Friends with an ex? ( Archived) (37)

Oct 2, 2011 2:19 AM CSTFriends with an ex?
missingLondon
missingLondonmissingLondonMsida, Majjistral, Malta101 Threads 11 Polls 455 Posts

Friends with an ex?(Vote Below)

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Yes
56
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No
58
51%
Total Votes
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After two years my ex proposed that we strike up a friendship. It didn't make sense to me as we live in different countries so I said no hard feelings but no thanks.
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Oct 2, 2011 2:23 AM CST Friends with an ex?
islandgirl62
islandgirl62islandgirl62somewhere in, Queensland Australia12 Threads 1,601 Posts
my ex and I are friends - takes 2 to make a marriage, takes 2 to break, but we were friends before, and although things have changed, we still manage to be "nice" to each other providing we don't cross the thin fine line .... but it took awhile to reach this stage....


very happy
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Oct 2, 2011 2:50 AM CST Friends with an ex?
nomade2011
nomade2011nomade2011Mons, Hainaut Belgium7 Threads 125 Posts
No way! Never.

I'm polite, when I see him in the street I say "hello", but that's it.
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Oct 2, 2011 2:52 AM CST Friends with an ex?
Obviously it depends on the circumstances of the relationship and the break up whether one can, or wants to be, friends with an ex.

I think it's dangerous when one party still has feelings for the other, this can get really messy, so both need to be aware of that if they are considering friendship.
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Oct 2, 2011 3:00 AM CST Friends with an ex?
Aswina
AswinaAswinaNitra, Slovakia2 Threads 1,373 Posts
I am a friend of my ex... we have known each other for so long, we spent longer time together. There are topics we never start to talk about, but when something in his life important and something in my life important - we speak to each other.
From both sides it is just friendhip... statu quo...
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Oct 2, 2011 5:06 AM CST Friends with an ex?
vyoleta
vyoletavyoletaArkaroola, South Australia Australia44 Threads 6 Polls 1,050 Posts
No, although I would like to be friends with some of them, but they don't seem to be interested in it. Some who are interested to stay friends I don't find suitable for it. So... like in love chasing, some want you and you don't want them, some of them you want and they don't want you... playball dancing boogie
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Oct 2, 2011 8:18 AM CST Friends with an ex?
Dreamyone
DreamyoneDreamyoneRaleigh, North Carolina USA4 Threads 1 Polls 913 Posts
ex husband....not no but hell no. He can play mind games with his new wife. He is afraid of me anyway LOL
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Oct 2, 2011 8:52 AM CST Friends with an ex?
Happygolucky4u
Happygolucky4uHappygolucky4uTreasure Coast, Florida USA25 Threads 4 Polls 6,241 Posts
missingLondon: After two years my ex proposed that we strike up a friendship. It didn't make sense to me as we live in different countries so I said no hard feelings but no thanks.
Sounds like you know what is right for you. Must not of been easy for you I know how difficult it was for you at first with him. Me it would depend on how things were when we parted if I could. And you are right sometimes it just don't make sense dunno
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Oct 2, 2011 8:58 AM CST Friends with an ex?
twinself
twinselftwinself..., Majjistral Malta36 Threads 1,347 Posts
.... grrr... meant to type: You are NO good to them! doh doh grin
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Oct 2, 2011 9:10 AM CST Friends with an ex?
jonnt
jonntjonntLost in the Woods, East Sussex, England UK47 Threads 3,691 Posts
I think its nice to be friends with my ex"s ,

Although each of them dont know i am still friends with the others .

Obviously i dont live with any of them now , it does have certain perks were i sleep with them individualy on different nites .

This gives me great pleasure as i also hope they to enjoy it .

Its always good to give something back as im not a selfish person and very loyal .

handshake
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Oct 2, 2011 10:38 AM CST Friends with an ex?
single4ever
single4eversingle4everCalgary, Alberta Canada1,109 Posts
I am friend's with all my ex boyfriends; even the one that hit me. Life is too short to be carrying grudges and its just more baggage in your life. JMO
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Oct 2, 2011 10:44 AM CST Friends with an ex?
montecito
montecitomontecitoLovely, New Jersey USA96 Threads 2 Polls 5,086 Posts
jonnt: I think its nice to be friends with my ex"s ,

Although each of them dont know i am still friends with the others .

Obviously i dont live with any of them now , it does have certain perks were i sleep with them individualy on different nites .

This gives me great pleasure as i also hope they to enjoy it .

Its always good to give something back as im not a selfish person and very loyal .


Would that be "very loyal" to each one..?? My idea of loyality is very different from yours. In a relationship loyalty means to be involved with only one man. At work it means to be a "company man/woman". In general loyality means to stick by one person.wine
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Oct 2, 2011 10:46 AM CST Friends with an ex?
time4fun4u
time4fun4utime4fun4uAlicante, Valencia Spain18 Threads 1 Polls 10,066 Posts
I have no problems with all 37 of them.They are all lovely ladies.
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Oct 2, 2011 10:47 AM CST Friends with an ex?
single4ever
single4eversingle4everCalgary, Alberta Canada1,109 Posts
jonnt: I think its nice to be friends with my ex"s ,

Although each of them dont know i am still friends with the others .

Obviously i dont live with any of them now , it does have certain perks were i sleep with them individualy on different nites .

This gives me great pleasure as i also hope they to enjoy it .

Its always good to give something back as im not a selfish person and very loyal .


wow
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Oct 2, 2011 10:49 AM CST Friends with an ex?
montecito
montecitomontecitoLovely, New Jersey USA96 Threads 2 Polls 5,086 Posts
time4fun4u: I have no problems with all 37 of them.They are all lovely ladies.


Oh my....you must have a very big headboard to have room for 37 marks.. You're such a little devil #38 on the way....wave
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Oct 2, 2011 10:50 AM CST Friends with an ex?
time4fun4u
time4fun4utime4fun4uAlicante, Valencia Spain18 Threads 1 Polls 10,066 Posts
grinIts a burden i have to carry with being an adonis.... rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing Come on down number 38 devil
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Oct 2, 2011 10:54 AM CST Friends with an ex?
montecito
montecitomontecitoLovely, New Jersey USA96 Threads 2 Polls 5,086 Posts
time4fun4u: Its a burden i have to carry with being an adonis.... Come on down number 38


But how do I know if you're behind door #1, 2 or 3. I don't want to win a washing machine or a years worth of toothpaste. What door are you behind.....help
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Oct 2, 2011 10:56 AM CST Friends with an ex?
time4fun4u
time4fun4utime4fun4uAlicante, Valencia Spain18 Threads 1 Polls 10,066 Posts
You might be better off winning those laugh Go for door number 4 wink
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Oct 2, 2011 11:28 AM CST Friends with an ex?
missingLondon: After two years my ex proposed that we strike up a friendship. It didn't make sense to me as we live in different countries so I said no hard feelings but no thanks.


I voted "Yes" on this one. We were friends before, during, and after our marriage (last marriage). I was in the lawyer's office when she did the divorce. And, unlike any of the others, my ex is living in my house, due to the house fire up the street and I am her caregiver. There is a law in the U.S. that if someone who's receiving government funds (she's on disability) comes to stay in my home, the person cannot be forced to leave. So, my ex is more or less here for the duration. If that means that I remain single for the rest of my life, then so be it, but that is why I am particularly focused on church-going women because they tend to be more empathetic to my situation. I still want to find someone, but realize it's going to be a little more challenging than it would be for someone who doesn't have my stituation. But that's okay - life is full of challenges, isn't it? God puts challenges in our lives to encourage us to rely more on Him!
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Oct 2, 2011 5:54 PM CST Friends with an ex?
joyaepace
joyaepacejoyaepaceGalway, Ireland11 Threads 2 Polls 958 Posts
missingLondon: After two years my ex proposed that we strike up a friendship. It didn't make sense to me as we live in different countries so I said no hard feelings but no thanks.


Depends whether you like him/her as a person or not. Although I find that there is some underlying uneasiness, at least from my side. So, I would say, I can be friendly, but not sure if a friend for real.
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Oct 2, 2011 6:34 PM CST Friends with an ex?
jonnt
jonntjonntLost in the Woods, East Sussex, England UK47 Threads 3,691 Posts
montecito: Would that be "very loyal" to each one..?? My idea of loyality is very different from yours. In a relationship loyalty means to be involved with only one man. At work it means to be a "company man/woman". In general loyality means to stick by one person.


Yes i agree with you saying to be only involved with one person ,,

I wish that was the case with me and i then mite find inner peace ,but i find it difficult to choose as they are all Foxy Ladies .

They are all satisfactory in bed ,im not complaining about that ,its just that some are better at one thing than the other , its understandable i suppose , so i look at it as Swings and Roundabouts .

I think some people may know were im coming from .

lips
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Oct 2, 2011 7:29 PM CST Friends with an ex?
I'm doing great. Thanks for asking. It's raining here now (liquid sunshine, ya know?)
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Oct 2, 2011 7:34 PM CST Friends with an ex?
jonnt
jonntjonntLost in the Woods, East Sussex, England UK47 Threads 3,691 Posts
HuggerMan4U: I'm doing great. Thanks for asking. It's raining here now (liquid sunshine, ya know?)


They say it makes the Crops Grow .

I bet Farmers always say that ,but i havnt heard it myself .

handshake
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Oct 2, 2011 7:38 PM CST Friends with an ex?
Christmas1
Christmas1Christmas1Peterborough, Ontario Canada3 Threads 869 Posts
Hmmmmm, hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm....well............haven't spoken with him for years...........no reason to. So hmmmmmmmmmmmmm....no, guess not.grin
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Oct 2, 2011 7:42 PM CST Friends with an ex?
manroe23
manroe23manroe23indonesia, Jakarta Indonesia7 Threads 6,801 Posts
it's really depends on which category :

if he is a jerk and bad person i really don't like to be involve with him again but if he is kind and good, i don't mind to remain friends with him wine
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Oct 2, 2011 7:43 PM CST Friends with an ex?
rubendario
rubendariorubendarioHartford, Connecticut USA8 Threads 1 Polls 3,278 Posts
missingLondon: After two years my ex proposed that we strike up a friendship. It didn't make sense to me as we live in different countries so I said no hard feelings but no thanks.


There is not much choice when you both had a child. But other than that for me, once a relationship ends, it's done, I move on, my focus stays on the current relationship only(wish I had one). laugh head banger peace
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Oct 2, 2011 7:56 PM CST Friends with an ex?
islandgirl62
islandgirl62islandgirl62somewhere in, Queensland Australia12 Threads 1,601 Posts
definition of being friend with my ex and being a wife of my ex... as a friend I don't have to listen to his cr*p any longer, and I don't have any expectations of him ... he is still the same shallow, self centred man I met 24 years ago, but lucky for me I'm no longer married to him.... jmo


laugh
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Oct 3, 2011 5:17 AM CST Friends with an ex?
vyoleta
vyoletavyoletaArkaroola, South Australia Australia44 Threads 6 Polls 1,050 Posts
time4fun4u: I have no problems with all 37 of them.They are all lovely ladies.



Are you sure you haven't omitted several zeros behind this number?confused
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Oct 3, 2011 5:18 AM CST Friends with an ex?
time4fun4u
time4fun4utime4fun4uAlicante, Valencia Spain18 Threads 1 Polls 10,066 Posts
I was being modest,and only mentioned the last 6 months.grin wave lips
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Oct 3, 2011 5:23 AM CST Friends with an ex?
vyoleta
vyoletavyoletaArkaroola, South Australia Australia44 Threads 6 Polls 1,050 Posts
Oh, dear, your modesty is your main charm.handshake
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Oct 3, 2011 5:26 AM CST Friends with an ex?
time4fun4u
time4fun4utime4fun4uAlicante, Valencia Spain18 Threads 1 Polls 10,066 Posts
hug bouquet
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by missingLondon (11 Polls)
Created: Oct 2011
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