Should you back away from your married love even if he doesn't love his wife (88)
Are you actually so gullible and believe this crap? 
If he doesn't love his wife and loves you, he would leave her. Simples.
Also, do you think you could trust him if he cheats on HIS WIFE with you to not do the same to you?
If he doesn't love his wife and loves you, he would leave her. Simples.
Also, do you think you could trust him if he cheats on HIS WIFE with you to not do the same to you?
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So, let me get this right.
You love a man who hasn't got the balls to be honest with his own wife, who pities her, doesn't love her, cheats on her and lies to her?
D'ya think maybe your picker's off?
I mean, wouldn't it be more logical to be in love with someone who's a nice person? Vaguely human...?
You love a man who hasn't got the balls to be honest with his own wife, who pities her, doesn't love her, cheats on her and lies to her?
D'ya think maybe your picker's off?
I mean, wouldn't it be more logical to be in love with someone who's a nice person? Vaguely human...?
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KNenagh: Are you actually so gullible and believe this crap?
If he doesn't love his wife and loves you, he would leave her. Simples.
Also, do you think you could trust him if he cheats on HIS WIFE with you to not do the same to you?
If he doesn't love his wife and loves you, he would leave her. Simples.
Also, do you think you could trust him if he cheats on HIS WIFE with you to not do the same to you?
I'm not in agreement with that KN. Just because he loves his mistress and not his wife, it doesn't mean he is going to leave his wife. He may have children with his wife. Or he may just want to keep his plaything on the side. Being married is a benefit in business as executives want their employees to appear to be the perfect married family.
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Azizamm: I am in a situation where i love a man who is married but is not in love with his wife ..
But remains as a duty and pity
Should he leave without thought for her welfare
Or should i back away from this situation
But remains as a duty and pity
Should he leave without thought for her welfare
Or should i back away from this situation
This may come as a rude joke but how about a love triangle
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AZ....this is from your profile under the title About Me:
Honest happy and loyal expecting the same no players
So you are being loyal to a cheating husband?
Honest happy and loyal expecting the same no players
So you are being loyal to a cheating husband?
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montemonte: I'm not in agreement with that KN. Just because he loves his mistress and not his wife, it doesn't mean he is going to leave his wife. He may have children with his wife. Or he may just want to keep his plaything on the side. Being married is a benefit in business as executives want their employees to appear to be the perfect married family.
It doesn't make it right though Monte.
Saying he stays with her because of duty and pity sounds just like he wants to keep a plaything on the side and doesn't want to leave the wife. He probably has to pay alimony anyway, so that would actually take care of the welfare thought.
I have no time for someone cheating on a partner and can't understand how someone can take something like this serious. He can always walk away because he is married and in this situation never was in the situation to offer commitment to someone else.
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Azizamm: I am in a situation where i love a man who is married but is not in love with his wife ..
But remains as a duty and pity
Should he leave without thought for her welfare
Or should i back away from this situation
But remains as a duty and pity
Should he leave without thought for her welfare
Or should i back away from this situation
Don't back.
Instead, turn around and run away as fast as you can.
This is a recipe for heartache and disaster, and not just for the two of you.
There are other people to think about.
Love is a strong drug, but the consequences of your situation can't be positive:
1) Secrets, always secrets
2) Holidays? Nope, he will choose to be with his family.
3) Will he ever leave his family for you? Who knows? Why wait and wait and wait and put your life on hold, until you found out?
If there are children involved...my heart breaks for them.
Think, please.
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Azizamm: I am in a situation where i love a man who is married but is not in love with his wife .. But remains as a duty and pity
Should he leave without thought for her welfare
Or
should i back away from this situation
Should he leave without thought for her welfare
Or
should i back away from this situation
You should post this on "this or that" thread!!
Oh come on.. do you think YOU DON'T DESERVE A LOYAL MAN?
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hello Azizamm
i've said this on here before...i don't respect folks overlapping relationships. i think infidelity shows cowardice and insecurity that i find unattractive in a prospective partner no matter how it's dressed up.
you need to do whatever takes you towards your happiness...and i believe you already know what that is.
i read this recently...(don't remember where...)
1.What lies am I buying about this that are sticking me?
2.What do I know about what occurred that I’ve been pretending not to know or denying that I know?
3.What other ways can I look at this situation to create freedom for me?
i've said this on here before...i don't respect folks overlapping relationships. i think infidelity shows cowardice and insecurity that i find unattractive in a prospective partner no matter how it's dressed up.
you need to do whatever takes you towards your happiness...and i believe you already know what that is.
i read this recently...(don't remember where...)
1.What lies am I buying about this that are sticking me?
2.What do I know about what occurred that I’ve been pretending not to know or denying that I know?
3.What other ways can I look at this situation to create freedom for me?
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Azizamm: I am in a situation where i love a man who is married but is not in love with his wife ..
But remains as a duty and pity
Should he leave without thought for her welfare
Or should i back away from this situation
Let the poll results be your guide. my advice is to run or jog as best as you can.But remains as a duty and pity
Should he leave without thought for her welfare
Or should i back away from this situation
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jac379: So, let me get this right.
You love a man who hasn't got the balls to be honest with his own wife, who pities her, doesn't love her, cheats on her and lies to her?
D'ya think maybe your picker's off?
I mean, wouldn't it be more logical to be in love with someone who's a nice person? Vaguely human...?
Good postYou love a man who hasn't got the balls to be honest with his own wife, who pities her, doesn't love her, cheats on her and lies to her?
D'ya think maybe your picker's off?
I mean, wouldn't it be more logical to be in love with someone who's a nice person? Vaguely human...?
She knows all those things Jac,though she hides them under the carpet.Another marriage wrecker with brains not inside her head,but between her legs.-JMO ------ This poll is Archived ------
chatonlyman2: Let the poll results be your guide. my advice is to run or jog as best as you can.
I wonder if the OP thinks that if he divorced his wife and married her he would be faithful to her. DUH
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OMG!!!!! She is blonde too.
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KNenagh: It doesn't make it right though Monte.
Saying he stays with her because of duty and pity sounds just like he wants to keep a plaything on the side and doesn't want to leave the wife. He probably has to pay alimony anyway, so that would actually take care of the welfare thought.
I have no time for someone cheating on a partner and can't understand how someone can take something like this serious. He can always walk away because he is married and in this situation never was in the situation to offer commitment to someone else.
Saying he stays with her because of duty and pity sounds just like he wants to keep a plaything on the side and doesn't want to leave the wife. He probably has to pay alimony anyway, so that would actually take care of the welfare thought.
I have no time for someone cheating on a partner and can't understand how someone can take something like this serious. He can always walk away because he is married and in this situation never was in the situation to offer commitment to someone else.
I didn't say he deserves a medal for staying with his wife.
I'm saying that most men who are cheating do not leave their wives for the woman they are cheating with.
Sometimes they love their wives but something is missing in the relationship and so they stray, or pressure at work and the wife doesn't know how to comfort her husband so he looks for someone else.
There's also the comfort that he is married and still fools around. The mistress can't expect him to leave his wife and so he's got a wife he loves and a mistress he has fun with.
It's not rocket science.
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Azizamm: I am in a situation where i love a man who is married but is not in love with his wife ..
But remains as a duty and pity
Should he leave without thought for her welfare
Or should i back away from this situation
But remains as a duty and pity
Should he leave without thought for her welfare
Or should i back away from this situation
How about if you are in his wife position ???
Sometimes love doesn't mean that we will always be together with someone we adore... Now, go back to the meaning of love itself... For me, love is not selfish...Love is sincere feelings... so I will never break other's relationship for the sake of my own pleasure... If I am in your position, I will let him go and find another potential guy... I wouldn't destroy his future, his kids... etc etc...JMO...
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Azizamm: I am in a situation where i love a man who is married but is not in love with his wife ..
But remains as a duty and pity
Should he leave without thought for her welfare
Or should i back away from this situation
But remains as a duty and pity
Should he leave without thought for her welfare
Or should i back away from this situation
Geez, there are many single men out there......
If you left him, he would just replace you for another woman...is it really worth your time, energy and life???
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Azizamm: I am in a situation where i love a man who is married but is not in love with his wife ..
But remains as a duty and pity
Should he leave without thought for her welfare
Or should i back away from this situation
But remains as a duty and pity
Should he leave without thought for her welfare
Or should i back away from this situation
You haven't given a whole lot of information. The popular choice is to rip the man all to shreds without any due consideration of course. The next popular choice is to call you a home wrecker complete with blonde jokes. Rather common I would say.
But what if the wife nagged him to death and pushed him away or defaulted on her agreements in the marriage.
People are saying and or implying that if he 'cheats' on his wife he will on you as well and that is just not true, as a fact. Its a projected and personal notion that they want you to believe as true simply because 'they' think that way. It may be that his wife has created a situation that would only happen between the two of them and not him with others. Perhaps she has already left the relationship in several ways and is unknowingly pushing him out by not being available or supportive or maybe she never was. So many possibilites.
Even if there's cause to think he'd do it with that woman, I think it unreasonable to cast aspersions on him based on a previous relationship events. Relationships are situational. Is his wife always going to be a nagg because she possibly is now, or with him only for instance.
Nice people don't cast aspersions, especially without cause, or make blind judgement calls from preconceived religious moral codes, much less let paranoid delusions be their guide.
Give him time, give him a due by date, if he doesn't meet it then drop the situation. I expect neither he nor his wife will actually remedy their situation since most people refuse to look at themselves and deal with the more obvious cheating that isn't always with someone else. But who knows, they may. Plenty of people cheat themselves and hence relationships by not being the wife or husband that they promised to be in the beginning. I expect there are a lot of that kind of cheater here.
I hope you don't take too much to heart of what people are calling you here or labelling him as well. Follow your heart, never follow the paranoia or the crowd, I say.
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BB_snickers: You haven't given a whole lot of information. The popular choice is to rip the man all to shreds without any due consideration of course. The next popular choice is to call you a home wrecker complete with blonde jokes. Rather common I would say.
But what if the wife nagged him to death and pushed him away or defaulted on her agreements in the marriage.
People are saying and or implying that if he 'cheats' on his wife he will on you as well and that is just not true, as a fact. Its a projected and personal notion that they want you to believe as true simply because 'they' think that way. It may be that his wife has created a situation that would only happen between the two of them and not him with others. Perhaps she has already left the relationship in several ways and is unknowingly pushing him out by not being available or supportive or maybe she never was. So many possibilites.
Even if there's cause to think he'd do it with that woman, I think it unreasonable to cast aspersions on him based on a previous relationship events. Relationships are situational. Is his wife always going to be a nagg because she possibly is now, or with him only for instance.
Nice people don't cast aspersions, especially without cause, or make blind judgement calls from preconceived religious moral codes, much less let paranoid delusions be their guide.
Give him time, give him a due by date, if he doesn't meet it then drop the situation. I expect neither he nor his wife will actually remedy their situation since most people refuse to look at themselves and deal with the more obvious cheating that isn't always with someone else. But who knows, they may. Plenty of people cheat themselves and hence relationships by not being the wife or husband that they promised to be in the beginning. I expect there are a lot of that kind of cheater here.
I hope you don't take too much to heart of what people are calling you here or labelling him as well. Follow your heart, never follow the paranoia or the crowd, I say.
But what if the wife nagged him to death and pushed him away or defaulted on her agreements in the marriage.
People are saying and or implying that if he 'cheats' on his wife he will on you as well and that is just not true, as a fact. Its a projected and personal notion that they want you to believe as true simply because 'they' think that way. It may be that his wife has created a situation that would only happen between the two of them and not him with others. Perhaps she has already left the relationship in several ways and is unknowingly pushing him out by not being available or supportive or maybe she never was. So many possibilites.
Even if there's cause to think he'd do it with that woman, I think it unreasonable to cast aspersions on him based on a previous relationship events. Relationships are situational. Is his wife always going to be a nagg because she possibly is now, or with him only for instance.
Nice people don't cast aspersions, especially without cause, or make blind judgement calls from preconceived religious moral codes, much less let paranoid delusions be their guide.
Give him time, give him a due by date, if he doesn't meet it then drop the situation. I expect neither he nor his wife will actually remedy their situation since most people refuse to look at themselves and deal with the more obvious cheating that isn't always with someone else. But who knows, they may. Plenty of people cheat themselves and hence relationships by not being the wife or husband that they promised to be in the beginning. I expect there are a lot of that kind of cheater here.
I hope you don't take too much to heart of what people are calling you here or labelling him as well. Follow your heart, never follow the paranoia or the crowd, I say.
This all sounds very pretty BB but she didn't find out after the relationship started that he was married, she knew it beforehand.
Therefore, she deserves what she gets.
You take a vow when you get married......through thick or thin to stay together. It doesn't matter if he's not getting it from the wife or she nags or whatever else the problem is, he is married. PERIOD
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Thank you kaybee
Your words make sense ..sometimes when we love i think we want to believe all that we are told and act on these words and feelings of love instead of using our logic thoughts .
Thank you
Your words make sense ..sometimes when we love i think we want to believe all that we are told and act on these words and feelings of love instead of using our logic thoughts .
Thank you
Kaybee50: Don't back.
Instead, turn around and run away as fast as you can.
This is a recipe for heartache and disaster, and not just for the two of you.
There are other people to think about.
Love is a strong drug, but the consequences of your situation can't be positive:
1) Secrets, always secrets
2) Holidays? Nope, he will choose to be with his family.
3) Will he ever leave his family for you? Who knows? Why wait and wait and wait and put your life on hold, until you found out?
If there are children involved...my heart breaks for them.
Think, please.
Instead, turn around and run away as fast as you can.
This is a recipe for heartache and disaster, and not just for the two of you.
There are other people to think about.
Love is a strong drug, but the consequences of your situation can't be positive:
1) Secrets, always secrets
2) Holidays? Nope, he will choose to be with his family.
3) Will he ever leave his family for you? Who knows? Why wait and wait and wait and put your life on hold, until you found out?
If there are children involved...my heart breaks for them.
Think, please.
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Azizamm: I am in a situation where i love a man who is married but is not in love with his wife ..
But remains as a duty and pity
Should he leave without thought for her welfare
Or should i back away from this situation
But remains as a duty and pity
Should he leave without thought for her welfare
Or should i back away from this situation
There is a song (in Spanish) that says:
Routine can be stronger than love.
But
Is there any other person that “he” is seeing, besides you and his wife?
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BB_snickers: You haven't given a whole lot of information. The popular choice is to rip the man all to shreds without any due consideration of course. The next popular choice is to call you a home wrecker complete with blonde jokes. Rather common I would say.
But what if the wife nagged him to death and pushed him away or defaulted on her agreements in the marriage.
People are saying and or implying that if he 'cheats' on his wife he will on you as well and that is just not true, as a fact. Its a projected and personal notion that they want you to believe as true simply because 'they' think that way. It may be that his wife has created a situation that would only happen between the two of them and not him with others. Perhaps she has already left the relationship in several ways and is unknowingly pushing him out by not being available or supportive or maybe she never was. So many possibilites.
Even if there's cause to think he'd do it with that woman, I think it unreasonable to cast aspersions on him based on a previous relationship events. Relationships are situational. Is his wife always going to be a nagg because she possibly is now, or with him only for instance.
Nice people don't cast aspersions, especially without cause, or make blind judgement calls from preconceived religious moral codes, much less let paranoid delusions be their guide.
Give him time, give him a due by date, if he doesn't meet it then drop the situation. I expect neither he nor his wife will actually remedy their situation since most people refuse to look at themselves and deal with the more obvious cheating that isn't always with someone else. But who knows, they may. Plenty of people cheat themselves and hence relationships by not being the wife or husband that they promised to be in the beginning. I expect there are a lot of that kind of cheater here.
I hope you don't take too much to heart of what people are calling you here or labelling him as well. Follow your heart, never follow the paranoia or the crowd, I say.
But what if the wife nagged him to death and pushed him away or defaulted on her agreements in the marriage.
People are saying and or implying that if he 'cheats' on his wife he will on you as well and that is just not true, as a fact. Its a projected and personal notion that they want you to believe as true simply because 'they' think that way. It may be that his wife has created a situation that would only happen between the two of them and not him with others. Perhaps she has already left the relationship in several ways and is unknowingly pushing him out by not being available or supportive or maybe she never was. So many possibilites.
Even if there's cause to think he'd do it with that woman, I think it unreasonable to cast aspersions on him based on a previous relationship events. Relationships are situational. Is his wife always going to be a nagg because she possibly is now, or with him only for instance.
Nice people don't cast aspersions, especially without cause, or make blind judgement calls from preconceived religious moral codes, much less let paranoid delusions be their guide.
Give him time, give him a due by date, if he doesn't meet it then drop the situation. I expect neither he nor his wife will actually remedy their situation since most people refuse to look at themselves and deal with the more obvious cheating that isn't always with someone else. But who knows, they may. Plenty of people cheat themselves and hence relationships by not being the wife or husband that they promised to be in the beginning. I expect there are a lot of that kind of cheater here.
I hope you don't take too much to heart of what people are calling you here or labelling him as well. Follow your heart, never follow the paranoia or the crowd, I say.
BB , you have some valid points... But personally I believe a person should not enter into a relationship with baggage, because it will affect the new relationship.
My opinion is not based on any religious moral codes. It is simply my opinion. Kudos to you for putting your opinion forward too, even though it doesn't 'run' with the popular crowd.
The truth is that no-one can really comment on the situation without knowing the extent of it. I am surprised the lady asked anyone for an opinion, knowing that potentially she was going to get some backlash.
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Azizamm: Thank you kaybee
Your words make sense ..sometimes when we love i think we want to believe all that we are told and act on these words and feelings of love instead of using our logic thoughts .
Thank you
Your words make sense ..sometimes when we love i think we want to believe all that we are told and act on these words and feelings of love instead of using our logic thoughts .
Thank you
You are most welcome Azizamm.
Listening to both your heart and your mind will bring you the right answers for you.
I can't imagine it is enriching for your heart and spirit to be second fiddle all the time, and his family must come first. Is this how you envision your life?
Look deep inside of you...the answers are there. Bon Courage.
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online today!online today!pisceslady7Kincumber nr. Gosford, New South Wales Australia21 Threads 4 Polls 1,910 PostsI see this as quite simple.
he is not man enough to make a decision and it seems that decision would be to have his cake and eat it too. If you allow this behaviour and participate in it....he will never change. You have given him what he wants and therefore you will miss all the holidays with him, birthdays, special occassions...FOREVER.
Cut loose and find a man who is loyal just to you and you to him.
he is not man enough to make a decision and it seems that decision would be to have his cake and eat it too. If you allow this behaviour and participate in it....he will never change. You have given him what he wants and therefore you will miss all the holidays with him, birthdays, special occassions...FOREVER.
Cut loose and find a man who is loyal just to you and you to him.
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pisceslady7: I see this as quite simple.
he is not man enough to make a decision and it seems that decision would be to have his cake and eat it too. If you allow this behaviour and participate in it....he will never change. You have given him what he wants and therefore you will miss all the holidays with him, birthdays, special occassions...FOREVER.
Cut loose and find a man who is loyal just to you and you to him.
he is not man enough to make a decision and it seems that decision would be to have his cake and eat it too. If you allow this behaviour and participate in it....he will never change. You have given him what he wants and therefore you will miss all the holidays with him, birthdays, special occassions...FOREVER.
Cut loose and find a man who is loyal just to you and you to him.
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Azizamm: I am in a situation where i love a man who is married but is not in love with his wife ..
But remains as a duty and pity
Should he leave without thought for her welfare
Or should i back away from this situation
But remains as a duty and pity
Should he leave without thought for her welfare
Or should i back away from this situation
Well, let's see. Pygmalion created a lover so perfect the gods breathed life into her...but that's a myth, and no one believes it.
Some folktales tell that if you kiss a frog, he'll become a prince...but that's a myth, and no one believes it.
And some women believe that the married man they love will leave the wife for them....
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I am in a situation where i love a man who is married but is not in love with his wife ..
But remains as a duty and pity
Should he leave without thought for her welfare
Or should i back away from this situation[/quote
Well I've been in this situation. Stop the relationship if there is kids involved their happiness and a normal life. Seriously this s hit destroys lives. What is with the world today.
But remains as a duty and pity
Should he leave without thought for her welfare
Or should i back away from this situation[/quote
Well I've been in this situation. Stop the relationship if there is kids involved their happiness and a normal life. Seriously this s hit destroys lives. What is with the world today.
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mattymatt2677: I am in a situation where i love a man who is married but is not in love with his wife ..
But remains as a duty and pity
Should he leave without thought for her welfare
Or should i back away from this situation[/quote
Seriously this s hit destroys lives. What is with the world today.
But remains as a duty and pity
Should he leave without thought for her welfare
Or should i back away from this situation[/quote
Seriously this s hit destroys lives. What is with the world today.
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KNenagh: Are you actually so gullible and believe this crap?
If he doesn't love his wife and loves you, he would leave her. Simples.
Also, do you think you could trust him if he cheats on HIS WIFE with you to not do the same to you?
If he doesn't love his wife and loves you, he would leave her. Simples.
Also, do you think you could trust him if he cheats on HIS WIFE with you to not do the same to you?
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Azizamm: I am in a situation where i love a man who is married but is not in love with his wife ..
But remains as a duty and pity
Should he leave without thought for her welfare
Or should i back away from this situation
But remains as a duty and pity
Should he leave without thought for her welfare
Or should i back away from this situation
Perhaps you need to ask yourself a question: "Why do I want to give up my everything to make someone my priority, when to him, I am only an OPTION?
Love and respect yourself first, Azizamm....
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But remains as a duty and pity
Should he leave without thought for her welfare
Or should i back away from this situation