Custody battles, property, residence, visitation..... ( Archived) (47)

I left her the house the furniture the new car, money is not my master! I took my old car my old PC and my clothes, and my sanity! It took time to rebuild but it happened, my sanity that is! After five years of her I needed the time for myself again,
Try living with someone that has phobias on just about everything in life,

Well I would put her on but she is only 16 so she is not allowed on a dating sight! it’s the mods!

Honest!

Well you were young enough to start again, Im not
Phobias? Beeen there seen that!

Well actually I learnt if you clean the spider webs off on a regular basses that the wildlife birds in the area will actually keep the new webs and spiders down to a manageable state, but I couldn’t do anything about the neighbours trees, or the other things,

But life is so much pleasant now,

@nd time around Blitz. You might even find true love.

So Bliz you got a formal to prepare for this year as well... best of luck mate, I'll send you some panadol, and maybe a case or two, you'll need it...

good idea to keep the spider webs around your house,it stops the termites that fly in on the wing to make a nest , eat you out of house and home,and ruining your bloody life

Everyone does not get out of it what they put in... eg... we both worked very very hard for our stuff, and just when we reached our goal, the unthinkable happened... a car accident...

Gee Bro, Im never goin to kill another spider ever.

Not good to kill spiders... they are just a source of amusement... I love to see their webs... in the garden... under my eaves is not so cool...

theyre good little critters

"Id go with a pre nup next time if I were you. "
Yeah, lol for a couple of grand it's not worth the heartburn.
But these incidents have a way of getting underneath your skin.

unfortunetely there is the downside... I am sorry for your loss Meri..

First divorce meant I received about 35% of total assets (including super I couldn't touch for the next 20 years). And paying child support as well. At least I got to see my kids at least once a week.

2nd divorce took 2 years to go through (nearly as long as the marriage) and then another 4 years for the property settlement. Probalemo was that I sold my home in Sydney, bought one for us to share in Melbourne, needed to borrow some money from the bank but had to be in joint names as I was only contracting. She contributed zero to the purchase costs and the 60% deposit, and kept her home and rented it out. We pooled our money (but not her rental income or her mortgage repayments) and WE spent what we where earning together. Maybe a bit more by her on her days off as the Club had some very friendly pokies she needed to keep happy.

She claimed she was entitled to 50% of the total value of the house, excluding the mortgage at the time. I claimed that as her home had doubled in value while this one had gone up by 50%, and was still covered by a mortgage of 30%, I felt that in reality she should pay me but I would just call it even. 4 years down the track with mounting legal bills, I said enough is enough and gave her $40,000 for her to feed the pokies. At least this gave me peace of mind as now I can do what I want without the fear of starting again with next to nothing.

Trouble is that you go into a marriage for a life commitment (some of us anyway) but it doesn't always turn out the way you thought it would be. Some of us are bitter, some have regrets, some just go on ahead.

Blizz, keep on going forward the way you are going, sounds like you have made good choices.

Oh my dear I am so sorry.

Only money, easy come easy go.
I'm much happier without it as I'm with the person I love now.
And that wouldn't have happened unless the prior events had transpired.

Exactly. Having grown up with a phylosophy of things can be better although you can enjoy what you have now, I have tried to keep with this my entire life. I missed out on winning Tatts last Tuesday again (one day I will buy a ticket) but do not miss the money I never had.

It would be interesting to know what it was like to get child support on top of a wage rather than pay child support out of your after tax wage.
Although I only have to pay for the 60% the ex has the kids, ie: 20% more time with the kids than myself, this fact seems to be lost with child support as they just look at her single parent pension and my income and work it out from there. grrrrr

You know something Daggy, maybe you and the other guys/girls can give us poor females/males tips on what we should/shouldn't do when it comes to
seeking property maintenance, etc.,
the information I am gleaning from here, is better than the info I have been fed by legal aid and this site is a friggin' lot cheaper too...