Do confessions make a relationship stronger?

Yes
35
41%
No
21
24%
Not sure
25
29%
Ask me later
5
6%
Total Votes
86

Comments (129)

steffffie
Confessions imply screwups, so not sure... maybe you can describe a specific scenario to which we could respond?

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NotMissTaken
Depends on the confession and the openness of both partners. And more.. But it should.

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steffffie

hole

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NotMissTaken


If every men think like that, no wonder you are always accused of lying.. roll eyes

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steffffie

liar liar liar


...but perhaps you misunderstood me angel

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_R_J_
I clicked yes, because sometimes it really does, because one of partners or even both partners are word's man and doesn't wants to break their word, BUT not in all times yes works, it really depends on couple, who's man and woman in relation

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jac379
Golly, no.

That Catholic priest/naughty girl role play stuff is well dodgy.

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_R_J_
steffffie

Fess us Jac!

"Forgive me Father for I've sinned..."

love laugh

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lalasierra


Would you confess to your girlfriends that you had naughty thoughts of a woman you work with?

OR

Would you confess to your GF that you told her a lie?

etc.

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lalasierra
Hahahaha! That's funny!thumbs up

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steffffie


Having naughty thoughts is not a sin in my book, ergo, no need to fess it up. From experience, I'd say it's better to keep them to ourselves.

I try my best not to lie. The truth may be appreciated, but doesn't always make a relationship stronger.

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NotMissTaken


That's what usually stops men from saying truth. that women might misunderstood. There's some truth there. Can't omit the fact that there are women who are... Well.. whatever.. But if my boyfriend thinks me like that, he has a low opinion of me. snooty

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lalasierra


That's pretty heavy!thumbs up

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NotMissTaken


If a girl can't be trusted to be open-minded in small things, how much more with the major issues? smile

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steffffie


A lapse of judgement or a screwup doesn't help the relationship, no matter if it's confessed or not. Once done, one may be able to fix things up by fessing up, or it may make no difference, depending on the circumstances.

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NotMissTaken


I agree on "depending on the circumstances". But you guys most of the time make the screwup even bigger by trying to fix it by your brilliant ideas.

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_R_J_
Femminists

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if a person ..feels she/he...has to confess.....about something.....it shows a troubled mind....and should not enter into a relationship.......if it is that serious.jmo.

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steffffie

Accused of stereotyping and youth of age! professor laugh

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_R_J_
yeah yeah yeah it's always guy's who's guilty, women - nevah, she's brilliant entity, never mistaken, pfft rolling on the floor laughing

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lalasierra


Exactly!

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lalasierra


True.

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jac379

No way, I've heard rumours about the size of your bible.

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lalasierra


SOME GUYS do have those brilliant ideas! I've dated of few of them, hahaha!

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lalasierra


And you are ALWAYS bringing femminists into EVERY conversation!thumbs down DUMB!

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tomcatwarne
I think for smaller things like finding another woman attractive, or having naughty thoughts about someone else, it's best to keep quiet. If you act on these things then perhaps you'd better have a look at your relationship.

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NAKEDMUDPEOPLE
My mind is/not troubled but confession is a daily duty.
Any relationship entered is entered because of a need to know!
If you cross my path and smile it is because you need to be smiled at.
Love you.

If you want to know walk in my shoes, I will freely give them to you.
Forgive me for the shoes you walk in because they may cause you pain.

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lalasierra


Everyone is human and it's hard not to look. Is it a crime to look?

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NotMissTaken


Wouldn't it be worse if I said boys? grin
And this is not a feminist issue.. tongue

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