Would you sign it and go through with the wedding?
I think it would make me feel that my partner is not only leary of me but that he is also a selfish man. I've never been in that situation so I'm not quite sure what I would do.
That is a Hard Question, as we grow Older, and depends who has what, Even If they have A Prenuptial Agreement, Whatever they create together is still Marital Property, It Should be Fair to Both.... and If One Survives the other, It should be to a Benefit to the mate, I have never Faced this, I did slip up and get in a second marriage years ago, and tho it did not work out, I did not take Her For A Dime, What was Hers, was Hers, what was mine, was mine, We Shared the rest, But If it would have lasted, and One would Die, It could have Been a Big can Of Worms...
But Very good Question, and I would like To hear Others Opinions On this!
HotrodLarrys: That is a Hard Question, as we grow Older, and depends who has what, Even If they have A Prenuptial Agreement, Whatever they create together is still Marital Property, It Should be Fair to Both.... and If One Survives the other, It should be to a Benefit to the mate, I have never Faced this, I did slip up and get in a second marriage years ago, and tho it did not work out, I did not take Her For A Dime, What was Hers, was Hers, what was mine, was mine, We Shared the rest, But If it would have lasted, and One would Die, It could have Been a Big can Of Worms...
But Very good Question, and I would like To hear Others Opinions On this!
tomcatwarneOcean City, Plumouth, Devon, England UK17,106 posts
misbhavn: Maybe it's me who is the selfish one?
A prenup would be a good thing if children are involved on either side, and a will, people don't realize the importance of a will in getting your wishes carried out after your death, and any of us could die at any moment.
MerriweatherAdelaide, South Australia Australia11,403 posts
misbhavn: Would you sign it and go through with the wedding?
I think it would make me feel that my partner is not only leary of me but that he is also a selfish man. I've never been in that situation so I'm not quite sure what I would do.
Whoops, I think I messed up in your poll... I voted no... but meant it that I would not mind signing if asked...
I do not Know If I would call It selfish, If One is Established, and the other does Not have a Pot To piss in, Or a widow to throw it out of, Then Thing could Feel a little Flakey, As we Get older, and as Tomcat said, Children could be involved, Ect... It would take two mature minds to find What Works for Them, And since we are all individualized, This would be a Big test To a New Relationship! But Two Adults, with a Good mind set have to work out, I do not see one answer Fits all here!
misbhavn: Would you sign it and go through with the wedding?
I think it would make me feel that my partner is not only leary of me but that he is also a selfish man. I've never been in that situation so I'm not quite sure what I would do.
There is no one here that is capable of saying they will be the same person in 10yrs and still feel the same way about life and things in general... nevermind a woman/man. A prenup recognises that yes, despite all our best efforts, people DO change. What you married 10years ago, may not be the same person as what you face nowadays, Through no fault of anyones really.
HotrodLarrys: I do not Know If I would call It selfish, If One is Established, and the other does Not have a Pot To piss in, Or a widow to throw it out of, Then Thing could Feel a little Flakey, As we Get older, and as Tomcat said, Children could be involved, Ect... It would take two mature minds to find What Works for Them, And since we are all individualized, This would be a Big test To a New Relationship! But Two Adults, with a Good mind set have to work out, I do not see one answer Fits all here!
Merriweather: Whoops, I think I messed up in your poll... I voted no... but meant it that I would not mind signing if asked...
Hello Merri, I do not see one size fits all here...
A LOT of Communication would be the answer, I did not Vote, as it is an individual decision.. I Think the Best Policy would be two, at Equal Standards, But this would be almost unheard of! and You Damned Sure better be on the same Page... And make It work, Happy New year To You Friend! And To All of You!
MerriweatherAdelaide, South Australia Australia11,403 posts
HotrodLarrys: Hello Merri, I do not see one size fits all here...
A LOT of Communication would be the answer, I did not Vote, as it is an individual decision.. I Think the Best Policy would be two, at Equal Standards, But this would be almost unheard of! and You Damned Sure better be on the same Page... And make It work, Happy New year To You Friend! And To All of You!
Hi Larry,
I guess at my age, I have a lot to lose, so, I don't mind signing something that would protect me... and if there ever is a him... him too...
But you are right of course, communication is the key to everything ...
I guess at my age, I have a lot to lose, so, I don't mind signing something that would protect me... and if there ever is a him... him too...
But you are right of course, communication is the key to everything ...
Happy New Year to you too Larry...
What ever we have Now, has taken a lifetime to Gain, we may Not have Much, But what we have we have, and who would want loose it all overnight on one bad decision?
So I think it will be a very Good thread topic to to OP, We DO Have to be careful Here! And Meeting the Right One, is VERY KEY!
A pre-nup in Germany means that everyone lists their assets before they are married and that stays theirs, everything afterwards will be split 50/50 and it has no impact on alimony payment towards partner & kids.
I often saw it that people who split up want to hurt each other - a way of hurting them financially is taken away that way.
DedovixBig Place, Central Serbia Serbia5,492 posts
misbhavn: Would you sign it and go through with the wedding?
I think it would make me feel that my partner is not only leary of me but that he is also a selfish man. I've never been in that situation so I'm not quite sure what I would do.
Well, lets see how big of a malfunction my brain has ... unless I get married with someone for some bizarre reason ,like citizenship,money ,status ...I don`t see the reason we should think about a crash before we even started ...
I would have no problems signing one. If i made the decision that she was the woman i wanted to be with,then what she had or didnt have would be irrelevant to me.
Dedovix: Well, lets see how big of a malfunction my brain has ... unless I get married with someone for some bizarre reason ,like citizenship,money ,status ...I don`t see the reason we should think about a crash before we even started ...
Hi Bo-B Did you Crash Your Plain?
They do Have Parachutes! Great To see you, Happy New Year!
rebel2: I would have no problems signing one. If i made the decision that she was the woman i wanted to be with,then what she had or didnt have would be irrelevant to me.
You are the Man, I like Your answers, Money is not what I seek, Love is Great to see You Rebel, Happy New year to to You Too!
rebel2: I would have no problems signing one. If i made the decision that she was the woman i wanted to be with,then what she had or didnt have would be irrelevant to me.
I agree, my ex had a business which he built up himself - I wouldn't have wanted anything of this.
MADDOG69: There is no one here that is capable of saying they will be the same person in 10yrs and still feel the same way about life and things in general... nevermind a woman/man. A prenup recognises that yes, despite all our best efforts, people DO change. What you married 10years ago, may not be the same person as what you face nowadays, Through no fault of anyones really.
RobbieMHertford, Hertfordshire, England UK4,553 posts
KNenagh: Unfortunately I know what you are talking about in the sense that you have to protect what yours - you have man and woman trying to land someone with money to get something off them or if feelings are hurt (as they usually are when ending a relationship) people try to hurt the other one in every possible way.
If someone moves in and they character turns out to be different, I think then you're early enough to pack their bags again. It takes time to get to know someone and I think in a lot of cases people just don't give it enough time.
Hope you'll meet who you're looking for.
People just want a quick fix, rather than take their time! I have no intention of letting anyone upset me again, or disrupt my life. Relationships are supposed to be a positive thing, not something to worry about, or construct a legal framework to protect yourself.
If i meet someone, it will probably be someone whos friendly, happy and will probably have a dog! I have no intention of rushing, as Salma Hayek and Monica Bellucci are taken, but never say never!
My brain seems to go when i see a pretty face, and it's been a recipe for disaster! For now a female friend who doesn't want to go psychotic and move in within a week will be fine, but i do tend to think the best of people, and try to help, but i am going to be sensible and put myself first for once, as i'm about to hit 46 and i've never done that yet, and it's way overdue.
RobbieM: People just want a quick fix, rather than take their time! I have no intention of letting anyone upset me again, or disrupt my life. Relationships are supposed to be a positive thing, not something to worry about, or construct a legal framework to protect yourself.
If i meet someone, it will probably be someone whos friendly, happy and will probably have a dog! I have no intention of rushing, as Salma Hayek and Monica Bellucci are taken, but never say never!
My brain seems to go when i see a pretty face, and it's been a recipe for disaster! For now a female friend who doesn't want to go psychotic and move in within a week will be fine, but i do tend to think the best of people, and try to help, but i am going to be sensible and put myself first for once, as i'm about to hit 46 and i've never done that yet, and it's way overdue.
I think it's important to learn from past mistakes and do things differently in the future if they went wrong. We are responsible ourselves who we pick as a partner (to a certain degree, people can change or try to deceit, but taking your time will show that) and I was with some great guys in the past. Unfortunately people can change.
I'm happy with my life and everything else which might happen or not will be a bonus. I do believe it does take time to get to know someone and I will always take my time to do that.
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Would it make you feel untrusted by your partner if they asked you for a prenumptial agreement?(Vote Below)
I think it would make me feel that my partner is not only leary of me but that he is also a selfish man. I've never been in that situation so I'm not quite sure what I would do.