After two years my ex proposed that we strike up a friendship. It didn't make sense to me as we live in different countries so I said no hard feelings but no thanks.
islandgirl62somewhere in, Queensland Australia1,601 posts
my ex and I are friends - takes 2 to make a marriage, takes 2 to break, but we were friends before, and although things have changed, we still manage to be "nice" to each other providing we don't cross the thin fine line .... but it took awhile to reach this stage....
Obviously it depends on the circumstances of the relationship and the break up whether one can, or wants to be, friends with an ex.
I think it's dangerous when one party still has feelings for the other, this can get really messy, so both need to be aware of that if they are considering friendship.
I am a friend of my ex... we have known each other for so long, we spent longer time together. There are topics we never start to talk about, but when something in his life important and something in my life important - we speak to each other. From both sides it is just friendhip... statu quo...
vyoletaArkaroola, South Australia Australia1,050 posts
No, although I would like to be friends with some of them, but they don't seem to be interested in it. Some who are interested to stay friends I don't find suitable for it. So... like in love chasing, some want you and you don't want them, some of them you want and they don't want you...
missingLondon: After two years my ex proposed that we strike up a friendship. It didn't make sense to me as we live in different countries so I said no hard feelings but no thanks.
Sounds like you know what is right for you. Must not of been easy for you I know how difficult it was for you at first with him. Me it would depend on how things were when we parted if I could. And you are right sometimes it just don't make sense
I am friend's with all my ex boyfriends; even the one that hit me. Life is too short to be carrying grudges and its just more baggage in your life. JMO
jonnt: I think its nice to be friends with my ex"s ,
Although each of them dont know i am still friends with the others .
Obviously i dont live with any of them now , it does have certain perks were i sleep with them individualy on different nites .
This gives me great pleasure as i also hope they to enjoy it .
Its always good to give something back as im not a selfish person and very loyal .
Would that be "very loyal" to each one..?? My idea of loyality is very different from yours. In a relationship loyalty means to be involved with only one man. At work it means to be a "company man/woman". In general loyality means to stick by one person.
time4fun4u: Its a burden i have to carry with being an adonis.... Come on down number 38
But how do I know if you're behind door #1, 2 or 3. I don't want to win a washing machine or a years worth of toothpaste. What door are you behind.....
missingLondon: After two years my ex proposed that we strike up a friendship. It didn't make sense to me as we live in different countries so I said no hard feelings but no thanks.
I voted "Yes" on this one. We were friends before, during, and after our marriage (last marriage). I was in the lawyer's office when she did the divorce. And, unlike any of the others, my ex is living in my house, due to the house fire up the street and I am her caregiver. There is a law in the U.S. that if someone who's receiving government funds (she's on disability) comes to stay in my home, the person cannot be forced to leave. So, my ex is more or less here for the duration. If that means that I remain single for the rest of my life, then so be it, but that is why I am particularly focused on church-going women because they tend to be more empathetic to my situation. I still want to find someone, but realize it's going to be a little more challenging than it would be for someone who doesn't have my stituation. But that's okay - life is full of challenges, isn't it? God puts challenges in our lives to encourage us to rely more on Him!
missingLondon: After two years my ex proposed that we strike up a friendship. It didn't make sense to me as we live in different countries so I said no hard feelings but no thanks.
Depends whether you like him/her as a person or not. Although I find that there is some underlying uneasiness, at least from my side. So, I would say, I can be friendly, but not sure if a friend for real.
jonntLost in the Woods, East Sussex, England UK3,691 posts
montecito: Would that be "very loyal" to each one..?? My idea of loyality is very different from yours. In a relationship loyalty means to be involved with only one man. At work it means to be a "company man/woman". In general loyality means to stick by one person.
Yes i agree with you saying to be only involved with one person ,,
I wish that was the case with me and i then mite find inner peace ,but i find it difficult to choose as they are all Foxy Ladies .
They are all satisfactory in bed ,im not complaining about that ,its just that some are better at one thing than the other , its understandable i suppose , so i look at it as Swings and Roundabouts .
I think some people may know were im coming from .
missingLondon: After two years my ex proposed that we strike up a friendship. It didn't make sense to me as we live in different countries so I said no hard feelings but no thanks.
There is not much choice when you both had a child. But other than that for me, once a relationship ends, it's done, I move on, my focus stays on the current relationship only(wish I had one).
islandgirl62somewhere in, Queensland Australia1,601 posts
definition of being friend with my ex and being a wife of my ex... as a friend I don't have to listen to his cr*p any longer, and I don't have any expectations of him ... he is still the same shallow, self centred man I met 24 years ago, but lucky for me I'm no longer married to him.... jmo
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