If you have been solo for an extended period, do you panic at the thought of going on a date, and wh ( Archived) (31)

I felt the same for my very first date after many years. But we have to face our fears and do it anyway. after a few first dates it becomes much easier, even fun.

I don't think you can ruin your date with those etiquette things. Just don’t be rude and be consistent with what she already knows about you. If she likes you she likes you, otherwise not even the most correct behaviour can help.

I don't think you can ruin your date with those etiquette things. Just don’t be rude and be consistent with what she already knows about you. If she likes you she likes you, otherwise not even the most correct behaviour can help.

I could never understand this toilet seat thing, should be up or down, why there is so much fuss about it?

It's very easy, train hubby to sit and pee, then the ring can be in the same position all the time.
One problem though, as age increase so does the drip when standing up after relieving bladder.
So instead of the dirty hand spot on the wall and mess from bad aim you will have it on the floor instead. Your choice. LOL.
As for the lid, that's another subject matter and I'm villing to discuss with future wife the position.

Go for it Professor. I was divorced and alone for 17 yrs before I met my guy. Afraid to date not wanting men in and out of my son's life. I heard so many horror stories from friends. Met him on this site. He lives 45 mins away. I also didn't know what to say on the first date and was a nervous wreck. I brought a photo album but they were my son's baby and kid pics. My son was already 17 yrs old at that time. Duh.....I really didn't know what to say. It was my first day of college too. Just trying to show I was a family person.
He was a widower of 2 yrs and had a grown daughter. Well, we sat in a restaurant and I prodded him with questions about life and what he had done and what he was seeking with meeting me. We kept it brief. On the second date in the same restaurant, I brought him a yellow rose for friendship, not knowing what it would lead to. Put it under my long skirt and feined a hurt leg when I got out of my vehicle. I held my leg and leaned over, he leaned over to see what was wrong and I pulled the yellow rose out from under my long skirt. He was hooked when he got the rose and tears flowed from his eyes. He pulled up his sleeve and showed me a yellow rose tatoo with his wife's name and explained the meaning of the tatoo. We've been together over 4 years now. His wife and I have certain similarities in our lives that are uncanny. She loved yellow roses, his wife and I have similar occupations and we both enjoy homestyle and healthy cooking and I will go fishing too(just not touch the worm). Religiously, ethnically and the part of the country where we were born are opposite but I grew up with the ethnic generations from WWI and WWII era so we had a common understanding of older generations as his mom is still alive. We also thought very much alike growing up from our generation. And yes, I have sculpted him in a variety of ways....especially to check the toilet seat for any back splash even with the seat up and make sure he leaves the seat down after he goes. Very, very important for a guy to pay attention to if he wants to get along with a woman. That's a dealbreaker for me after a couple of warnings.
We have no doubt that his deceased wife had a hand of sorts in bringing us together. The yellow rose was the clue for him so he says. I only thought of a rose for symbolic friendship and nothing more and it only came to me to buy it that day late in the afternoon just before I met him. My occupation and the fact that I can cook or really enjoy fishing may be coincidence, but the yellow rose was not a coincidence according to him.
So as we say, "Go figure". Meaning to ponder and think about something and figure out why some things occur. The only thing I can figure is that in life, there is more than one person that is meant for us. Finding a compatible person the first time is hard enough with all the differences that make us who we are, but finding them the second time is incredible. Who says that there are no second chances in life?

Now here is something that just occurred that just can't be a coincidence.I just wrote my posting on here about the yellow rose experience of 4+ yrs ago, before I even opened the morning flower that was sent to me. My guy writes to me aound 5am before he goes to work, way before I get up. I open the CS flower and it is the yellow roses with a comment under it referring to yellow roses even. His morning flowers are usually many of the other type of symbols as there are so many different symbols in general to pick from. This is most unusual considering I just wrote a posting about the yellow roses. Go figure,eh? I'm truly stunned. Subtle mental connection from the "other side" again I think.

that's my condition now ...
i will become so awkward!

No..because i know they will fall in love with me..

Gosh no first dates are sooo fun! Just go into it without expectations, keep an open mind and have fun. Dont overthink anything, just let it all unfold naturally and you will be fine! Good luck!

Please tell us how it goes, I think if you just go have a nice time "together" yea, do something that you can have fun and still talk a bit and be yourselves. When the time comes for the lovin' and that magic they speak about I think it will all just be fine. Just make it a fun thing that you both can enjoy. Anyway. that's my thought. And let us know. It's nice to hear back. Even if it isn't forever, make it nice and have some fun.
All the best!
Nikogas
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my thoughts are that you give it too much thought yourself.

just go for a short date the first time.
you know in an instant if she is right for you or not.

and if she is meant for you, the talking, the laughter, kissing, hugging etc will follow naturally.

best of luck.

Orrrr A grown Man

Well thats very reassuring H...

I just pee on the floor,its easier Merry christmas mate

Merry Christmas My ole Friend, I hope you have a great Christmas Harry.
Bettis
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hey Harry!! do you have snow there???
I haven;t seen any at all.....