Gosh, I thought this was one of the genuine men here, after MANY hours and hours of typing, when it came to the pic and me questioning it, he was really offended. I am a very peaceful woman...do I press on, or leaveit alone? Hmmmmm
2Whitedoves: Gosh, I thought this was one of the genuine men here, after MANY hours and hours of typing, when it came to the pic and me questioning it, he was really offended. I am a very peaceful woman...do I press on, or leaveit alone? Hmmmmm
There's a reason a lot of people have a no pic - no reply line on their profile, I don't answer emails without pics anymore (other then from regular forum posters).
2Whitedoves: Gosh, I thought this was one of the genuine men here, after MANY hours and hours of typing, when it came to the pic and me questioning it, he was really offended. I am a very peaceful woman...do I press on, or leaveit alone? Hmmmmm
Gees, after 8 weeks, a woman like YOU could already be planning the wedding!
But I would point out that either 1) He's a total dunce about computers and barely knows how to turn on the computer, let alone knows how to use a cam; or 2) He has something to hide that he doesn't want you to know about (a bad past, or physical/mental/emotional stuff, for example).
2Whitedoves: Gosh, I thought this was one of the genuine men here, after MANY hours and hours of typing, when it came to the pic and me questioning it, he was really offended. I am a very peaceful woman...do I press on, or leaveit alone? Hmmmmm
don't you know that the best defense is a good offense....
I think there is a "red flag" in this game..... leave it alone, cause he ain't genuine. .... I'm just saying.
2Whitedoves: Gosh, I thought this was one of the genuine men here, after MANY hours and hours of typing, when it came to the pic and me questioning it, he was really offended. I am a very peaceful woman...do I press on, or leaveit alone? Hmmmmm
If he is not sharing his picture, then you should be leery of him. There is no excuse in this day and age for him not to be able to manage at least 1 picture for you.
Lucnyc: If he is not sharing his picture, then you should be leery of him. There is no excuse in this day and age for him not to be able to manage at least 1 picture for you.
excellent response AND from a man - I'd listen to this!!! good post
Lucnyc: If he is not sharing his picture, then you should be leery of him. There is no excuse in this day and age for him not to be able to manage at least 1 picture for you.
On the other hand, there are computer-challenged people like me who did not grow up with computers. It took me FOREVER to figure out how to upload even one picture, and then only after NUMEROUS poeple coached me on how to do it!! So please do not assume that "everybody" knows how to use a computer, because it's a totally false assumption. Computers weren't even AROUND when I was a kid. Just because the latest generation can use a computer doesn't mean everybody can. At 2 or 3 years of age, my kid could get online, do the Internet thing, and log off with no help at all, but that kid always had a computer around from day one. That makes a huge difference.
2Whitedoves: Gosh, I thought this was one of the genuine men here, after MANY hours and hours of typing, when it came to the pic and me questioning it, he was really offended. I am a very peaceful woman...do I press on, or leaveit alone? Hmmmmm
most problems come from th " THOUGHT"try listenning to ur heart instead
2Whitedoves: Gosh, I thought this was one of the genuine men here, after MANY hours and hours of typing, when it came to the pic and me questioning it, he was really offended. I am a very peaceful woman...do I press on, or leaveit alone? Hmmmmm
Wow...Thank you ALL for the excellent feedback and forward I go except a little smarter this time....Live and Learn...STILL!!! Have a great weekend everybody!
2Whitedoves: Wow...Thank you ALL for the excellent feedback and forward I go except a little smarter this time....Live and Learn...STILL!!! Have a great weekend everybody!
2Whitedoves: Gosh, I thought this was one of the genuine men here, after MANY hours and hours of typing, when it came to the pic and me questioning it, he was really offended. I am a very peaceful woman...do I press on, or leaveit alone? Hmmmmm
I get the feeling that this guy has a major issue with low self esteem due to something involving his looks. He hates what he looks like and he feels that if you see him he will lose you for good and he just can't stand the idea. So he holds out as long as possible to keep the dream alive. I suspect this is not a new situation in his life but one that has played out for him many times before. Maybe you should make a point that you don't care what he looks like. Eventually he may send you a pic of himself.
WhistlingDixieTramping Round, Cumbria, England UK338 posts
ooby_dooby: I get the feeling that this guy has a major issue with low self esteem due to something involving his looks. He hates what he looks like and he feels that if you see him he will lose you for good and he just can't stand the idea. So he holds out as long as possible to keep the dream alive. I suspect this is not a new situation in his life but one that has played out for him many times before. Maybe you should make a point that you don't care what he looks like. Eventually he may send you a pic of himself.Then you can dump him.
8 weeks and not showing you a pic. Has he even suggested meeting up and setting up a date, time and location? If not, then your getting your heartstrings tugged with a duping by this guy. I didn't grow up in the computer generation either but eventually learned. There is the library where this guy can go to get some type of help. There comes a point when you can give the benefit of a doubt for just so long until you realize that they probably aren't the right match for you anyway. Better you look for someone who is more up to your standards of courtesy and repect. 8 weeks and counting?....the writing is clear on the wall for the direction I would send this guy packing. As the song says, "Hit the road Jack, don't you come back no more, no more, no more, no more. Hit the road Jack....etc" BTW, is there no such thing as "snail mail....aka US Postal Service if you really think he is sincere and computer literacy is his problem?" To me, if he can email then he is somewhat computer literate. I think his problem is that he has "4 eyes and 2 sets of lips...with eyes and lips on his forehead and elsewhere on him" as to why he won't send his pic. JMHO!! You deserve better.
First you should accept his attitude. We are not to judge about others. And nobody should be forced to do anything. I think the best dates I had in my life were blind dates. When he calmed down, you could discuss the issue about picture with him again.
I prefer not to see his picture until I get to the point of liking him for the way we communicate. You can learn a lot about a person when you focus on their personality and interests rather then focusing on what their face looks like.
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After 8 weeks He is still not sharing his pic after a couple of requests(Vote Below)