loss and this poem evidently has ...thanks for sharing it

Hi G.P.Kathy,

I actually read this a couple of months ago, and then again a week ago. Learned alot the first time, and even more the second. Wonderful poem, and so very helpful. I think what you've written, including in your replies, is so very true and has probably been of more help since you posted it than you could even begin to realize.

Thanks for your wisdom, insight and your write!

Cat

Thank you Cat.

Kathy

Thank you Happy Chatty - I just write what I feel most of the time and from experiences.

Kathy