How Many Times can Someone Fall in Love? (222)
ChochetaBetween somewhere and nowhere, Gauteng South Africa1,019 Poststomcatwarne: 'Ah I prefer what happens to my brain when I think I an in love, maybe I'm stupid but I have a big grin on my face
lucynad: hiya, larry
numbers and love don't rhyme in my world and i don't think that emotions are countable...
i guess, it would be usuful to define what "falling in love" means for each of us
numbers and love don't rhyme in my world and i don't think that emotions are countable...
i guess, it would be usuful to define what "falling in love" means for each of us
lucynad: hiya, larry
numbers and love don't rhyme in my world and i don't think that emotions are countable...
i guess, it would be usuful to define what "falling in love" means for each of us
numbers and love don't rhyme in my world and i don't think that emotions are countable...
i guess, it would be usuful to define what "falling in love" means for each of us
Honestly, I don't know what others experience, feel, how they define it,
and again we all have our own Opinions it seems, that is why I wanted to do a Poll.... I Guess I mean True Love the way I see it, and not Infatuation... They are hard to differ with these Pea sized Brains we have
I was Hoping You ALL could Help Lucy!
I have only been in love once; it was not the best experience but I remain optimistic that when it does happen again it will be better than the first! 
HotrodLarrys: Hi bodleing, Yes and in Hopes, Needs to continue reciprocating tho sometimes that looses it's strength, on one side or the other too often!
You're never really 'in love' with anyone. You're only in love with your prejudiced and hopeful idea of that person.
"When we soberly review the history of our relationships, we are obliged to acknowledge they began at one place and evolved to quite another. If one could stay in that permanent state of romantic excitation I suppose one would so choose, but it's not possible.
Of course joy in the Other, trust, deep caring and commitment may abide. We have a word for this continuing feeling, it is love.
It's not as intoxicating or illusory as romance, but it has the potential to last."
James Hollis
nokundi: you need to drop the mind to be in love, or at least you need to have a distance to the mind,
the person who is identified with the mind(no distance) cannot love
the person who is identified with the mind(no distance) cannot love
my mind thinks
and can bring me to the present moment
then let the thoughts go
to feel
love
for me "falling in love" is an emotion...
and i don't need it reciprocated to feel it..
also..
i can fall in love with a painting, a music, an idea, a person, a place...
and i don't need it reciprocated to feel it..
also..
i can fall in love with a painting, a music, an idea, a person, a place...
SoonerGal: I personally am done trying....not wasting anymore of my precious energy....not saying I'll never be with anyone again, but LOVE will NOT be in the equation.
Ther is a mistake, sooner.The ways of love are mysterious.For example inthe world, if ou want to have more ,you have to accumulate.In the world of love, if you want love more ,you have to distribute it,you have to give it.
Only by giving you will be able to keep it.It is a totally differnt law, it is just the opposite of the economic world.Money is different, if you want to have more ,you have to become misery, you must accumulate,you have to exploit.If you share money you will have less.oooh i love love.
bodleing2: You're never really 'in love' with anyone. You're only in love with your prejudiced and hopeful idea of that person.
"When we soberly review the history of our relationships, we are obliged to acknowledge they began at one place and evolved to quite another. If one could stay in that permanent state of romantic excitation I suppose one would so choose, but it's not possible.
Of course joy in the Other, trust, deep caring and commitment may abide. We have a word for this continuing feeling, it is love.
It's not as intoxicating or illusory as romance, but it has the potential to last."
James Hollis
"When we soberly review the history of our relationships, we are obliged to acknowledge they began at one place and evolved to quite another. If one could stay in that permanent state of romantic excitation I suppose one would so choose, but it's not possible.
Of course joy in the Other, trust, deep caring and commitment may abide. We have a word for this continuing feeling, it is love.
It's not as intoxicating or illusory as romance, but it has the potential to last."
James Hollis
Thank You for posting this, This Makes more sense to me than any other post I have read at the time....
jono7: my mind thinks
and can bring me to the present moment
then let the thoughts go
to feel
love
and can bring me to the present moment
then let the thoughts go
to feel
love
yes, well said, welcome to no-mind (love)
lucynad: for me "falling in love" is an emotion...
and i don't need it reciprocated to feel it..
also..
i can fall in love with a painting, a music, an idea, a person, a place...
and i don't need it reciprocated to feel it..
also..
i can fall in love with a painting, a music, an idea, a person, a place...
this english expression: falling in love i like very much. It shows that it is not the mind but the feeling, the heart. What can you do, when you fall in love? You just fall,if you fall you fall, you cannot do anything
Thanks for the toast Cuoncheta I love your mystery,
jono7: yes...projections.
i have felt many things..love, like, lust, infatuation, passion, compassion, trust, ...
perceptions
projections
i enjoy (in joy) these feelings (based on fantasies really) till i begin to question or write stories to accompany them that do not support them, often the result of a forced reality changing my perception.
i have had the experience that i 'thought/believed/perceived...'felt' i was 'in love' with someone, it turned out..he was not 'inlove' with me. so does 'in love' need to be reciprocal?...dunno...
i do think 'in love' does require that it's reciprocal to sustain it.
so yes.. projection on my part. but i gotta say...i still felt/believed i was 'in love'.
is one illusion more important than another?
i think it's easier to be love. just requires a decision to love someone. open my heart, accept rather than judge, and act in a loving way.
jmho
i have felt many things..love, like, lust, infatuation, passion, compassion, trust, ...
perceptions
projections
i enjoy (in joy) these feelings (based on fantasies really) till i begin to question or write stories to accompany them that do not support them, often the result of a forced reality changing my perception.
i have had the experience that i 'thought/believed/perceived...'felt' i was 'in love' with someone, it turned out..he was not 'inlove' with me. so does 'in love' need to be reciprocal?...dunno...
i do think 'in love' does require that it's reciprocal to sustain it.
so yes.. projection on my part. but i gotta say...i still felt/believed i was 'in love'.
is one illusion more important than another?
i think it's easier to be love. just requires a decision to love someone. open my heart, accept rather than judge, and act in a loving way.
jmho
hi jono,
The problem with projections is they are made unconsciously. If those projections are of equal strength and depth by both people, the 'in love' psychosis takes over and the roller coaster ride begins.
Of course it can't last, and who would want it to?
It's when those projections...(this person can save me, make my life complete, make me a better person) fail, as they will eventually, the blame game starts. And guess who gets the blame...that person who did not fulfill the expectations I loaded onto them, they were supposed be someone else...how was I to know they had their own agenda (life to live)?
tomcatwarne: Thanks for the toast Cuoncheta I love your mystery,
Yes falling in love is a million year old deal, so you think it's new grandchildren. Have I got news for you.
In my opinion a person can fall deeply in love with someone,but the other has no feeling for them.Okay,a relationship is hardly likely to take place,but it doesnt stop that one person loving the other.
What is love?
rebel2: In my opinion a person can fall deeply in love with someone,but the other has no feeling for them.Okay,a relationship is hardly likely to take place,but it doesnt stop that one person loving the other.
True.
I dont think I've felt it before. Intense like to someone I think, Yes So, Im yet to discover.. 
bodleing2: hi jono,
The problem with projections is they are made unconsciously. If those projections are of equal strength and depth by both people, the 'in love' psychosis takes over and the roller coaster ride begins.
Of course it can't last, and who would want it to?
It's when those projections...(this person can save me, make my life complete, make me a better person) fail, as they will eventually, the blame game starts. And guess who gets the blame...that person who did not fulfill the expectations I loaded onto them, they were supposed be someone else...how was I to know they had their own agenda (life to live)?
The problem with projections is they are made unconsciously. If those projections are of equal strength and depth by both people, the 'in love' psychosis takes over and the roller coaster ride begins.
Of course it can't last, and who would want it to?
It's when those projections...(this person can save me, make my life complete, make me a better person) fail, as they will eventually, the blame game starts. And guess who gets the blame...that person who did not fulfill the expectations I loaded onto them, they were supposed be someone else...how was I to know they had their own agenda (life to live)?
yes... my expections met reality,
blame.......mea culpa.......
observe, report ,move on
gratitude
surrender
acceptance
be love
nokundi: What is love?
you're kidding, right
what love do you prefere?
animal love--absolutely unconcious, instinctive,biological.
Human love--a little higher than the biolocical, a little more psychological,, a little higher than instintiv.
or even a higher love, love as a state of beeing, i call it divine love,or spiritual love.
3 loves= three layers. !1 physiology, 2. psychology 3. spiritual, the real beeing
animal love--absolutely unconcious, instinctive,biological.
Human love--a little higher than the biolocical, a little more psychological,, a little higher than instintiv.
or even a higher love, love as a state of beeing, i call it divine love,or spiritual love.
3 loves= three layers. !1 physiology, 2. psychology 3. spiritual, the real beeing
I have no idea how many times.....but I'm hoping it's at least one more time for me 
rebel2: In my opinion a person can fall deeply in love with someone,but the other has no feeling for them.Okay,a relationship is hardly likely to take place,but it doesnt stop that one person loving the other.
I think we have all experienced this at time! I Have! Good Post!
Chocheta: you're kidding, right
yes i am kidding , love is my message , the solution for all problems.
To be in love, imagine everybody is in love, no need for religions, politics, discussions, ---isms
NotMissTaken: I dont think I've felt it before. Intense like to someone I think, Yes So, Im yet to discover..
You,ll know it when it happens.It will turn your world upside down in a good way! 
rebel2: In my opinion a person can fall deeply in love with someone,but the other has no feeling for them.Okay,a relationship is hardly likely to take place,but it doesnt stop that one person loving the other.
Very true
LadyDiz: I have no idea how many times.....but I'm hoping it's at least one more time for me
Bingo!
I think one falls in love with many
I am totally in love with my grandies
but I can say, I fell in love with my house when I bought it... I mean... if we indebt ourselves to working forever for the bricks and mortar that we live in, then surely, that has to be love of a certain kind.
and then what about our chosen activities (out of work) I fell in love with dancing.. a relationship that I had for 20 yrs..
and at the same time I fell in love with gardening... and my passion for that continues..
Now all I need is to fall in love with a fella... and that will enhance it all..
I am totally in love with my grandies
but I can say, I fell in love with my house when I bought it... I mean... if we indebt ourselves to working forever for the bricks and mortar that we live in, then surely, that has to be love of a certain kind.
and then what about our chosen activities (out of work) I fell in love with dancing.. a relationship that I had for 20 yrs..
and at the same time I fell in love with gardening... and my passion for that continues..
Now all I need is to fall in love with a fella... and that will enhance it all..
To love again…. …..This is the most powerful description I have ever heard….
“Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is.
Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion, it is not the desire to mate every second minute of the day, it is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every cranny of your body.
No, don't blush, I am telling you some truths. That is just being "in love", which any fool can do.
Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.” - Louis de Bernières
Love is all about..choices..
“Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is.
Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion, it is not the desire to mate every second minute of the day, it is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every cranny of your body.
No, don't blush, I am telling you some truths. That is just being "in love", which any fool can do.
Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.” - Louis de Bernières
Love is all about..choices..
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