Hi know this might seem a little on sided but I have 8 good friends 6 married with kids and 2 engaged and all of their men have cheated. They all know and are unhappy/suspicious and bitter in life I just don't see the point. I have only ever been 100% faithful in a relationship and I was cheated on in the past too. I know lots of men are faithful but I believe most aren't. I know women can be just as bad but in my experience its worse the other way around. All my girlfriend would never cheat despite being cheated on, one was temped once but did not. Are most men programed to be unfaithful I just think its very sad these days and is getting worse in women also. Anyway rant over!!!
I think it's total rubbish that cheating is in any way acceptable and just because there's more and more of it going on these days doesn't give anyone the right to call it an excuse
Men are NOT programmed to be unfaithful, only lowlifes would do such a thing, male OR female, and if you can't be true, respectful and honest with your partner, then get the hell outta there
Looking4Quality: Hi know this might seem a little on sided but I have 8 good friends 6 married with kids and 2 engaged and all of their men have cheated. They all know and are unhappy/suspicious and bitter in life I just don't see the point. I have only ever been 100% faithful in a relationship and I was cheated on in the past too. I know lots of men are faithful but I believe most aren't. I know women can be just as bad but in my experience its worse the other way around. All my girlfriend would never cheat despite being cheated on, one was temped once but did not. Are most men programed to be unfaithful I just think its very sad these days and is getting worse in women also. Anyway rant over!!!
hmmm........these are the ones that are found out!!!! The reasons why the cheating occurred should be looked at!!! Is it temptation- too hard to resist, is it anger towards partner not expressed, is it boredom...again not expressed, is it ego boosting. It is certainly something which can be forgiven.......but can the couple in question move forward. And we return to the main ingredients in any relationship.......communication and honesty.
ladymine: . Is this a debate on infidelity or whether 'Ladymine is a Hypocrite or not' seriously...
No I never said you were a hypocrite, I said there was some hypocrisy in the post. I try to stay away from ad hominem unless I really detest the person.
Looking4Quality: Hi know this might seem a little on sided but I have 8 good friends 6 married with kids and 2 engaged and all of their men have cheated. They all know and are unhappy/suspicious and bitter in life I just don't see the point. I have only ever been 100% faithful in a relationship and I was cheated on in the past too. I know lots of men are faithful but I believe most aren't. I know women can be just as bad but in my experience its worse the other way around. All my girlfriend would never cheat despite being cheated on, one was temped once but did not. Are most men programed to be unfaithful I just think its very sad these days and is getting worse in women also. Anyway rant over!!!
I dont think its ever acceptable or excusable to cheat. If you truly loved the first person the other person would never hold your attention. Also from experience, i think, once cheater always a cheater
Hi L4Q. I find when this subject of cheating comes up, it is nearly always the men who get the blame for it, but the way I see it is, men are not cheating on their own, they are cheating with woman, so in that case there are the same amount of men being unfaithful as there are women. Men have their faults and I would be the first to point them out. but in this case I find both are equally to blame.
More men than women cheat on their significant others. But once that trust is broken either side that was cheated on should walk from the relationship. If something's broke and you try to put it back together again it'll always still have cracks that are visible and ever present. It's healthier for both parties just to split ways once the indiscretion has taken place.
Looking4Quality: I have only ever been 100% faithful in a relationship. I was cheated on in the past too. I know lots of men are faithful but I believe most aren't. I know women can be just as bad but in my experience its worse the other way around. All my girlfriend would never cheat despite being cheated on, one was temped once but did not. Are most men programed to be unfaithful?
Kinda goes with the happiness poll - single women and married men are the happiest people. and actually most married people admit (85%) - both male and female have an extra-maritial affair sometime during their marriage. sad but true.
Forgiveness must be a necessary part of a marriage
Solamente: In general men and women only cheat if there is something missing in the relationship that they need.
Both however can be seduced but the serious ones don't comply
I tend not to agree with this, many people who cheat do so in the heat of the moment and give no thought to the devastating effect it will have on their quite possibly happy relationship.
They simply can't keep it in their pants, and then have to pay the price.
Looking4Quality: Hi know this might seem a little on sided but I have 8 good friends 6 married with kids and 2 engaged and all of their men have cheated. They all know and are unhappy/suspicious and bitter in life I just don't see the point. I have only ever been 100% faithful in a relationship and I was cheated on in the past too. I know lots of men are faithful but I believe most aren't. I know women can be just as bad but in my experience its worse the other way around. All my girlfriend would never cheat despite being cheated on, one was temped once but did not. Are most men programed to be unfaithful I just think its very sad these days and is getting worse in women also. Anyway rant over!!!
Looking4Quality: Hi know this might seem a little on sided but I have 8 good friends 6 married with kids and 2 engaged and all of their men have cheated. They all know and are unhappy/suspicious and bitter in life I just don't see the point. I have only ever been 100% faithful in a relationship and I was cheated on in the past too. I know lots of men are faithful but I believe most aren't. I know women can be just as bad but in my experience its worse the other way around. All my girlfriend would never cheat despite being cheated on, one was temped once but did not. Are most men programed to be unfaithful I just think its very sad these days and is getting worse in women also. Anyway rant over!!!
So who are all these men cheating with? Is it the same woman? Why do women think "most men are cheating", do you not realise that if they are then they are cheating with "most women"!
I agree - once a commitment has been agreed on - that is that
dissolve the commitment if u want another partner...
regarding mistakes tho - yes people make them - we can't expect our partner to be perfect in everything, but fidelity I think is a reasonalbe expectation, especially in a committed relationship
I guess, for me, as I have mentioned before - I think it's important first, to communicate and be certain that u and your partner are in agreement as to whether you are in a commitment and therefore second, do not ASSUME there is a commitment unless steps have been taken to "seal the deal"
I say this because I had a man accuse of cheating on him however we were not in a commitment and he had in fact, refused to commit so I started to see others .... his protestations were amusing,but no more than that. I basically told him that if he was not wanting to commit then .... I wanted to find someone who did....it was a bumpy spot that almost ruined our friendship (and ultimately did ruin it) so that's why I think it so important to be clear on this issue before jumping to conclusions
chris27292729: Your post, the summary of the thread.
fidelity is important but for some reason there are people that this truth eludes......almost anything else can be readily forgiven - infidelity is very difficult for a couple to bounce back from
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