should i contact my ex (28)
Tomcats2: I recentley heard that my ex before my ex wife wants to get in contact after 15 years, we lived togethr for five years and split amicably. We both moved on and had familys, but are now single. i have her addres what i am wondering is should i get in touch or avoid at all costs. I was fond of her and often wonder what if. please what is your advice?
What are the reasons you two broke up, and in what way did you two brake up?
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In my case, when this kind of desire arose, I never did get back in contact, there is a reason why "we" broke up, and it does not matter for what reason we did brake up. Past is past - - But that's me . . . . 
After 15 years, as being said, one matures, and grows ( Supposedly ). . . so the second time around it might be different, and it might work ( if there are romantic desires there ), but don't hold your breath - - - - As I said, there are reasons why people brake up . . . . and often when they are on and off the relationship, each time it get's worse, then the previous time ( In this case, people doing that, should get their heads checked ) 
After 15 years, as being said, one matures, and grows ( Supposedly ). . . so the second time around it might be different, and it might work ( if there are romantic desires there ), but don't hold your breath - - - - As I said, there are reasons why people brake up . . . . and often when they are on and off the relationship, each time it get's worse, then the previous time ( In this case, people doing that, should get their heads checked ) ------ This poll is Archived ------
Lerie2010: What exactly baffles you about a woman wanting to be friends with an ex partner who obviously shared some happy times?
Yes.
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Ocee35: Yes.
ok ok maybe in the back of her mind she may be hoping that the little spark returns
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Tomcats2: I recentley heard that my ex before my ex wife wants to get in contact after 15 years, we lived togethr for five years and split amicably. We both moved on and had familys, but are now single. i have her addres what i am wondering is should i get in touch or avoid at all costs. I was fond of her and often wonder what if. please what is your advice?
sure, why not?
plus the fact you were able to split amicably testifies your (yours and hers) comunication is pretty good, which should avoid any hipothetical misunderstanding about the nature of getting together...
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Tomcats2: I recentley heard that my ex before my ex wife wants to get in contact after 15 years, we lived togethr for five years and split amicably. We both moved on and had familys, but are now single. i have her addres what i am wondering is should i get in touch or avoid at all costs. I was fond of her and often wonder what if. please what is your advice?
I think you must know the answer and not so deep down.
After all, she wants to see you, you parted amicably, you harbor a series of 'what if's'...It makes sense to get on with it and meet her. There is nothing to lose. You don't have to see each other again after that. Go and enjoy.
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Lerie2010: What exactly baffles you about a woman wanting to be friends with an ex partner who obviously shared some happy times?
Yes, Yes, Yes, what on earth have you got to lose, and maybe a friend to gain, you parted amicably so no problem there, don't listen to all the negative peeps on here, go for if Tomcat. If it doesn't work out you can amicably part again.
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You have nothing to loose,meet her,have coffee or dinner with her, both single,maybe this time find each other,if not,one more amicable goodbye.
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chris27292729: You have nothing to loose,meet her,have coffee or dinner with her, both single,maybe this time find each other,if not,one more amicable goodbye.
exactly right .. why miss out on being happy with someone you got on with back then ..
hi Chris hope your enjoying your sunshine it's been bitterly cold here
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chris27292729: You have nothing to loose,meet her,have coffee or dinner with her, both single,maybe this time find each other,if not,one more amicable goodbye.
If you are comfortable in catching up with your ex why not just don't expect too much to begin with, go with the flow and hey let us know if all is a good outcome. Good luck
Just a thought maybe give her some flowers
or not 
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Lerie2010: ok ok maybe in the back of her mind she may be hoping that the little spark returns
Like reheat yesterdays spaghetti.
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Tomcats2: I recentley heard that my ex before my ex wife wants to get in contact after 15 years, we lived togethr for five years and split amicably. We both moved on and had familys, but are now single. i have her addres what i am wondering is should i get in touch or avoid at all costs. I was fond of her and often wonder what if. please what is your advice?
Go for it. An amicable splitting up is very, very rare so you respected each other which is very important.------ This poll is Archived ------
Lerie2010: exactly right .. why miss out on being happy with someone you got on with back then ..
hi Chris hope your enjoying your sunshine it's been bitterly cold here
Hi Lerie,even if you don't want to,you are forced by the heat wave,so going swimming to cool off, is a must.-Easy to avoid cold weather,you live 6 months in the North and the other 6 in the South hemispherehi Chris hope your enjoying your sunshine it's been bitterly cold here
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curly28: If you are comfortable in catching up with your ex why not just don't expect too much to begin with, go with the flow and hey let us know if all is a good outcome. Good luck
Just a thought maybe give her some flowers or not
Flowers are out,we live in defferent continents,she is remarried.-The only thing i'll be "catching up" with her is thin air,and a headacke.-Just a thought maybe give her some flowers or not
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still cant make my mind up but i gues i will at some point but thanks for the input
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Tomcats2: I recentley heard that my ex before my ex wife wants to get in contact after 15 years, we lived togethr for five years and split amicably. We both moved on and had familys, but are now single. i have her addres what i am wondering is should i get in touch or avoid at all costs. I was fond of her and often wonder what if. please what is your advice?
The decision is yours and yours alone. Hope it works out for you.
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Personally I prefer to look forward rather than backwards, but in this case I think curiosity would get the best of me. So I think go for it and check it out. Nothing venntured, nothing gained. Besides, whats the worst that can happen? If it turns out to be nothing youve lost nothing in the process ...good luck
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Operative word here being expectations... what are they? ... too many of us get caught up by them, lose focus and get hurt and/or hurt the other... just be honest and go forward regardless of outcome.
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Majority of people think you should meet up with her but I'm thinking you might be opening pandora's box if you do. Even though the breakup was "friendly" there still was a reason for breaking up. My guess is you will meet her because you are curious as to why she's contacting you. If you weren't going to meet her you wouldn't have asked the peeps their opinion. If I contacted someone from 15 years ago it would be because I had compared him to all the other men I've dated since the breakup and now know that he was the best. Good luck to you.
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Nothing is wrong is getting back with an Ex
I wish I could locate one of mine to send her a text.
I wish I could locate one of mine to send her a text.
Tomcats2: I recentley heard that my ex before my ex wife wants to get in contact after 15 years, we lived togethr for five years and split amicably. We both moved on and had familys, but are now single. i have her addres what i am wondering is should i get in touch or avoid at all costs. I was fond of her and often wonder what if. please what is your advice?
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Ex's are ex's for a reason.
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Tomcats2: I recentley heard that my ex before my ex wife wants to get in contact after 15 years, we lived togethr for five years and split amicably. We both moved on and had familys, but are now single. i have her addres what i am wondering is should i get in touch or avoid at all costs. I was fond of her and often wonder what if. please what is your advice?
go for it man..u got nothin to lose...
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Whats yours and hers Horoscope say...or whats your gut say? Only you can make the choice... Don't listen to us for gods sake, look were we are. lol Good luck
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Thanks for all the advice wrote the lady in question a letter today and just got back from posting it. Now im nervous
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And most will be ex for only a season!
jc320: Ex's are ex's for a reason.
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