daearsIn a house lol, Hawke's Bay New Zealand1,542 posts
Nope. Once happenings happen. They will happen again. Wouldn't want to even be close to them or look at them or even interested in excuses if or to why wrongdoings happened. No exes exist in my Life at all. no baggage here.
daears: Nope. Once happenings happen. They will happen again. Wouldn't want to even be close to them or look at them or even interested in excuses if or to why wrongdoings happened. No exes exist in my Life at all. no baggage here.
Sometimes when people are falling in love they test you! What if you have discarded the person who could have been the love of your life!
daears: Nope. Once happenings happen. They will happen again. Wouldn't want to even be close to them or look at them or even interested in excuses if or to why wrongdoings happened. No exes exist in my Life at all. no baggage here.
There might have been no wrongdoings
Sometimes it is just bad timing, circumstances, life, which gets in the way.
daearsIn a house lol, Hawke's Bay New Zealand1,542 posts
MsContessa: Sometimes when people are falling in love they test you! What if you have discarded the person who could have been the love of your life!
if tried to make it work prior time and it didn't. Why would it be any diff next time. If the person is true to themself their whole life. Half these problems wouldn't occur. But some just can't help themselves. Always wanting what they haven't got is what I think they're thinking. Then I feel not wanted. Or being second option cause other one for them didn't work out like did our first time so they went looking elsewhere. Get my drift ?
daearsIn a house lol, Hawke's Bay New Zealand1,542 posts
Miss Molly I feel the same apart from baggage side . Sorry but if one is meeting new lady or man and they found out an ex was in the picture. That's not a good start to any relationship from all my experiences.
ChesneyChrist: Yea, maybe. If after a substantial amount of time there was still a remnant of feeling and a reason to believe it would work out differently.
daears: Miss Molly I feel the same apart from baggage side . Sorry but if one is meeting new lady or man and they found out an ex was in the picture. That's not a good start to any relationship from all my experiences.
It depends what "in the picture" means.
There is a big difference between being still friendly with exes, or any other men, and being romantically interested in them.
I wouldn't start a new relationship if I thought that an old one wasn't fully over.
daearsIn a house lol, Hawke's Bay New Zealand1,542 posts
mollybaby: It depends what "in the picture" means.
There is a big difference between being still friendly with exes, or any other men, and being romantically interested in them.
I wouldn't start a new relationship if I thought that an old one wasn't fully over.
In the picture means involved in your space life as friend or wanting again lover. One could be waiting for ever hopeing. If one ask the question to potential reconnection an they have not answered or you see them with other. It's finito. Life is too short and I not like being In limbo as I would put it.
daears: In the picture means involved in your space life as friend or wanting again lover. One could be waiting for ever hopeing. If one ask the question to potential reconnection an they have not answered or you see them with other. It's finito. Life is too short and I not like being In limbo as I would put it.
Again 'in my space' needs defining. If you mean that they are calling to the house every evening wanting to take your time away from a new partner, then yes there could be an issue. If it is someone who is in the background of your life along with other friends that you still have contact with, but in a totally platonic way, then I don't see a problem. Most people are savvy enough to know the difference.
I don't really believe in second chances... Most people will give you a totally different answer depending on their current life circumstances... Is it really a feeling that survived or some kind of habit, fantasy...compromise?! It has to be really exceptional relationship to be willing to give it another chance... Otherwise it could be just the case of the devil you know...and laziness...
daearsIn a house lol, Hawke's Bay New Zealand1,542 posts
mollybaby: Again 'in my space' needs defining. If you mean that they are calling to the house every evening wanting to take your time away from a new partner, then yes there could be an issue. If it is someone who is in the background of your life along with other friends that you still have contact with, but in a totally platonic way, then I don't see a problem. Most people are savvy enough to know the difference.
you've obviously never been cheated on by your partner with an ex Miss Molly. And they said they just wanted to make sure there were no feelings I'm not that stupid . Just personal experiences may give us diff thoughts on this topic. So I will agree to differ.
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Sometimes we make wrong choices in life, It's only a mistake if you both don't learn from it.
btw, If it weren't for second chances we give everyday in life, we'd all be alone