Would you date someone with Bipolar if you knew before the relationship started that they had it? (31)
Not all bipolar people are severe my friend is mild, worst is when she gets a bit depressed but only happens for a few weeks every year. Sorry to hear about your experience. Had an ex like that and he had no disorder!
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A person that is bipolar and on their meds is great but the problem is that as we age adjustments must be made to the medications. Before these adjustments are made it's like they are off their meds. 
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If he takes his meds, then I would probably give him a chance. As long as he's making a real effort to get better and not using his condition as an excuse to behave in bad ways then I'm ok with it.
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Bronze33: If he takes his meds, then I would probably give him a chance. As long as he's making a real effort to get better and not using his condition as an excuse to behave in bad ways then I'm ok with it.
Actually I already dated a bipolar but he never told me about it during our relationship. Had a hell of a time because I didn´t understand what was going on and couldn´t help him. If he had told before it would be another story and maybe we could be still together. Pity because I really liked him.
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Looking4Quality: I have the most amazing friend with Bipolar she is kind funny and great she has up and down days but I adore her and she is so good to me. She is single but is honest with people she dates about the bipolar and I feel it puts them off. Pity really because she is a great catch.
My last husband was bi-polar. He loved me and I loved him but after a few years I had to walk away for my own sanity.
Trying to rationalise irrational behaviour took its toll on my health in different ways. I ended up going to see a psychiatrist thinking I needed help with my mental health. Apparently not! After I became ill with other health problems, I knew I had to start putting me first as he was incapable (NOT out of malice) of coping with me being ill. Near the end of our relationship I did a lot of research about the condition (his not mine) and its ramifications. A lot of things started to make sense but it didn´t make life any easier. And it didn´t make my illness disappear. Surgery did!
I walked away from the relationship and started looking after myself.
I wish him well and feel no resentment towards him in spite of some the extremely difficult moments I lived in his company because I know they were caused by his condition. We also had beautiful moments and I cherish those.
Would I do it again? No.
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Mysticalli: Actually I already dated a bipolar a person with bipolar disorder but he never told me about it during our relationship. Had a hell of a time because I didn´t understand what was going on and couldn´t help him. If he had told before it would be another story and maybe we could be still together. Pity because I really liked him.
sorry!
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My ex wife was diagnosed as being Bi polar at one point in our marriage, one of the biggest challenges was that as soon as she felt better she would stop taking her medication.... "We" she and I..decided "I" would help make sure she did not miss the dosage and I also tried to make sure we spoke with the doctor regularly,,it turned out that then I was many times accused as being controlling when she decided that she no longer needed the medication. It was towards the end of our relationship which had been many years, I should add that later it came to light that she was also abusing methamphetamine and other drugs that I think she did not even know what they were....It really turned into a fiasco and it was sad to see her drift away ...like someone being pulled out to sea.
So!..I would say that for anyone, just don't take it for granted and try to really know what you are committing yourself to, each person is different and I am hopeful that my situation was not the norm...I sure hope not.
Niko
So!..I would say that for anyone, just don't take it for granted and try to really know what you are committing yourself to, each person is different and I am hopeful that my situation was not the norm...I sure hope not.
Niko
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Mysticalli: sorry!
that's the catch 22 with this thing. when their good their realllly good.but when their bad, you can lose things that would have been attached for a lifetime,lol
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Looking4Quality: I have the most amazing friend with Bipolar she is kind funny and great she has up and down days but I adore her and she is so good to me. She is single but is honest with people she dates about the bipolar and I feel it puts them off. Pity really because she is a great catch.
I agree with you, she should hold off telling men until they know each other better. That way the person would know more how she acts.If things start getting serious, then would have to tell. She would also have to make it clear, she takes her meds & has a shrink, plus therapist.
Of course, any person that is bipolar, and did not let the person know before they moved in together or married would be dishonest at the start. You would not want to find out after you got married. Because a person who is off their med's are not right. It is up to the other person if they want to be married to someone who has that condition.
Hopefully, they would have strong enough love to get through on a rough day. Everyone has issues, no one if perfect.
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The Dobe
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I was married to a woman with an undiagnosed bipolar disorder. When we met she hadn't displayed any signs of her illness but I vividly remember a dinner party with her aunt and uncle where she began to talk very quickly and non stop. I wish I had known what lie in store for us as I would rather not have had the experience. Over the next couple of years her disease progressed to the point where she had a phsycotic break and became homocidal instead of suicidal. She ended up in the mental health unit where she worked one day as her facial muscles had contracted into a Sardonic Smile and was then admitted to the local hospital phsycology ward. Upon being release from there she phoned me at work to tell me not to come home as she had changed the locks and would call the police. I felt that if she needed to blame me for this then that was all right by me (temporarily) and stayed away. A couple of weeks later when she had been brought down from that mania she wanted me to know that the reason she had kicked me out was that she was afraid that she was going to kill me in my sleep. She was without a doubt the best friend I ever had (after all she saved my life) but when she asked if there was any chance of reconciliation I'm afraid my answer was no. That relationship was an absolute nightmare and I feel sorry for her daughter as it is a hereditary disease and I hope it skips her but the odds are not in her favour. My ex's father had commited suicide and was also diagnosed bipolar. Such a devistating disease for all conscerned but if properly managed through medication then it is controlable, however there is a high rate of residitism as the person who suffers the disease feels like they are cured after taking the meds for a period of time and nothing could be farther from the truth. I sympathize with those that have it as their's is not an easy life but speaking as one who was put through hell because of it, I have exhausted my patience and tolerance with it.
Some of our most talented comedians and actors suffer from this and they are truly great at their craft (but sadly can't diassociate from the character they are portraying some times). My sympathy but from a distance
Some of our most talented comedians and actors suffer from this and they are truly great at their craft (but sadly can't diassociate from the character they are portraying some times). My sympathy but from a distance
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No I would not. Been there, done that. I loved him with my whole heart, but his disease was changing me as well. I lost my self-esteem, confidence, humor, and the rollercoaster ride was not one I wanted to be on for the rest of my life.
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Wouldn't bother me because I would have someone as silly as myself lol.
The only thing I would insist on is that she is at least trying to take care of herself and the condition.
The only thing I would insist on is that she is at least trying to take care of herself and the condition.
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Yes I would definately give it my best shot. My best friend of over 20 years suffers from it, and she is very similiar to yours. I love her with all my heart, but on her "off" days she sure can be a handful. But when you love someone nothing should hold you back. I would just recommend doing a lot of research before entering the relationship because you will be in for one heck of a roller coaster ride.:teddybear And everyone deserves to love and to be loved!
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Kaybee50: No I would not. Been there, done that. I loved him with my whole heart, but his disease was changing me as well. I lost my self-esteem, confidence, humor, and the rollercoaster ride was not one I wanted to be on for the rest of my life.
Same here. Loved her with all my heart. Not a good time watching our children suffer either.
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Looking4Quality: I have the most amazing friend with Bipolar she is kind funny and great she has up and down days but I adore her and she is so good to me. She is single but is honest with people she dates about the bipolar and I feel it puts them off. Pity really because she is a great catch.
Sorry to say - and sad - I would not date a man that has a bipolar illness.
Once you love someone you take all the baggage that comes with that person - and we all have baggage of one sort or another - but before anything can develop into love - I would not create a situation, like a date where feelings can develop - loving is hard enough as it is.
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michael63ca: Same here. Loved her with all my heart. Not a good time watching our children suffer either.
I am so sorry for your children, and I understand quite intimately what you went through. Such a difficult disease and I hurt for anyone who has it...it leaves a path of destruction and it takes no prisoners. It is so very difficult to end a relationship with someone who is your entire heart...
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Looking4Quality: I have the most amazing friend with Bipolar she is kind funny and great she has up and down days but I adore her and she is so good to me. She is single but is honest with people she dates about the bipolar and I feel it puts them off. Pity really because she is a great catch.
My girlfriend lived with a bipolar guy for 10 years. The relationship ended when he called her on the phone and shot himself while she was on the other line. What a nasty, evil man that was to leave her with that memory. Talk about a sick mind.
Granted, not every bi-polar is that crazy, but I wouldn't waste my time to find out. Thanks, but no thanks.
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I am Bipolar, so a resounding yes from me. Kinda hypocritical if i said no, wouldn't it?
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Kaybee50: No I would not. Been there, done that. I loved him with my whole heart, but his disease was changing me as well. I lost my self-esteem, confidence, humor, and the rollercoaster ride was not one I wanted to be on for the rest of my life.
Same here. It took me a long time to recover from that three year roller coaster and never less I've learned a lot from it.
He had told me on the first date about it. Well, I've asked him what he was "on" because it was clear to me that he was. I could hear all the warning bells going off and went for it anyhow. I'm everything but shallow and still, I've learned to stay clear of addicts and people with disorders - it doesn't serve my own state of mind.
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....Personally,my Peace of Mind and Mental Health,are too precious to compromise,and I would'nt do anything to put either in jeopardy.....However,on a professional level,I would be keen to assist as I have worked in this field.............
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............and have seen what it can do to partners,its not pleasant...But in saying that,all cases are not the same,and have to be looked at individually,after all,everyone deserves a chance of happiness...let each be his own judge............
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freebyrdflying: ............and have seen what it can do to partners,its not pleasant...But in saying that,all cases are not the same,and have to be looked at individually,after all,everyone deserves a chance of happiness...let each be his own judge............
Never in a million years, all mental people should be under constant observation.
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tomcatwarne: Never in a million years, all mental people should be under constant observation.
I'm talking about milder cases,not severe....we all have to share this earth....Some of us are more fortunate than others...
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tomcatwarne: Never in a million years, all mental people should be under constant observation.
Totally agree, except that who has a relationship with someone bipolar he'll finally may need observation also.
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g_4213: Unfortunately, the Bi polar condition is a serious problem here in Australia as it effects 100% of the female population.
Not quite 100%, but as a young man I learned to get into wherever the girl kept her medications as quickly as possible to search for prescription psychiatric drugs. I found that a disturbing number of women, even young women, were on some type of medication.
A friend of mine once searched a new girlfriend's handbag while she was in the shower and found a prescription medication (lithium). He called me ask what the drug was and what it was used to treat.
It went some way to explaining certain aspects of her behaviour.
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Snazz: Accordin' to the results of this poll, I'm screwed
Awww, I wouldn't take this poll too seriously, and even if it did reflect the majority, it don't reflect on everyone here
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StillOfTheNight: Awww, I wouldn't take this poll too seriously, and even if it did reflect the majority, it don't reflect on everyone here
XD I know. It's just some people's views of mental disorders ruffles my petticoats!
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Would you date someone with Bipolar if you knew before the relationship started that they had it?(Vote Below)