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Jul 28, 2008 4:37 AM CSTcan ex-bed buddies be friends when the other enters a relationship with another person?
lippy
lippylippyMelbourne, Victoria, Australia2 Threads 1 Polls 3 Posts

can ex-bed buddies be friends when the other enters a relationship with another person?(Vote Below)

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Yes
69
32%
No
67
31%
Only if there is honesty between all concern
15
7%
No, cause in the end jealousy is there
14
6%
As long as all involed know whats going on
7
3%
Who cares im getting a root
4
2%
It can work as long as u know where u stand
14
6%
As long as the bich doesnt find out
2
1%
Only if the friendship is worth it in the end
16
7%
Cant decide
11
5%
Total Votes
219
jaw drop sleep dunno
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Jul 28, 2008 4:37 AM CST can ex-bed buddies be friends when the other enters a relationship with another person?
lippy
lippylippyMelbourne, Victoria Australia2 Threads 1 Polls 3 Posts
jaw drop sleep dunno
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Jul 28, 2008 4:40 AM CST can ex-bed buddies be friends when the other enters a relationship with another person?
JusDoinMytingYo
JusDoinMytingYoJusDoinMytingYothere, Uzbekistan1 Threads 111 Posts
who would want to be friends with their ex anyway?
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Jul 28, 2008 4:46 AM CST can ex-bed buddies be friends when the other enters a relationship with another person?
Karma3
Karma3Karma3Somewhere, Tamil Nadu India121 Threads 826 Posts
Sure. Why not. You bed him, not wed him. dunno
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Jul 28, 2008 4:52 AM CST can ex-bed buddies be friends when the other enters a relationship with another person?
JusDoinMytingYo
JusDoinMytingYoJusDoinMytingYothere, Uzbekistan1 Threads 111 Posts
forget it, there is a reason your broke up, leave it be
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Jul 28, 2008 4:54 AM CST can ex-bed buddies be friends when the other enters a relationship with another person?
Sommerauer71
Sommerauer71Sommerauer71Salzburg, Austria164 Threads 4 Polls 19,249 Posts
Lippy

I am confused, are we talking relationship exes or simply bed buddies?

I think it depends on the individual, location often plays a part, if people are located far away from each other and usually the partners move on then the contact will fizzle out.

It is easier to get over a partner if there is some distance, I am a great believer in no contact, as hard as it is, it is important to not have contact.

If you live close to each other, then it is harder, I left the country to recover from my ex but it worked. Never easy or pretty, but it worked for me. I cannot be doing with emotional assaults and I found that was what happened.
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Jul 28, 2008 5:30 AM CST can ex-bed buddies be friends when the other enters a relationship with another person?
Zarah
ZarahZarahdublin, Dublin Ireland34 Threads 2,178 Posts
Aw come on women be honest...it all comes down to whether the new shag is better looking...if she is totally hot it is a kick in the guts...if not you wonder what she has that has his interest so enthralled...jaws of life perhaps?
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Jul 28, 2008 5:48 AM CST can ex-bed buddies be friends when the other enters a relationship with another person?
stefonline
stefonlinestefonlineDublin, Ireland152 Threads 1 Polls 13,318 Posts
Yes it is.....I would'nt have thought it possible 6 years ago....but you know what you move past it and rise above it....applause
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Jul 28, 2008 6:00 AM CST can ex-bed buddies be friends when the other enters a relationship with another person?
Sommerauer71
Sommerauer71Sommerauer71Salzburg, Austria164 Threads 4 Polls 19,249 Posts
Zarah: Aw come on women be honest...it all comes down to whether the new shag is better looking...if she is totally hot it is a kick in the guts...if not you wonder what she has that has his interest so enthralled...jaws of life perhaps?




Interesting theory there, that would hurt if a woman was not over a person and regularly came into contact with the 'new couple'

Also about how confident you are, secure you are within yourself.

My ex husband left me for his assistant, she is eight years younger than me and she is terribly attractive, and we get on well, but I have embraced her rather than see her as a threat.

As long as she is with him it makes my life easier, considering we have a lot of contact because our children live with them 50% of the time.

Of course it hurts, when a partner has a new partner, we are human and it hurts men too, but it is down to the individual how they deal with it.

I chose to be dignified, then I left the country, which helped me to recover.
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Jul 28, 2008 6:05 AM CST can ex-bed buddies be friends when the other enters a relationship with another person?
stefonline
stefonlinestefonlineDublin, Ireland152 Threads 1 Polls 13,318 Posts
Sommerauer71: Interesting theory there, that would hurt if a woman was not over a person and regularly came into contact with the 'new couple'

Also about how confident you are, secure you are within yourself.

My ex husband left me for his assistant, she is eight years younger than me and she is terribly attractive, and we get on well, but I have embraced her rather than see her as a threat.

As long as she is with him it makes my life easier, considering we have a lot of contact because our children live with them 50% of the time.

Of course it hurts, when a partner has a new partner, we are human and it hurts men too, but it is down to the individual how they deal with it.

I chose to be dignified, then I left the country, which helped me to recover.







Very well expressed my dear.....hug
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Jul 28, 2008 6:15 AM CST can ex-bed buddies be friends when the other enters a relationship with another person?
Sommerauer71
Sommerauer71Sommerauer71Salzburg, Austria164 Threads 4 Polls 19,249 Posts
Thank you stefonline and Hi.
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Jul 28, 2008 7:07 AM CST can ex-bed buddies be friends when the other enters a relationship with another person?
stefonline
stefonlinestefonlineDublin, Ireland152 Threads 1 Polls 13,318 Posts
Sommerauer71: Thank you stefonline and Hi.



Hi to you Sommer......another glorious day here in the Capital.....applause wave
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Jul 28, 2008 7:10 AM CST can ex-bed buddies be friends when the other enters a relationship with another person?
Sommerauer71
Sommerauer71Sommerauer71Salzburg, Austria164 Threads 4 Polls 19,249 Posts
stefonline: Hi to you Sommer......another glorious day here in the Capital.....



Yes, I hear, one gentleman has informed me it is beautiful there today.

Here too, in West Midlands.

I am here in the UK before my return to Austria.
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Jul 28, 2008 7:11 AM CST can ex-bed buddies be friends when the other enters a relationship with another person?
stefonline
stefonlinestefonlineDublin, Ireland152 Threads 1 Polls 13,318 Posts
Sommerauer71: Yes, I hear, one gentleman has informed me it is beautiful there today.

Here too, in West Midlands.

I am here in the UK before my return to Austria.



Enjoy the rest of your vacation....and safe journey home...
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Jul 28, 2008 8:48 AM CST can ex-bed buddies be friends when the other enters a relationship with another person?
Ambrose2007
Ambrose2007Ambrose2007BFE, South Dakota USA110 Threads 17 Polls 14,069 Posts
It's possible, but it can easily cause problems in the current relationship. It largely depends on the extent of the friendship with the ex. If their contact is casual and infrequent, then probably no problem. If their friendship includes sleepovers, big problem. Anything in between is subject to negotiation and the temperaments of those involved.
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Jul 28, 2008 8:50 AM CST can ex-bed buddies be friends when the other enters a relationship with another person?
shipoker55
shipoker55shipoker55St. Petersburg, Florida USA256 Threads 2 Polls 12,797 Posts
yes....my ex recently married the man that she left me for. We are all friendly with each other. What is gone is gone....doesn't mean there can't be something else!handshake
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Jul 28, 2008 8:54 AM CST can ex-bed buddies be friends when the other enters a relationship with another person?
Sommerauer71
Sommerauer71Sommerauer71Salzburg, Austria164 Threads 4 Polls 19,249 Posts
shipoker55: yes....my ex recently married the man that she left me for. We are all friendly with each other. What is gone is gone....doesn't mean there can't be something else!


What a refreshing attitude.
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Jul 28, 2008 9:04 AM CST can ex-bed buddies be friends when the other enters a relationship with another person?
WhatUwish4
WhatUwish4WhatUwish4St. Augustine, Florida USA2 Threads 12,827 Posts
I figure if I slept with him it was because I liked him. Why should I stop liking him just because one of us has moved on?
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Jul 28, 2008 9:07 AM CST can ex-bed buddies be friends when the other enters a relationship with another person?
JusDoinMytingYo: who would want to be friends with their ex anyway?


Those that are not resentful..wink
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Jul 28, 2008 9:11 AM CST can ex-bed buddies be friends when the other enters a relationship with another person?
WhatUwish4
WhatUwish4WhatUwish4St. Augustine, Florida USA2 Threads 12,827 Posts
stefonline: Yes it is.....I would'nt have thought it possible 6 years ago....but you know what you move past it and rise above it....



So true!
handshake
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Jul 28, 2008 9:47 AM CST can ex-bed buddies be friends when the other enters a relationship with another person?
There are a hundred ways to make love, sex is only one of those ways..
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Apr 21, 2009 9:49 PM CST can ex-bed buddies be friends when the other enters a relationship with another person?
samsiteone
samsiteonesamsiteoneBridgeport, Connecticut USA1 Threads 1 Polls 65 Posts
I can't...
I'm still in love with her. smitten
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Apr 21, 2009 9:58 PM CST can ex-bed buddies be friends when the other enters a relationship with another person?
RayfromUSA
RayfromUSARayfromUSAvienne, Rhone-Alpes France113 Threads 36 Polls 9,933 Posts
In response to: who would want to be friends with their ex anyway?


Actually, exes make surprisingly good friends.

Just don't sleep over or the past will come back to haunt you.
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Apr 21, 2009 10:03 PM CST can ex-bed buddies be friends when the other enters a relationship with another person?
LovelyAsTheSun
LovelyAsTheSunLovelyAsTheSunMesa, Arizona USA5 Threads 388 Posts
yes.
i dated someone for a month, it didnt work out, but we stayed friends. he began dating shortly after we broke up, and i wasnt clinging on to the past. we are still friends now.
of course, we never had sex.
it seems difficult to keep a friendship, nearly impossible after you had sex with someone.
everything is just too complicated.roll eyes
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Apr 21, 2009 10:06 PM CST can ex-bed buddies be friends when the other enters a relationship with another person?
bestat45
bestat45bestat45saint john, New Brunswick Canada8 Threads 1,532 Posts
I think that a friendship is still possible in this case as long as "both" no longer have any feelings for the other. If this is not the case: absolutely not.
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Apr 21, 2009 10:06 PM CST can ex-bed buddies be friends when the other enters a relationship with another person?
Big_John
Big_JohnBig_JohnOcean Springs, Mississippi USA26 Threads 13,159 Posts
If I undestand what you are asking, you want to know if I can stay friends with some lady I dated and had sex with and now she is with someone else I know.

Why not. I am friends with several ladies I used to date. It doesn't matter to me who she is with once I am no longer in a relationship with her that is s*xual in nature.

Life is too short to worry about stuff like this.
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Apr 21, 2009 10:10 PM CST can ex-bed buddies be friends when the other enters a relationship with another person?
rocketqueen
rocketqueenrocketqueengeelong, Victoria Australia28 Threads 1 Polls 3,618 Posts
JusDoinMytingYo: forget it, there is a reason your broke up, leave it be



who said you were even 'togethor'???? and my answer is definatley yes.....but some people get so emotionally involved.....

i see sex as just a 'relief' of tension, no more so than a massage....

making love well thats a different story, and what some people can get confused about wine
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Apr 21, 2009 10:12 PM CST can ex-bed buddies be friends when the other enters a relationship with another person?
rocketqueen
rocketqueenrocketqueengeelong, Victoria Australia28 Threads 1 Polls 3,618 Posts
bestat45: I think that a friendship is still possible in this case as long as "both" no longer have any feelings for the other. If this is not the case: absolutely not.



as in feelings of 'love'??? you can still love someone as a person but not be 'in love' with them....please clarify.....
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Apr 21, 2009 10:15 PM CST can ex-bed buddies be friends when the other enters a relationship with another person?
bestat45
bestat45bestat45saint john, New Brunswick Canada8 Threads 1,532 Posts
rocketqueen: as in feelings of 'love'??? you can still love someone as a person but not be 'in love' with them....please clarify.....

I guess i wasn't that clear.
What i am trying to get across is that if one of the former partners had still had feelings for the one that was in a new relationship, it would be difficult to maintain a friendship. If both have moved on emotinally, no problem to maintain a friendship.
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Aug 9, 2009 2:26 PM CST can ex-bed buddies be friends when the other enters a relationship with another person?
zdeathangelz
zdeathangelzzdeathangelzjacksonville, Florida USA37 Threads 1 Polls 5,081 Posts
dunno dunno why no if they respect each other wishes and honor each other,just like a woman and am man can be friends,without having sex cause they enjoy each other company and agree all they will be is friends,for they know it is better to be in each other's lives as friends,to not being in each other's life confused help
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