Would you date someone who is out of work?? Is it the money or the work life that's more important? What would your perception of a jobless person's character be?
Yep, I would date her tho it would depend on several factors 1. inheritage ( is she rich) 2.size of her heinie 3.how good can she rhyme after three mugs of beer 4.is she a member of the Olympic team in synchronized swimming 5.if she is 1m tall and has a square head
jac379pontyclun, South Glamorgan, Wales UK12,293 posts
kmca1126: Would you date someone who is out of work?? Is it the money or the work life that's more important? What would your perception of a jobless person's character be?
I wouldn't have a perception of a jobless person's character as unemployment can be a result of so many things.
I would however have a perception of the financial circumstances and I certainly wouldn't have a problem with dates involving a walk in the park carrying a bottle of tap water, or visits to free museums.
I tend to think unemployment can be good opportunity for making changes, gaining more skills and finding work which a person may enjoy than their previous employment, but then I do tend to be optimistic about creating something out of nothing.
We have a TON of unemployed people over here right now and it's through no fault of their own. I think it would depend on the circumstances. In my age range, I would be less inclined to date someone if they have not built up any savings by now. Not because of the money itself, but because it tells me that the person probably has not made good choices throughout their life. The amount of money a person makes isn't nearly as important as what they choose to do with it. Living beyond your means is just not something I would be interested in. I've saved all my life even when I was dead broke and it wasn't easy - and I've always lived on a budget...I wouldn't be happy with someone who doesn't have the same discpline.
Of course I would. My last relationship was with am unemployed gentleman. Reasons why some are unable to work. As long as we are compatible and love being together why not?
WhatUwish4: We have a TON of unemployed people over here right now and it's through no fault of their own. I think it would depend on the circumstances. In my age range, I would be less inclined to date someone if they have not built up any savings by now. Not because of the money itself, but because it tells me that the person probably has not made good choices throughout their life. The amount of money a person makes isn't nearly as important as what they choose to do with it. Living beyond your means is just not something I would be interested in. I've saved all my life even when I was dead broke and it wasn't easy - and I've always lived on a budget...I wouldn't be happy with someone who doesn't have the same discpline.
jac379pontyclun, South Glamorgan, Wales UK12,293 posts
Its interesting that we feel the need the qualify "no fault" as the propaganda machine and prejudice works so well blaming poor people for their own poverty.
WhatUwish4: We have a TON of unemployed people over here right now and it's through no fault of their own.
That makes me think, however difficult times have been for you, you've not known abject poverty. You've not known starvation because there's nothing to put by in savings when you need every penny just to stay on your feet and keep functioning.
WhatUwish4: I think it would depend on the circumstances. In my age range, I would be less inclined to date someone if they have not built up any savings by now. Not because of the money itself, but because it tells me that the person probably has not made good choices throughout their life. The amount of money a person makes isn't nearly as important as what they choose to do with it. Living beyond your means is just not something I would be interested in. I've saved all my life even when I was dead broke and it wasn't easy - and I've always lived on a budget...I wouldn't be happy with someone who doesn't have the same discpline.
I think there are many people who would be thrilled to have a budget to work within. When you're rock bottom, its much harder to work your way up, as no doubt you know.
kmca1126: Would you date someone who is out of work?? Is it the money or the work life that's more important? What would your perception of a jobless person's character be?
Wow, what a survey. So 33% think that just because a person is unemployed, they are lazy???? Sheesh! I had a full-time job for ten years, but was let go because of an on-the-job industrial accident. I was 63, and managed to find a food service job, but it turned out that I wasn't really cut out for that type of work. I searched for another job for at least three months, but was receiving so much age discrimination that I got discouraged and retired early the next year at 63 years of age. All those years of hard work, and this is what it comes down to. Employers claim they don't discriminate, but they lie through their teeth. Somebody needs to put some teeth into the laws so employers wouldn't dare discriminate against anyone who wants a job.
I wouldn't hesitate to date someone who's unemployed. After all, we would both be in a position to realize what it's like to be unemployed, so we would have something in common.
Rumple4skinStoke-on-Trent, Staffordshire, England UK980 posts
In some ways I would find this preferable, as I neither require or want anybody else's money, but what I do want is my kids to grow up with at least one of us at home - I don't want a careerist upstart, unless she has a very respected and useful career, like a Doctor, in this case then maybe i'd look after the kids instead.
kmca1126: Would you date someone who is out of work?? Is it the money or the work life that's more important? What would your perception of a jobless person's character be?
maryrachelleBathurst, New Brunswick Canada1,370 posts
Unemployed does not automatically mean lazy. Many times it's bad luck and stingy companies pulling up roots and moving to India so they only have to pay workers pennies compared to what they pay workers here.
HuggerMan4U: Wow, what a survey. So 33% think that just because a person is unemployed, they are lazy???? Sheesh! I had a full-time job for ten years, but was let go because of an on-the-job industrial accident. I was 63, and managed to find a food service job, but it turned out that I wasn't really cut out for that type of work. I searched for another job for at least three months, but was receiving so much age discrimination that I got discouraged and retired early the next year at 63 years of age. All those years of hard work, and this is what it comes down to. Employers claim they don't discriminate, but they lie through their teeth. Somebody needs to put some teeth into the laws so employers wouldn't dare discriminate against anyone who wants a job.
I wouldn't hesitate to date someone who's unemployed. After all, we would both be in a position to realize what it's like to be unemployed, so we would have something in common.
Retirement I hope is considered employed....
I think the better survey might be ask - would you date someone that is not productive or contributing to their community....
However there are a lot of reasons for unemployment - and what ever the reason.... I would not date a person who is unemployed.
Depends why and what their normal job/qualification/education is and how they finance themselves. (Some people work on the side, etc.) and what they're doing about their situation.
jac379: Its interesting that we feel the need the qualify "no fault" as the propaganda machine and prejudice works so well blaming poor people for their own poverty.
That makes me think, however difficult times have been for you, you've not known abject poverty. You've not known starvation because there's nothing to put by in savings when you need every penny just to stay on your feet and keep functioning.
I think there are many people who would be thrilled to have a budget to work within. When you're rock bottom, its much harder to work your way up, as no doubt you know.
"Only a fool pretends to know another or to measure the caverns through which we each individually wander."
it would depend on the person. everyone has strengths that they bring to a relationship. how do we measure these? it would sadden me to think that money would be the determining factor.
jono7: it would depend on the person. everyone has strengths that they bring to a relationship. how do we measure these? it would sadden me to think that money would be the determining factor.
Boban1: Yep, I would date her tho it would depend on several factors 1. inheritage ( is she rich) 2.size of her heinie 3.how good can she rhyme after three mugs of beer 4.is she a member of the Olympic team in synchronized swimming 5.if she is 1m tall and has a square head
I would prefer to date someone that has been or is unemployed for an extended period. When better times return, the hardship experienced will hopefully fosters compassion and empathy for others that find themselves in tough situation.
jono7: it would depend on the person. everyone has strengths that they bring to a relationship. how do we measure these? it would sadden me to think that money would be the determining factor.
money, looks , nationality etc..are all factors unfortunately
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