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Aug 19, 2008 11:02 AM CSTCould you marry someone for a reason other than love (e.g. money, citizenship, sex, fame)?
iamsimply
iamsimplyiamsimplyHolland Landing, Ontario, Canada26 Threads 10 Polls 275 Posts

Could you marry someone for a reason other than love (e.g. money, citizenship, sex, fame)?(Vote Below)

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Yes
19
15%
Yes, If my mom let me
3
2%
No
76
59%
I might live with them
3
2%
Not sure / Maybe
16
12%
Yes but they have to be really old
1
1%
Yes, only if their a relative
0
0%
No, unless the child is ours
4
3%
I'm not telling, the answer may incriminate me
6
5%
Total Votes
128
smitten Remember, the most important financial decision you will make in your life is who you marry!confused drinking (A comment made by LOU SCHIZAS financial analyst on CFJM Talk 640 AM radio after hearing a man had spent $50,000 on lawyers fees to try and see his two kids in custody of his estranged spouse, Ont Canada)
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Aug 19, 2008 11:02 AM CST Could you marry someone for a reason other than love (e.g. money, citizenship, sex, fame)?
iamsimply
iamsimplyiamsimplyHolland Landing, Ontario Canada26 Threads 10 Polls 275 Posts
smitten Remember, the most important financial decision you will make in your life is who you marry!confused drinking (A comment made by LOU SCHIZAS financial analyst on CFJM Talk 640 AM radio after hearing a man had spent $50,000 on lawyers fees to try and see his two kids in custody of his estranged spouse, Ont Canada)
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Aug 19, 2008 11:15 AM CST Could you marry someone for a reason other than love (e.g. money, citizenship, sex, fame)?
diogenes
diogenesdiogenesLongview, Texas USA100 Threads 8 Polls 7,200 Posts
There's all kinds of reasons people have for marriage. I believe that we can simply decide to love a person, if we want to. Some make it easier for us to do that than others of course. Still, love is more than those butterfly feelings in our tummies. I mean, what are we to do when the butterflies are gone? Many of us simply divorce, and go out chasing butterflies. Love is much more than a feeling. I believe it is a conscious decision. I am going to love you today even though....

Those honeymoon feelings are certainly wonderful. However, they inevitably leave, I would say they almost always do. It is true that they can be rekindled, but how are we to do that if we quit when they are gone? We do it by consciously deciding to love that person, even though we don't really feel like it today. We look for ways to overcome life's challenges, rather than run away from them. In many cases, deciding to love the person, learning what it takes to really help them feel that you love them is enough to inspire the same efforts from them.
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Aug 19, 2008 11:47 AM CST Could you marry someone for a reason other than love (e.g. money, citizenship, sex, fame)?
iamsimply
iamsimplyiamsimplyHolland Landing, Ontario Canada26 Threads 10 Polls 275 Posts
diogenes: There's all kinds of reasons people have for marriage. I believe that we can simply decide to love a person, if we want to. Some make it easier for us to do that than others of course. Still, love is more than those butterfly feelings in our tummies. I mean, what are we to do when the butterflies are gone? Many of us simply divorce, and go out chasing butterflies. Love is much more than a feeling. I believe it is a conscious decision. I am going to love you today even though....

Those honeymoon feelings are certainly wonderful. However, they inevitably leave, I would say they almost always do. It is true that they can be rekindled, but how are we to do that if we quit when they are gone? We do it by consciously deciding to love that person, even though we don't really feel like it today. We look for ways to overcome life's challenges, rather than run away from them. In many cases, deciding to love the person, learning what it takes to really help them feel that you love them is enough to inspire the same efforts from them.



Nice post, makes sense! Great pics on your profile! Your profile reads like a Blues song, nice! Uniforms drive the women nuts!
drinking beer dancing
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Aug 19, 2008 11:53 AM CST Could you marry someone for a reason other than love (e.g. money, citizenship, sex, fame)?
EnSilencio
EnSilencioEnSilencioAlmunecar, Andalusia Spain17 Threads 2 Polls 1,555 Posts
All partnerships no matter type will require the same thinking. Marriage is a stronger bond than a legal contract in some parts of the world, while living together for mere six months counts as much in other parts.

No, no desire to be married to anything but love.
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Aug 19, 2008 11:54 AM CST Could you marry someone for a reason other than love (e.g. money, citizenship, sex, fame)?
EnSilencio
EnSilencioEnSilencioAlmunecar, Andalusia Spain17 Threads 2 Polls 1,555 Posts
diogenes: In many cases, deciding to love the person, learning what it takes to really help them feel that you love them is enough to inspire the same efforts from them.


You are a bright star on the CS sky! wine
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Aug 19, 2008 11:55 AM CST Could you marry someone for a reason other than love (e.g. money, citizenship, sex, fame)?
diogenes
diogenesdiogenesLongview, Texas USA100 Threads 8 Polls 7,200 Posts
iamsimply: Nice post, makes sense! Great pics on your profile! Your profile reads like a Blues song, nice! Uniforms drive the women nuts!



It is....it's B.B. King
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Aug 19, 2008 11:55 AM CST Could you marry someone for a reason other than love (e.g. money, citizenship, sex, fame)?
diogenes
diogenesdiogenesLongview, Texas USA100 Threads 8 Polls 7,200 Posts
iamsimply: Nice post, makes sense! Great pics on your profile! Your profile reads like a Blues song, nice! Uniforms drive the women nuts!



It is....it's B.B. King
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Aug 19, 2008 12:11 PM CST Could you marry someone for a reason other than love (e.g. money, citizenship, sex, fame)?
I voted no.Without love in a relationship it would be nothing.
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Aug 19, 2008 12:24 PM CST Could you marry someone for a reason other than love (e.g. money, citizenship, sex, fame)?
Claayer
ClaayerClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK144 Threads 13 Polls 22,386 Posts
I could... but I probably wouldn't
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Aug 19, 2008 12:26 PM CST Could you marry someone for a reason other than love (e.g. money, citizenship, sex, fame)?
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada81 Threads 21,310 Posts
Nope..Nada..Never..Non...Are you crazy...I do not think so...scold Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo.....

I hope i didnt confuse you with my answerdunno
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Aug 19, 2008 12:27 PM CST Could you marry someone for a reason other than love (e.g. money, citizenship, sex, fame)?
Hugz_n_Kissez
Hugz_n_KissezHugz_n_KissezSomeplace, Ontario Canada82 Threads 3 Polls 34,865 Posts
kissmedeeply: Nope..Nada..Never..Non...Are you crazy...I do not think so... Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo.....

I hope i didnt confuse you with my answer



Only if no means yes!!!!!!!!!!!



professor roll eyes wink uh oh dunno laugh
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Aug 19, 2008 12:47 PM CST Could you marry someone for a reason other than love (e.g. money, citizenship, sex, fame)?
Only if my mom let's me. Of course she has been married many times, but that doesn't matter.
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Aug 19, 2008 12:50 PM CST Could you marry someone for a reason other than love (e.g. money, citizenship, sex, fame)?
simpleone
simpleonesimpleoneArkansas, USA3 Threads 74 Posts
diogenes: There's all kinds of reasons people have for marriage. I believe that we can simply decide to love a person, if we want to. Some make it easier for us to do that than others of course. Still, love is more than those butterfly feelings in our tummies. I mean, what are we to do when the butterflies are gone? Many of us simply divorce, and go out chasing butterflies. Love is much more than a feeling. I believe it is a conscious decision. I am going to love you today even though....

Those honeymoon feelings are certainly wonderful. However, they inevitably leave, I would say they almost always do. It is true that they can be rekindled, but how are we to do that if we quit when they are gone? We do it by consciously deciding to love that person, even though we don't really feel like it today. We look for ways to overcome life's challenges, rather than run away from them. In many cases, deciding to love the person, learning what it takes to really help them feel that you love them is enough to inspire the same efforts from them.


That's very true
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Aug 19, 2008 1:56 PM CST Could you marry someone for a reason other than love (e.g. money, citizenship, sex, fame)?
iamsimply
iamsimplyiamsimplyHolland Landing, Ontario Canada26 Threads 10 Polls 275 Posts
doh Ya can be honest here, nobody knows who you are or how you voted, unless you tell them! Remember it's the BIGGEST FINANCIAL decision you may ever make! beer dancing
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Aug 19, 2008 2:01 PM CST Could you marry someone for a reason other than love (e.g. money, citizenship, sex, fame)?
iamsimply
iamsimplyiamsimplyHolland Landing, Ontario Canada26 Threads 10 Polls 275 Posts
diogenes: It is....it's B.B. King


cool I thought so Bro!! beer dancing Nice choice!
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Aug 19, 2008 4:27 PM CST Could you marry someone for a reason other than love (e.g. money, citizenship, sex, fame)?
iamsimply
iamsimplyiamsimplyHolland Landing, Ontario Canada26 Threads 10 Polls 275 Posts
Well the NO's are ahead by a nose, looks like big nose too!drinking beer cool
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Aug 19, 2008 6:17 PM CST Could you marry someone for a reason other than love (e.g. money, citizenship, sex, fame)?
airliner
airlinerairlinerCentral, New Jersey USA24 Threads 2 Polls 6,726 Posts
I might for good foodlaugh
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Aug 19, 2008 6:21 PM CST Could you marry someone for a reason other than love (e.g. money, citizenship, sex, fame)?
gingerb
gingerbgingerbLetterkenny, Donegal Ireland10 Threads 1 Polls 6,330 Posts
I did!wine
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Aug 19, 2008 6:27 PM CST Could you marry someone for a reason other than love (e.g. money, citizenship, sex, fame)?
diogenes
diogenesdiogenesLongview, Texas USA100 Threads 8 Polls 7,200 Posts
You married for food?
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Aug 19, 2008 6:28 PM CST Could you marry someone for a reason other than love (e.g. money, citizenship, sex, fame)?
Lillym
LillymLillymSliema, Majjistral Malta60 Threads 4,845 Posts
gingerb: I did!


I know ... you married for the S E X laugh
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Aug 19, 2008 6:30 PM CST Could you marry someone for a reason other than love (e.g. money, citizenship, sex, fame)?
lala410
lala410lala410Cincinnati, Ohio USA10 Posts
Lillym: you married for the S E X


but isn't the best sex with the person you love?
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Aug 19, 2008 6:30 PM CST Could you marry someone for a reason other than love (e.g. money, citizenship, sex, fame)?
airliner
airlinerairlinerCentral, New Jersey USA24 Threads 2 Polls 6,726 Posts
lala410: but isn't the best sex with the person you love?


you betthumbs up
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Aug 19, 2008 6:35 PM CST Could you marry someone for a reason other than love (e.g. money, citizenship, sex, fame)?
Lillym
LillymLillymSliema, Majjistral Malta60 Threads 4,845 Posts
lala410: but isn't the best sex with the person you love?


Yes ... of course, that's why I wouldn't marry for any other reason than love.thumbs up
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Aug 19, 2008 6:52 PM CST Could you marry someone for a reason other than love (e.g. money, citizenship, sex, fame)?
somechick: I voted no.Without love in a relationship it would be nothing.


Try harder.........devil


uh oh






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Aug 19, 2008 6:54 PM CST Could you marry someone for a reason other than love (e.g. money, citizenship, sex, fame)?
gingerb
gingerbgingerbLetterkenny, Donegal Ireland10 Threads 1 Polls 6,330 Posts
Lillym: I know ... you married for the S E X


No I didn't. He was no good at that.wine
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Aug 19, 2008 6:54 PM CST Could you marry someone for a reason other than love (e.g. money, citizenship, sex, fame)?
Someone voted yes if they were very old. I hope it was a woman..grin

<<<<<<<<< VERY old....devil
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Aug 19, 2008 6:55 PM CST Could you marry someone for a reason other than love (e.g. money, citizenship, sex, fame)?
Aries01
Aries01Aries01Kent, England UK55 Threads 4 Polls 3,732 Posts
diogenes: There's all kinds of reasons people have for marriage. I believe that we can simply decide to love a person, if we want to. Some make it easier for us to do that than others of course. Still, love is more than those butterfly feelings in our tummies. I mean, what are we to do when the butterflies are gone? Many of us simply divorce, and go out chasing butterflies. Love is much more than a feeling. I believe it is a conscious decision. I am going to love you today even though....

Those honeymoon feelings are certainly wonderful. However, they inevitably leave, I would say they almost always do. It is true that they can be rekindled, but how are we to do that if we quit when they are gone? We do it by consciously deciding to love that person, even though we don't really feel like it today. We look for ways to overcome life's challenges, rather than run away from them. In many cases, deciding to love the person, learning what it takes to really help them feel that you love them is enough to inspire the same efforts from them.


Thats is an excellent post Dio... though when it comes to chosing a life partner.. quiet apart from the 'butterflies' to which you refer... there needs to be compatibility and common aspiration, value systems goals etc.. and genuine friendship... I think these less than glamorous qualities (as well as the 'x' factor) make for endurance... cause yes.. it is an endurance.. an endurance motivated by love and loyalty... having said that though Dio.. I don't think you can simply chose to simply switch it on in the first place... I know there are certain people in the world that I would NEVER be able to get together with conscious willing or not.. JMV
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Aug 19, 2008 7:05 PM CST Could you marry someone for a reason other than love (e.g. money, citizenship, sex, fame)?
gingerb
gingerbgingerbLetterkenny, Donegal Ireland10 Threads 1 Polls 6,330 Posts
diogenes: There's all kinds of reasons people have for marriage. I believe that we can simply decide to love a person, if we want to. Some make it easier for us to do that than others of course. Been there done that. Here now. So much for that belief.

Still, love is more than those butterfly feelings in our tummies. I mean, what are we to do when the butterflies are gone? Many of us simply divorce, and go out chasing butterflies. Love is much more than a feeling. I believe it is a conscious decision. I am going to love you today even though.... Agreed. But it has it's limitations......

Those honeymoon feelings are certainly wonderful. However, they inevitably leave, I would say they almost always do. It is true that they can be rekindled, but how are we to do that if we quit when they are gone? We do it by consciously deciding to love that person, even though we don't really feel like it today. Been there. These are all idealistic thoughts. I have lieved every principle you have set out here and it doesn't work if the other person isn't playing ball.

We look for ways to overcome life's challenges, rather than run away from them. In many cases, deciding to love the person, learning what it takes to really help them feel that you love them is enough to inspire the same efforts from them. And sometimes it isn't!!!
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Aug 19, 2008 7:26 PM CST Could you marry someone for a reason other than love (e.g. money, citizenship, sex, fame)?
RillyNiceGuy
RillyNiceGuyRillyNiceGuySoutheast, Arkansas USA1,208 Threads 1 Polls 18,965 Posts
Her papa's shot gun will do it!grin
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Aug 19, 2008 8:20 PM CST Could you marry someone for a reason other than love (e.g. money, citizenship, sex, fame)?
Met a Yankee chic last year and she wanted me to marry her, she allways brought me gifts and did alot as well as kept my shack clean..

Her dad bought her anything she asnted, she wanted me to move into her house StateSide and her dad was a Millionair... I was not interested and said goodbye...wave
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