What would you do? (19)
I pay child support and can tell you its no where near the cost of bringing up a child. So I've opened a savings account for them and put what I can aside for them each week...if I hear they need something, well its there...
I wouldn't give it back to him, what I would do is send copies of all the reciepts to him and show him what you spent it on...hopefully it will be all spent on the kids...
I wouldn't give it back to him, what I would do is send copies of all the reciepts to him and show him what you spent it on...hopefully it will be all spent on the kids...
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ru4eva: I pay child support and can tell you its no where near the cost of bringing up a child. So I've opened a savings account for them and put what I can aside for them each week...if I hear they need something, well its there...
I wouldn't give it back to him, what I would do is send copies of all the reciepts to him and show him what you spent it on...hopefully it will be all spent on the kids...
I wouldn't give it back to him, what I would do is send copies of all the reciepts to him and show him what you spent it on...hopefully it will be all spent on the kids...
Everything I earn goes intro my family we are very close My son is in Uni and daughter in Highschool , her mobile plan alone is $40 month .
Im just trying not to be mad but i cant help it i think he has a lot of nerve asking for it back ,your right kids are expensive , anyone else doing the Uni thing???
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kizzy27: Everything I earn goes intro my family we are very close My son is in Uni and daughter in Highschool , her mobile plan alone is $40 month .
Im just trying not to be mad but i cant help it i think he has a lot of nerve asking for it back ,your right kids are expensive , anyone else doing the Uni thing???
Keep the cheque kizzy.I know how hard it is raising kids on your own.Your kids are lucky having such an amazing mum.Im just trying not to be mad but i cant help it i think he has a lot of nerve asking for it back ,your right kids are expensive , anyone else doing the Uni thing???
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OH KRIZZY........U HAVENT EARNED THAT SUPPORT...YOU WILL UNDOUBTELY SPEND IT ON THE UPBRINGING OF UR KIDS..i suppose like most single parents its already been spent way before you recieve it from a partner..............i am still owed 7 years of child support.........cant touch him as he doesnt file his tax..............and when i did get out of the blue payments in years before.....they were garnished out of his wage.he never payed voluntery
so i am very happy that you got something.........the child support agency does a great job.........they cant get blood out of a stone
they did however promise that if a ex partner dies....they can retrieve money from any estate...but i figure if they cant get it out of my ex while he alive.then the chances once he is deceased is hardly likely..............
alot of people dont get support so i am happy you had a little win
so i am very happy that you got something.........the child support agency does a great job.........they cant get blood out of a stone
they did however promise that if a ex partner dies....they can retrieve money from any estate...but i figure if they cant get it out of my ex while he alive.then the chances once he is deceased is hardly likely..............
alot of people dont get support so i am happy you had a little win
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sorry recorrection on my stupid typing error.....YOU HAVE EARNED IT
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kizzy27: Everything I earn goes intro my family we are very close My son is in Uni and daughter in Highschool , her mobile plan alone is $40 month .
Im just trying not to be mad but i cant help it i think he has a lot of nerve asking for it back ,your right kids are expensive , anyone else doing the Uni thing???
If he owes you money , spend itIm just trying not to be mad but i cant help it i think he has a lot of nerve asking for it back ,your right kids are expensive , anyone else doing the Uni thing???
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online today!online today!pisceslady7Kincumber nr. Gosford, New South Wales Australia21 Threads 4 Polls 1,910 PostsIt would not have been sent to you by a third party UNLESS it was owed. If he cannot organise his own budget that is not your fault. Ignore all contact but KEEP IT. Then if it continues to cause you stress....take it to a lawyer and they can tell him to stop the harrassment. Don't stress. The money is rightfully yours to support the kids.
Whether it is the mother OR father raising the child, the child support is never a fair 'half' of the costs of educating, housing, feeding, clothing and entertaining a child.
I wonder what would happen if the shoe was on the other foot?????
Whether it is the mother OR father raising the child, the child support is never a fair 'half' of the costs of educating, housing, feeding, clothing and entertaining a child.
I wonder what would happen if the shoe was on the other foot?????
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I guess I would want to know how they are in so much trouble when they are getting so much tax back. I am not a fan of my ex by any means but if I am surviving fine on what I am doing myself than I would probably consider giving it back and taking the weekly payment. I know that is a risk but one I would take. I say this getting the minimum payment from my ex for the past 12 years and to be honest, does that little bit really make a difference as it is. The $50 repayments are more in the week than some people get in a month. JMO.
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kizzy27: So after 5 yrs of minimum child support Myex husbands Tax cheque of $3000 was sent to me from child support angency.He chooses not to see his daughter =.He lives 3 kilometres away,
I just recieved a text msg
It reads "
The tax office has sent you my tax cheque .I want it back because I am in finacial trouble Ill pay you back at $50 pw.Please concider this as I am desparate.
They Have no right to send it to you !Its my money!.
According to the Child support he underestimated his taxable income by $30,000 .
wondering what others would do
I just recieved a text msg
It reads "
The tax office has sent you my tax cheque .I want it back because I am in finacial trouble Ill pay you back at $50 pw.Please concider this as I am desparate.
They Have no right to send it to you !Its my money!.
According to the Child support he underestimated his taxable income by $30,000 .
wondering what others would do
The CSA are the scum of the earth when dealing with people. They make their own rules and make decisions based on how they feel at the time rather than following any of their own guidelines.
And then there are the fathers who do not want to pay or have anything to do with their children. So good on the CSA on hounding them and doing the cash-grab.
Keep the money and ignore his request. He will only pay you the $50/week if he can show the CSA that he is already paying you money and therefore his payments have to be reduced.
And if he says he has under estimated his income by $30,000, then he is probably working on major deductions to avoid child support as much as possible.
You have thought about it. Keep it because if he is in financial trouble, he probably won't bother to make any more payments.
And if you need something to say back to him, tell him it was spent on his children and he can ask them for it.
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kizzy27: So after 5 yrs of minimum child support Myex husbands Tax cheque of $3000 was sent to me from child support angency.He chooses not to see his daughter =.He lives 3 kilometres away,
I just recieved a text msg
It reads "
The tax office has sent you my tax cheque .I want it back because I am in finacial trouble Ill pay you back at $50 pw.Please concider this as I am desparate.
They Have no right to send it to you !Its my money!.
According to the Child support he underestimated his taxable income by $30,000 .
wondering what others would do
I just recieved a text msg
It reads "
The tax office has sent you my tax cheque .I want it back because I am in finacial trouble Ill pay you back at $50 pw.Please concider this as I am desparate.
They Have no right to send it to you !Its my money!.
According to the Child support he underestimated his taxable income by $30,000 .
wondering what others would do
I have been on the wrong end off the CSA for far too long, they do like to get blood out off a stone,
I was once in a simular situation where I had to ask the EX for a simular favour, she agreed and cut me some slack, a little over two years ago the kid moved in with me and the shoe is now on the other foot? (so too speak) tomorrow our kid turns 17, I talked to the ex the other day and said, that I had ordered a cake for the kid and if she wanted, she could come and sing happy birthday too the kid on the day, she rang back a few days latter and asked if her mum and nana could also come? So there is a party at my place tomorrow with my Exes family at my place,
If I was you I would try and talk it over if you can but if you need the money or at lest part off it then put that too him!
The EX and I have always been in agreement that the kid come first before anything else, that is why I signed the papers too agree that the kid could go on holidays in Europe a few years ago with the EX mother in law,
Although the kid lives with me now fulltime, the EX and her family are free too visit any day off the week,
I think that could be a lesson in reason for a few people on here going through the same problems,
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kizzy27: So after 5 yrs of minimum child support Myex husbands Tax cheque of $3000 was sent to me from child support angency.He chooses not to see his daughter =.He lives 3 kilometres away,
I just recieved a text msg
It reads "
The tax office has sent you my tax cheque .I want it back because I am in finacial trouble Ill pay you back at $50 pw.Please concider this as I am desparate.
They Have no right to send it to you !Its my money!.
According to the Child support he underestimated his taxable income by $30,000 .
wondering what others would do
I just recieved a text msg
It reads "
The tax office has sent you my tax cheque .I want it back because I am in finacial trouble Ill pay you back at $50 pw.Please concider this as I am desparate.
They Have no right to send it to you !Its my money!.
According to the Child support he underestimated his taxable income by $30,000 .
wondering what others would do
Tell him to go get stuffed, it didn't bother him when you were bringing your child up for that time by yourself, it's his choice not seeing his child, but he still has a responsibility. I'm a tough old bugga, but been doing it for 8 yrs now, he doesn't have to give me maintenance. He underestimated.
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my twopenneth worth
the cheque is in your name, sent to your address by a government agency... it yours, if you want to be certain ring CSA and get them to verify it.
as to the txt messages I would be replying please desist dsending abusive messages to this number, continue and I will report it to the Police. And do just that.
it would be good though to come up with a quip like "now there is money involved suddenly you can contact" sorry havent thought long enough about that to come back with a good one liner
good luck Kizzy with whatever you decide to do, but he doesnt deserve any of the money returned thats for sure
the cheque is in your name, sent to your address by a government agency... it yours, if you want to be certain ring CSA and get them to verify it.
as to the txt messages I would be replying please desist dsending abusive messages to this number, continue and I will report it to the Police. And do just that.
it would be good though to come up with a quip like "now there is money involved suddenly you can contact" sorry havent thought long enough about that to come back with a good one liner
good luck Kizzy with whatever you decide to do, but he doesnt deserve any of the money returned thats for sure
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kizzy27: Everything I earn goes intro my family we are very close My son is in Uni and daughter in Highschool , her mobile plan alone is $40 month .
Im just trying not to be mad but i cant help it i think he has a lot of nerve asking for it back ,your right kids are expensive , anyone else doing the Uni thing???
Im just trying not to be mad but i cant help it i think he has a lot of nerve asking for it back ,your right kids are expensive , anyone else doing the Uni thing???
I don't know how some fathers < quote I said some not all, can hold their head up when they will not take care of their children financilly yet you quiet often hear a few years down the track they remarry and have a semi trailer load of kids again
"What's that all about Alfie" 
serious though what scumbags.Anyhow Kizzy do not give back the money it is legally your's to spend how you see fit after all each week you are the bread winner forking out your hard earn't cash supporting your kids day by day. By the sounds of it all by yourself too and if that's the case Na!! you don't need to produce a recipt.
Where's his receipt's of monies he has given you for child support
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I dont need the money(well not desparate anyway) ofcourse money never goes astray but thats not the point , not once did he mention seeing his daughter , or stepping up to plate in the future .My little girl has been walking around with a dad shaped hole in her heart for 7 years !! He lives 5 minutes away yet wont come and see her , Its very very painful to see ,He will say hi to her at the shops or drive by & wave ...heart crushing stuff.
We were married for 11 yrs he left when she was 5 Ive a 14 yr old who loves her dad even now ,Thats unconditional love for you!
He just asked If ide loan him $500 at least.
I have derived some satidsfaction knowing that he has noone in his life that can lend him a dime
we reap what we sow
And No hes not getting a cent outta me !
We were married for 11 yrs he left when she was 5 Ive a 14 yr old who loves her dad even now ,Thats unconditional love for you!
He just asked If ide loan him $500 at least.
I have derived some satidsfaction knowing that he has noone in his life that can lend him a dime
we reap what we sow
And No hes not getting a cent outta me !
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Blizzard14u: I have been on the wrong end off the CSA for far too long, they do like to get blood out off a stone,
I was once in a simular situation where I had to ask the EX for a simular favour, she agreed and cut me some slack, a little over two years ago the kid moved in with me and the shoe is now on the other foot? (so too speak) tomorrow our kid turns 17, I talked to the ex the other day and said, that I had ordered a cake for the kid and if she wanted, she could come and sing happy birthday too the kid on the day, she rang back a few days latter and asked if her mum and nana could also come? So there is a party at my place tomorrow with my Exes family at my place,
If I was you I would try and talk it over if you can but if you need the money or at lest part off it then put that too him!
The EX and I have always been in agreement that the kid come first before anything else, that is why I signed the papers too agree that the kid could go on holidays in Europe a few years ago with the EX mother in law,
Although the kid lives with me now fulltime, the EX and her family are free too visit any day off the week,
I think that could be a lesson in reason for a few people on here going through the same problems,
I was once in a simular situation where I had to ask the EX for a simular favour, she agreed and cut me some slack, a little over two years ago the kid moved in with me and the shoe is now on the other foot? (so too speak) tomorrow our kid turns 17, I talked to the ex the other day and said, that I had ordered a cake for the kid and if she wanted, she could come and sing happy birthday too the kid on the day, she rang back a few days latter and asked if her mum and nana could also come? So there is a party at my place tomorrow with my Exes family at my place,
If I was you I would try and talk it over if you can but if you need the money or at lest part off it then put that too him!
The EX and I have always been in agreement that the kid come first before anything else, that is why I signed the papers too agree that the kid could go on holidays in Europe a few years ago with the EX mother in law,
Although the kid lives with me now fulltime, the EX and her family are free too visit any day off the week,
I think that could be a lesson in reason for a few people on here going through the same problems,
Ide like to have a relationship like that however its not worked so far
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kizzy27: Ide like to have a relationship like that however its not worked so far
It’s a work in progress! They have all just left, all was fine, the kid actually thanked me for being a good dad? And inviting her mother and half sisters along to sing happy birthday too her,
The kid has a well balanced life in a separated family, that can still talk too each other, which is good for her in the long run, I grew up differently with divorced parents that would bad mouth each other?
So I can understand how the kid feels and how she just wants to get on with her life!
It’s a shame you cant communicate with your EX for the wellbeing off your daughter,
Some people just let petty things separate them from their kids and grandkids? It will be his loss in time too come, as you cant replace memories that will never happen,
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kizzy27: And No hes not getting a cent outta me !
Best answer. And don't bother answering him. He owes. CSA might be wrong some of the time but somethimes they get it right. He is not saying he should be giving you this money, he just doesn't want to pay.
Do not get to the spiteful stuff. Just let it out to others who may be siding with you.
I went through crap from my ex when I had to live in a garage for a year and the best meals each week were when I saw my kids. Lived the rest of the week on $1 instant pasta. But she did tell everyone how hard done she was having a home with no debt. She often forgot to mention that she was earning more than me at the time. My kids thought I was the worst in the world for leaving them and not giving over my whole wage each week.
But karma does come around. I have my daughter living nearby and we have dinner every week together and talk a few times in between.
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kizzy27: So after 5 yrs of minimum child support Myex husbands Tax cheque of $3000 was sent to me from child support angency.He chooses not to see his daughter =.He lives 3 kilometres away,
According to the Child support he underestimated his taxable income by $30,000 .
wondering what others would do
According to the Child support he underestimated his taxable income by $30,000 .
wondering what others would do
been there done it with a difference i had custody of my 2 daughters and child support took mine gave it to the ex took me 7 months and 5 court hearing to get it back plus interest for there mistake :)
my youngest was 2 when their mother left and I raised them they are now nearly 19 and 22
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kizzy27: So after 5 yrs of minimum child support Myex husbands Tax cheque of $3000 was sent to me from child support angency.He chooses not to see his daughter =.He lives 3 kilometres away,
I just recieved a text msg
It reads "
The tax office has sent you my tax cheque .I want it back because I am in finacial trouble Ill pay you back at $50 pw.Please concider this as I am desparate.
They Have no right to send it to you !Its my money!.
According to the Child support he underestimated his taxable income by $30,000 .
wondering what others would do
I just recieved a text msg
It reads "
The tax office has sent you my tax cheque .I want it back because I am in finacial trouble Ill pay you back at $50 pw.Please concider this as I am desparate.
They Have no right to send it to you !Its my money!.
According to the Child support he underestimated his taxable income by $30,000 .
wondering what others would do
Keep the money, no doubt, it is to cover costs involved in raising HIS and your child.
Don't give anything back, why should he expect you to get him out of financial trouble?? Your is ex?
As said before - one text, "I will not be replying to any text communications regarding child support. Please put in writing. If you continue with abusive texts you leave me no option but to refer them to the police."
Just ignore them. He doesn't own you, you are not obliged to answer his texts.
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What would you do?(Vote Below)
I just recieved a text msg
It reads "
The tax office has sent you my tax cheque .I want it back because I am in finacial trouble Ill pay you back at $50 pw.Please concider this as I am desparate.
They Have no right to send it to you !Its my money!.
According to the Child support he underestimated his taxable income by $30,000 .
wondering what others would do