Who would you rather date from the following options? ( Archived) (41)

Ether is what is used to put people under for surgery. I think the word you are looking for is Either.

How do you define someone who is mentally, or physically disabled?

Would those definitions include dyslexia, or dyspraxia? A missing finger, or two? Someone who's myopic?

How does one decide in advance, who one might be attracted to, or compatible with, based on such loose terminology unless one is prejudiced in making decisions?

I really don't like the word 'disabled" as I find it a misnomer and subject to societal trends. Dyslexic people are very often artistic, but no one says you're disabled if you can't draw. Albert Einstein was dyslexic, dyspraxic and probably Aspergic; he didn't speak until he was 5 years old and a doctor told his mother he would never amount to much. Steven Hawking doesn't seem to have held back all that much.

I'd rather view that people have different abilities and that adversity can often inspire other avenues of ability.

I would have a relationship with someone I'm attracted to, not just physically, but the whole person. How can I decide that in advance?

And how do I decide in advance who will be attracted to me?

Would someone with physical, or psychological differences to me accept me?

If the disability would prevent her from swimming, walking up a mountain or from holding an intelligent conversation then I would not date them.

It's all relative to their capacity to function. A girl with a prosthetic limb I could go out with, it would take some getting my head around but I think I'd get there, yet a fat girl I would not date because in many cases fat people are more disabled than those we actually class as disabled - plus it's often their own fault.

Ah now Jaques, who couldn't be attracted to you?

Would you consider brain dead?