Pasioniberica: I would like to know people experiences about meeting people through a dating site, and if they succeded in meeting them in real life.
Think you have to do what works for you the best in your situation as a couple. I think as well, before it gets too serious, one needs to ask themselves are they willing to move? One can only fly back and forth and visit so much before such a decision will arise, so at least be honest with yourself and your future partner if its even feasible otherwise you're both wasting your time and energy beyond a mere friendship.
langleygirl: Think you have to do what works for you the best in your situation as a couple. I think as well, before it gets too serious, one needs to ask themselves are they willing to move? One can only fly back and forth and visit so much before such a decision will arise, so at least be honest with yourself and your future partner if its even feasible otherwise you're both wasting your time and energy beyond a mere friendship.
agreed - someone has to broach that subject eventually...
Well, this is something that I think both of you should discuss and agree on. Me personally, I'm planning a trip to visit my friend next year and I've told her about this plan. So I suppose it is me who is making the first move. But in other cases, it depends on finances, circumstances, trust, risk, personality, and good old fashioned common sense. I also recommend video through skype and chat that way for a little while to get a better feel about the person. For me it works a bit like sitting across the table having a coffe and a chat. She gets to see me, and I get to see her. We share, talk, laugh, dance, laugh some more.... I've been invited to sit in on her meal with her daughter, and heaps of other things that give me and her a bit of an idea about each other..... so I'm taking the plunge.
I am not so sure, because it all depends. If a woman is convinced that the person she is dating with is the right and reliable person, why would she neglect an invitation? What makes the difference? Is this only emotionally?
i think each situation is unique, but ideally both should decide together and share the cost. but like i said, each situation is different...sometimes due to responsibilities, or finances, it becomes easier for one person to travel than the other. only the two folks involved can really make the decision for themselves, and that decision should reflect on what's best for an 'us' rather than convenience for one individual or the other. jmho
I agree wholeheartedly! All of the writing in the world doesn't compensate for a meeting between the two. Then is when you know whether the person is right for you! Spend some time with that person and discuss relocation and make a decision!
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