Are you a nosey-rosey? ( Archived) (30)

Jun 6, 2013 3:03 AM CSTAre you a nosey-rosey?
lalasierra
lalasierralalasierralos angeles, California, USA147 Threads 67 Polls 935 Posts

Are you a nosey-rosey?(Vote Below)

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Yes
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13%
No
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38%
Only if I have reason
25
48%
Total Votes
52
Do you secretly go through your partner's personal belongings when they are unaware? (Cell phones, pockets, wallets, purses, etc.)
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Jun 6, 2013 4:19 AM CST Are you a nosey-rosey?
Boban1
Boban1Boban1bigplace, Central Serbia Serbia144 Threads 5 Polls 18,789 Posts
lalasierra: Do you secretly go through your partner's personal belongings when they are unaware? (Cell phones, pockets, wallets, purses, etc.)

If Im with someone in a serious relationship, I really don`t see the need for secrets
If we exchange saliva and fluids on a regular bases, why can`t we exchange our secrets...grin
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Jun 6, 2013 5:04 AM CST Are you a nosey-rosey?
jac379
jac379jac379pontyclun, South Glamorgan, Wales UK25 Threads 3 Polls 12,293 Posts
lalasierra: Do you secretly go through your partner's personal belongings when they are unaware? (Cell phones, pockets, wallets, purses, etc.)

If you have no trust, you have no relationship.

Ergo, you are not partners the moment you, or they, go rifling through personal space without consent, or knowledge.

You will have become something very different to each other.
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Jun 6, 2013 5:22 AM CST Are you a nosey-rosey?
Maus19
Maus19Maus19Kilkenny, Ireland3 Threads 397 Posts
lalasierra: Do you secretly go through your partner's personal belongings when they are unaware? (Cell phones, pockets, wallets, purses, etc.)

I grew up with that nonse. I have no problems with it. It's a speedy oneway ticket to the front door.
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Jun 6, 2013 10:56 AM CST Are you a nosey-rosey?
jono7
jono7jono7Out West, British Columbia Canada3 Threads 8,017 Posts
i agree with boban. if i'm in a serious relationship, i see no need for secrets. i have no desire to go through anyone's things..if they want me to know about something, they'll bring it to my attention. as well, if in a relationship and one partner starts being secretive..i think that's a good indication that they are no longer committed to the We. (unless it's for my birthday...grin) trust equals love.
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Jun 6, 2013 11:00 AM CST Are you a nosey-rosey?
montemonte
montemontemontemonteunknown, New Jersey USA114 Threads 4 Polls 5,631 Posts
lalasierra: Do you secretly go through your partner's personal belongings when they are unaware? (Cell phones, pockets, wallets, purses, etc.)



Never, ever, ever would I go through my partners pockets, wallet, email, computer, anything. It's an invasion of privacy that should be honored. My husband used to leave his wallet on the dresser while taking a shower and I never went through it.

I remember when I was a child my father would say ... go get my wallet and take a certain amount money out, and I always felt like I was invading his privacy, being nosey.

That's a no, no IMO.professor
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Jun 6, 2013 11:05 AM CST Are you a nosey-rosey?
Ccincy
CcincyCcincyCincinnati, Ohio USA77 Threads 20,535 Posts
I doubt if anyone is going to really admit their nosey. If they say they aren't then they are liars.laugh


I'm nosey to a point and not afraid to admit I am.grin

I don't secretly go through my guys billfold or cell phone.


Now I do touch his underwear when I fold it when I place it in the dresser.Does that count as going through his personal belongings?giggle giggle
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Jun 6, 2013 11:06 AM CST Are you a nosey-rosey?
lalasierra: Do you secretly go through your partner's personal belongings when they are unaware? (Cell phones, pockets, wallets, purses, etc.)

No. I'd be afraid of what I find. uh oh And then of course if you did find something you could completely misinterpret it.

I've had my phones looked through, phone bills looked through bank statements, attempts to look through emails, some computer files etc etc by various female consorts over the years... online activity etc laugh Women never seem to fail at this snooping. grin
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Jun 6, 2013 11:07 AM CST Are you a nosey-rosey?
montemonte
montemontemontemonteunknown, New Jersey USA114 Threads 4 Polls 5,631 Posts
Ccincy: I doubt if anyone is going to really admit their nosey. If they say they aren't then they are liars. I'm nosey to a point and not afraid to admit I am.

I don't secretly go through my guys billfold or cell phone.Now I do touch his underwear when I fold it when I place it in the dresser.Does that count as going through his personal belongings?



Really? Those who say they don't do it are liars wow
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Jun 6, 2013 11:11 AM CST Are you a nosey-rosey?
Boban1
Boban1Boban1bigplace, Central Serbia Serbia144 Threads 5 Polls 18,789 Posts
jono7: i agree with boban. if i'm in a serious relationship, i see no need for secrets. i have no desire to go through anyone's things..if they want me to know about something, they'll bring it to my attention. as well, if in a relationship and one partner starts being secretive..i think that's a good indication that they are no longer committed to the We. (unless it's for my birthday...) trust equals love.

Okay this is the second time this week someone agrees with what I`v said ...
These new pills the doctor prescribed me seem to have some affect after all laugh
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Jun 6, 2013 11:13 AM CST Are you a nosey-rosey?
montemonte
montemontemontemonteunknown, New Jersey USA114 Threads 4 Polls 5,631 Posts
Boban1: Okay this is the second time this week someone agrees with what I`v said ...
These new pills the doctor prescribed me seem to have some affect after all


rolling on the floor laughing
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Jun 6, 2013 11:15 AM CST Are you a nosey-rosey?
jono7
jono7jono7Out West, British Columbia Canada3 Threads 8,017 Posts
MADDOG69: No. I'd be afraid of what I find. And then of course if you did find something you could completely misinterpret it.

I've had my phones looked through, phone bills looked through bank statements, attempts to look through emails, some computer files etc etc by various female consorts over the years... online activity etc Women never seem to fail at this snooping.


hey! that's not fair. laugh

while i am more than willing to admit i want to know, and i am curious..i wouldn't do that. a person's gotta have some self control...
but i give myself a fail...grin cuz even times i wanted to know, i couldn't even bring myself to ask. i can remember desperately wanting to know what he was texting or emailing, so i left the room incase i tried to peek.laugh
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Jun 6, 2013 11:17 AM CST Are you a nosey-rosey?
jono7
jono7jono7Out West, British Columbia Canada3 Threads 8,017 Posts
Boban1: Okay this is the second time this week someone agrees with what I`v said ...
These new pills the doctor prescribed me seem to have some affect after all


laugh wine

(where can i get these pills....grin)
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Jun 6, 2013 11:26 AM CST Are you a nosey-rosey?
jac379
jac379jac379pontyclun, South Glamorgan, Wales UK25 Threads 3 Polls 12,293 Posts
jono7: hey! that's not fair.

while i am more than willing to admit i want to know, and i am curious..i wouldn't do that. a person's gotta have some self control...
but i give myself a fail... cuz even times i wanted to know, i couldn't even bring myself to ask. i can remember desperately wanting to know what he was texting or emailing, so i left the room incase i tried to peek.

Is that curiosity about wanting to share in a social interaction, or about suspicion/insecurity?
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Jun 6, 2013 11:31 AM CST Are you a nosey-rosey?
lalasierra: Do you secretly go through your partner's personal belongings when they are unaware? (Cell phones, pockets, wallets, purses, etc.)

No,I don't snoop. If there is something on mind, I will communicate that to my partner. A perfect recipe for ending a good relationship is to become paranoid and snoop.

Rather, allow intuition to guide you and if there is a strong feeling that things aren't right, and the answers to questions don't add up, then more than likely, the relationship isn't on solid ground and decisions need to be made.
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Jun 6, 2013 11:33 AM CST Are you a nosey-rosey?
2intrigued
2intrigued2intriguedMississauga, Ontario Canada11 Threads 18,576 Posts
lalasierra: Do you secretly go through your partner's personal belongings when they are unaware? (Cell phones, pockets, wallets, purses, etc.)


I find the vote breakdown quite interesting in comparison to what's being said here. laugh
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Jun 6, 2013 11:37 AM CST Are you a nosey-rosey?
jac379
jac379jac379pontyclun, South Glamorgan, Wales UK25 Threads 3 Polls 12,293 Posts
2intrigued: I find the vote breakdown quite interesting in comparison to what's being said here.

I've only just added my vote.

Its possible that those who would snoop might not comment and those who comment might not vote.
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Jun 6, 2013 11:39 AM CST Are you a nosey-rosey?
jono7
jono7jono7Out West, British Columbia Canada3 Threads 8,017 Posts
jac379: Is that curiosity about wanting to share in a social interaction, or about suspicion/insecurity?


that particular time, it was my insecurity.....sigh blushing ...or i would of asked.
i'm only human jac...
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Jun 6, 2013 11:41 AM CST Are you a nosey-rosey?
jono7
jono7jono7Out West, British Columbia Canada3 Threads 8,017 Posts
2intrigued: I find the vote breakdown quite interesting in comparison to what's being said here.


hiya 2intrigued wave
i rarely remember to vote..i'm more interested in the comments..
i'll go vote now... laugh
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Jun 6, 2013 11:45 AM CST Are you a nosey-rosey?
2intrigued
2intrigued2intriguedMississauga, Ontario Canada11 Threads 18,576 Posts
jac379: I've only just added my vote.

Its possible that those who would snoop might not comment and those who comment might not vote.


The possibilites are endless and given that this is a dating site, I'm not sure people will be totally honest with questions like this one. laugh
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Jun 6, 2013 12:03 PM CST Are you a nosey-rosey?
jac379
jac379jac379pontyclun, South Glamorgan, Wales UK25 Threads 3 Polls 12,293 Posts
jono7: that particular time, it was my insecurity..... ...or i would of asked.
i'm only human jac...

It wasn't a criticism, Jono.

I'm just thinking about when someone texts in front of me and it makes me feel vaguely socially excluded, especially if I've been socialising with the texter just moments before.

I sometimes have to stop myself from looking over my best friend's shoulder when she gets a text, as if she's just opened a photograph album, or book, just because I'm in sharing mode with her.

I was just clarifying the distinction between curiosity with respect to social exclusion and suspicion.
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Jun 6, 2013 12:35 PM CST Are you a nosey-rosey?
jono7
jono7jono7Out West, British Columbia Canada3 Threads 8,017 Posts
jac379: It wasn't a criticism, Jono.

I'm just thinking about when someone texts in front of me and it makes me feel vaguely socially excluded, especially if I've been socialising with the texter just moments before.

I sometimes have to stop myself from looking over my best friend's shoulder when she gets a text, as if she's just opened a photograph album, or book, just because I'm in sharing mode with her.

I was just clarifying the distinction between curiosity with respect to social exclusion and suspicion.


thanks jac hug
i'm most likely reacting to my own sense of shame about having become needy/insecure in that particular situation, and choosing to hide instead of asking the question out of fear of the answer.

like you, i have a curious mind.
but as for friends texting in a social situation..i couldn't care less. laugh i have no desire to know what they're texting. i go back to...if it's information for me..they'll let me know. if it goes on for a long time though, and not an emergency of some sort..i do think it's rude.
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Jun 6, 2013 12:55 PM CST Are you a nosey-rosey?
Tomcats2
Tomcats2Tomcats2Norwich, Norfolk, England UK81 Threads 9 Polls 2,249 Posts
lalasierra: Do you secretly go through your partner's personal belongings when they are unaware? (Cell phones, pockets, wallets, purses, etc.)


I got suspicious once and nearly snooped in my ex wife's diary, i stopped my self knowing she would not go through my private things. Today i had to pick my sons bags up from their mums on the table of the lounge was an envelope addressed to me not opened, underneath was letters opened to her from her solicitor i was so tempted to look but no i still respect her privacy and would any partner . trust is everything and the most important thing how can you love if you cant trust that person?
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Jun 6, 2013 1:19 PM CST Are you a nosey-rosey?
Maus19
Maus19Maus19Kilkenny, Ireland3 Threads 397 Posts
Neither do I see the need for secrets.
But curiosity will kill the cat.
But I do see it as an invasion of my space.
My space, that's one of the two separate entities that would make up the 'we'.
If the other half feels the need to go and check and read my mail then I find that grossly lacking respect and trust.
Becoming 'we' is not something I see as putting all on the table, erasing both to end up transformed as one spineless 'we'jelly.
Two individuals who are willing to trust and respect and work together, accepting that there never will be a 'one', they might become a 'we'.
Snooping is not the way forward and not all is for sharing. Some things are yours and yours only. I don't see it as being secretive, I think that's being honest.
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Jun 6, 2013 1:22 PM CST Are you a nosey-rosey?
jono7: hey! that's not fair.

while i am more than willing to admit i want to know, and i am curious..i wouldn't do that. a person's gotta have some self control...
but i give myself a fail... cuz even times i wanted to know, i couldn't even bring myself to ask. i can remember desperately wanting to know what he was texting or emailing, so i left the room incase i tried to peek.

Oh don't get me wrong... if I got very suspicious about something I might have a snoop if I wasn't happy with an explanation of something. Lets not pontificate to each other about how high an mighty we like to see ourselves. Most people of a certain age have been betrayed once or more. Lied to about things, whether financial, love interest or otherwise... more often than not by somebody we all might have thought was the best in the world.

Doveryai no Proveryai - Trust, but verify.
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Jun 6, 2013 1:24 PM CST Are you a nosey-rosey?
Maus19: Neither do I see the need for secrets.
But curiosity will kill the cat.
But I do see it as an invasion of my space.
My space, that's one of the two separate entities that would make up the 'we'.
If the other half feels the need to go and check and read my mail then I find that grossly lacking respect and trust.
Becoming 'we' is not something I see as putting all on the table, erasing both to end up transformed as one spineless 'we'jelly.
Two individuals who are willing to trust and respect and work together, accepting that there never will be a 'one', they might become a 'we'.
Snooping is not the way forward and not all is for sharing. Some things are yours and yours only. I don't see it as being secretive, I think that's being honest.

We jelly. I've never tried that.
Wonder if it goes with peanut butter. idea
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Jun 6, 2013 1:36 PM CST Are you a nosey-rosey?
No.. If I do it, then there is no trust and therefore the relationship is over. We respect each other privacy.
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Jun 6, 2013 2:08 PM CST Are you a nosey-rosey?
jono7
jono7jono7Out West, British Columbia Canada3 Threads 8,017 Posts
Maus19: Neither do I see the need for secrets.
But curiosity will kill the cat.
But I do see it as an invasion of my space.
My space, that's one of the two separate entities that would make up the 'we'.
If the other half feels the need to go and check and read my mail then I find that grossly lacking respect and trust.
Becoming 'we' is not something I see as putting all on the table, erasing both to end up transformed as one spineless 'we'jelly.
Two individuals who are willing to trust and respect and work together, accepting that there never will be a 'one', they might become a 'we'.
Snooping is not the way forward and not all is for sharing. Some things are yours and yours only. I don't see it as being secretive, I think that's being honest.


thumbs up for your comment
thumbs down for We jelly..... laugh
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Jun 6, 2013 2:12 PM CST Are you a nosey-rosey?
montemonte
montemontemontemonteunknown, New Jersey USA114 Threads 4 Polls 5,631 Posts
Maus19: Neither do I see the need for secrets.
But curiosity will kill the cat.
But I do see it as an invasion of my space.
My space, that's one of the two separate entities that would make up the 'we'.
If the other half feels the need to go and check and read my mail then I find that grossly lacking respect and trust.
Becoming 'we' is not something I see as putting all on the table, erasing both to end up transformed as one spineless 'we'jelly.
Two individuals who are willing to trust and respect and work together, accepting that there never will be a 'one', they might become a 'we'.
Snooping is not the way forward and not all is for sharing. Some things are yours and yours only. I don't see it as being secretive, I think that's being honest.



thumbs up
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Jun 6, 2013 2:16 PM CST Are you a nosey-rosey?
Maus19
Maus19Maus19Kilkenny, Ireland3 Threads 397 Posts
Kaybee50: We jelly. I've never tried that.
Wonder if it goes with peanut butter.

Great combination! It quickly makes an 'I'jelly if the other half is allergic, a bonus for some.
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Jun 6, 2013 2:32 PM CST Are you a nosey-rosey?
jasmine64
jasmine64jasmine64Itty Bitty, Nebraska USA2 Threads 30 Posts
I have no secrets so if in a relationship and I happen to be doing other things but need something from, say my purse, etc. I feel fine asking him to get it for me. But will not snoop in his personal data, etc. unless at his request.

Was in a relationship where we were able to be together only on week-ends. Laying on the bed chatting and watching a good movie, so very relaxed. He gets a text, leaves the room. Finally after being in the bedroom alone for over an hour I just simply walk into the room where he is and tell him he is being very inconsiderate and I leave.
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