Should women play "hard to get"? (57)
lalasierra: I personally have never used this tactic but I often wonder, does it work or does it backfire on the woman when the male is turned off by her game?
I don't care if it "works" or it doesn't. I don't like anything that mucks up communication.
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Will just move on. This is not a basis to build a relationship on. If it starts like that, turn around and be off. Don't look back.
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lalasierra: I personally have never used this tactic but I often wonder, does it work or does it backfire on the woman when the male is turned off by her game?
well, "some guys" like "easy in easy out women"
and I have noticed too many sad threads written by these women here...
hope you get my drift...
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If I am interested in a man, he will know.
Does it backfire? Honestly, sometimes it does. Many assume that this openness is "too fast", when I feel it is simple and true communication. Building a friendship on games, playing hard to get, is a turn-off for me - it simply does not mesh with my personality. I will not be around when the other person is ready to stop the games. They have already shown me how they will deal with relationship issues in the future and their way is not my way. We would be incompatible.
Does it backfire? Honestly, sometimes it does. Many assume that this openness is "too fast", when I feel it is simple and true communication. Building a friendship on games, playing hard to get, is a turn-off for me - it simply does not mesh with my personality. I will not be around when the other person is ready to stop the games. They have already shown me how they will deal with relationship issues in the future and their way is not my way. We would be incompatible.
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lalasierra: I personally have never used this tactic but I often wonder, does it work or does it backfire on the woman when the male is turned off by her game?
depends on what kind of man he is...
if you are sure that he is a really decent and sincere guy, you don't need to worry too much about using many tactics...
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I'm not sure I like the sound of 'getting' people.
'Getting' is what you do with sandwiches and cups of tea. Call me particular, but I prefer a different kind of interaction with people.
Although, I'm not adverse to building relationships, or sandwiches.
'Getting' is what you do with sandwiches and cups of tea. Call me particular, but I prefer a different kind of interaction with people.
Although, I'm not adverse to building relationships, or sandwiches.
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I may have worded my opening wrong.
I am not a game player myself and I don't agree with people who like to *uck with other people's heads and play games. I am proud of who I am and I am a genuine woman. I live in what I call the drama-free zone. I have no drama, I bring no drama, I don't want to hear about drama and don't bring any drama and we should be alright.
I just wanted to clarify myself.
I am not a game player myself and I don't agree with people who like to *uck with other people's heads and play games. I am proud of who I am and I am a genuine woman. I live in what I call the drama-free zone. I have no drama, I bring no drama, I don't want to hear about drama and don't bring any drama and we should be alright.
I just wanted to clarify myself.
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lalasierra: I may have worded my opening wrong.
I am not a game player myself and I don't agree with people who like to *uck with other people's heads and play games. I am proud of who I am and I am a genuine woman. I live in what I call the drama-free zone. I have no drama, I bring no drama, I don't want to hear about drama and don't bring any drama and we should be alright.
I just wanted to clarify myself.
I am not a game player myself and I don't agree with people who like to *uck with other people's heads and play games. I am proud of who I am and I am a genuine woman. I live in what I call the drama-free zone. I have no drama, I bring no drama, I don't want to hear about drama and don't bring any drama and we should be alright.
I just wanted to clarify myself.
What do you mean by "playing hard to get" then?
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If she has to "play" it means she isn't hard to get really...is she?! 
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Kaybee50: What do you mean by "playing hard to get" then?
Well, for example, I knew :this lady who I worked with and she would do stupid things like not answer his call because she would want him to think, then she would return his call a couple of hours later, or he would ask her for a date and she would turn him down because she would lie and say she wasn't available that particular night..
She would brag about what she was doing and actually think it was funny. She said she enjoyed watching them working so hard to get a date with her.
She was physically very beautiful but I thought she was superficial and sickening. Some of the men actually did keep trying and she would go out with them eventually.
So I always had her behavior/tactics burned in my brain and it just made me wonder if men did like having to work harder and try to impress her with their willingness not to give up?
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lalasierra: I may have worded my opening wrong.
I am not a game player myself and I don't agree with people who like to *uck with other people's heads and play games. I am proud of who I am and I am a genuine woman. I live in what I call the drama-free zone. I have no drama, I bring no drama, I don't want to hear about drama and don't bring any drama and we should be alright.
I just wanted to clarify myself.
I am not a game player myself and I don't agree with people who like to *uck with other people's heads and play games. I am proud of who I am and I am a genuine woman. I live in what I call the drama-free zone. I have no drama, I bring no drama, I don't want to hear about drama and don't bring any drama and we should be alright.
I just wanted to clarify myself.
I once booked an emergency appointment for my dog who was running around and yelping loudly, trying to get away from excruciating pain. I thought he was on death's door and prepared myself for the worst. Before I left the house he farted (the one and only time I've ever known him to fart) and by the time we got to the vet's, he was as right as rain. I paid extra for that emergency appointment.
I've got two viewings booked for a new home in a new area, one this afternoon, one tomorrow morning. It will be a dramatic change and I'm all in a dither, beside myself with excitement.
There's drama...and then there's drama. Life brings drama and without it perhaps we'd have nothing to laugh at, or nothing to stimulate change. I don't want to stagnate.
Creating unnecessary distress, or playing games, interferes with effective communication. Effective communication may create dramatic change for the better.
I also like the theatre, films and stories. If I ever have a drama free life, shoot me.
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lalasierra: Well, for example, I knew :this lady who I worked with and she would do stupid things like not answer his call because she would want him to think, then she would return his call a couple of hours later, or he would ask her for a date and she would turn him down because she would lie and say she wasn't available that particular night..
She would brag about what she was doing and actually think it was funny. She said she enjoyed watching them working so hard to get a date with her.
She was physically very beautiful but I thought she was superficial and sickening. Some of the men actually did keep trying and she would go out with them eventually.
So I always had her behavior/tactics burned in my brain and it just made me wonder if men did like having to work harder and try to impress her with their willingness not to give up?
She would brag about what she was doing and actually think it was funny. She said she enjoyed watching them working so hard to get a date with her.
She was physically very beautiful but I thought she was superficial and sickening. Some of the men actually did keep trying and she would go out with them eventually.
So I always had her behavior/tactics burned in my brain and it just made me wonder if men did like having to work harder and try to impress her with their willingness not to give up?
I think perhaps she was actively attracting stalkers, or men who viewed women in terms of conquest, or ownership.
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lalasierra: Well, for example, I knew :this lady who I worked with and she would do stupid things like not answer his call because she would want him to think, then she would return his call a couple of hours later, or he would ask her for a date and she would turn him down because she would lie and say she wasn't available that particular night..
She would brag about what she was doing and actually think it was funny. She said she enjoyed watching them working so hard to get a date with her.
She was physically very beautiful but I thought she was superficial and sickening. Some of the men actually did keep trying and she would go out with them eventually.
So I always had her behavior/tactics burned in my brain and it just made me wonder if men did like having to work harder and try to impress her with their willingness not to give up?
She would brag about what she was doing and actually think it was funny. She said she enjoyed watching them working so hard to get a date with her.
She was physically very beautiful but I thought she was superficial and sickening. Some of the men actually did keep trying and she would go out with them eventually.
So I always had her behavior/tactics burned in my brain and it just made me wonder if men did like having to work harder and try to impress her with their willingness not to give up?
I think that what she was doing is cruel and sad....and for her to think it is funny, maybe someone will do this to her and she would be on the receiving end....
She may have been beautiful on the outside but I think the inside of a person overrules that and maybe they saw this when out on dates with her...
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Cyn_Real: well, "some guys" like "easy in easy out women"
and I have noticed too many sad threads written by these women here...hope you get my drift...
and I have noticed too many sad threads written by these women here...hope you get my drift...
Sames goes for women who do the same things to men.
It is a failing on both sides of the gender wars.
It is sad that this sort of thing is so prevalent. But then it should not surprise those of us who try to live by a set of morals that more and more people are rejecting because they have their roots in Christianity and a belief in God.
I'm not talking about religion here or the religious, just that there is a way to live respecting other human beings that was taught by Jesus, and these principles of living lead to happiness and harmony.
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Count_Me_In: I think that what she was doing is cruel and sad....and for her to think it is funny, maybe someone will do this to her and she would be on the receiving end....
She may have been beautiful on the outside but I think the inside of a person overrules that and maybe they saw this when out on dates with her...
She may have been beautiful on the outside but I think the inside of a person overrules that and maybe they saw this when out on dates with her...
I agree! She was very ugly on the inside and maybe karma came around to her.
It would make me sickk how she bragged about doing it. I would want to leave the room but that was my work station so I had to stay and listen.
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lalasierra: I personally have never used this tactic but I often wonder, does it work or does it backfire on the woman when the male is turned off by her game?
ah - let me tell you a story about the dance of love... two steps forward two steps back, .... it is a story as old as time itself......
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Its a turnoff for me.
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Maus19: You mind if I put my feet up on the sofa?
Well, it all started a long long very long time ago, a once upon a time long time ago.
So far that's all I can remember.
Same time next week?
Well, it all started a long long very long time ago, a once upon a time long time ago.
So far that's all I can remember.
Same time next week?
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Naaah...make it easy,saves time 
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lalasierra: Should women play "hard to get"?
Sure I find it cute when they struggle a bit. Thank God for Kevlar rope though. 
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MADDOG69: Sure I find it cute when they struggle a bit. Thank God for Kevlar rope though.
That's funny maddog! You don't mess around! When you want something, or someone, you make sure you get what you want. Kevlar rope is a sure score!
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Hard to get as in hard to lay, yes.
However, being aloof benefits men more than it does women(something betas seriously, seriously need to understand). You see, preselection does not work on men as we do not chase status - he looks at her and listens to her and he fancies her(or not) - but the woman's impression of a man(or indeed, impression on anything)is always relative to the group, and so his aloofness suggests to her that he has options with other women and therefore she fancies more because of this.
They've tested this on swans. Male swans surrounded by cardboard cutouts of female swans are more attractive to the Lady swan than male swans on their own.
However, being aloof benefits men more than it does women(something betas seriously, seriously need to understand). You see, preselection does not work on men as we do not chase status - he looks at her and listens to her and he fancies her(or not) - but the woman's impression of a man(or indeed, impression on anything)is always relative to the group, and so his aloofness suggests to her that he has options with other women and therefore she fancies more because of this.
They've tested this on swans. Male swans surrounded by cardboard cutouts of female swans are more attractive to the Lady swan than male swans on their own.
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lalasierra: I personally have never used this tactic but I often wonder, does it work or does it backfire on the woman when the male is turned off by her game?
Some women, who are insecure and immature and need for attention, might play these games. Personally, I don’t care, as I prefer women who are secure enough and mature enough who don’t play these idiotic and pointless games …
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MADDOG69: Sure I find it cute when they struggle a bit. Thank God for Kevlar rope though.
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lalasierra: I personally have never used this tactic but I often wonder, does it work or does it backfire on the woman when the male is turned off by her game?
Thank God, Women are not immune to schnapps
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Obstinance_Works: Hard to get as in hard to lay, yes.
However, being aloof benefits men more than it does women(something betas seriously, seriously need to understand). You see, preselection does not work on men as we do not chase status - he looks at her and listens to her and he fancies her(or not) - but the woman's impression of a man(or indeed, impression on anything)is always relative to the group, and so his aloofness suggests to her that he has options with other women and therefore she fancies more because of this.
They've tested this on swans. Male swans surrounded by cardboard cutouts of female swans are more attractive to the Lady swan than male swans on their own.
However, being aloof benefits men more than it does women(something betas seriously, seriously need to understand). You see, preselection does not work on men as we do not chase status - he looks at her and listens to her and he fancies her(or not) - but the woman's impression of a man(or indeed, impression on anything)is always relative to the group, and so his aloofness suggests to her that he has options with other women and therefore she fancies more because of this.
They've tested this on swans. Male swans surrounded by cardboard cutouts of female swans are more attractive to the Lady swan than male swans on their own.
I can't speak for all females regarding your theory but I will say that I don't operate that way at all. If I see a man surrounded by women, I don't want him...too much drama and aggravation for me...next....
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2intrigued: I can't speak for all females regarding your theory but I will say that I don't operate that way at all. If I see a man surrounded by women, I don't want him...too much drama and aggravation for me...next....
right on and had enough !!!of course I would never give them any access to cross my life...
I also don't find them as attractive-Alpha-with-backbone only because of surrounded by women... that is a big turn off for me...
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Cyn_Real: right on and had enough !!!
of course I would never give them any access to cross my life...
I also don't find them as attractive-Alpha-with-backbone only because of surrounded by women... that is a big turn off for me...
of course I would never give them any access to cross my life...
I also don't find them as attractive-Alpha-with-backbone only because of surrounded by women... that is a big turn off for me...
It is said that Beta males make better partners.
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