twazzle70THE GORGOYNES......, East Riding of Yorkshire, England UK689 posts
discuss it and gauge the reaction from said partner,if its early in a relationship then as the lady already said its quite likely a"rebound"....if its further down the line in the relationship then thats not good either.......in my opinion there is no need whatsoever to hide pictures of an ex...not healthy....tiz only my humble view though my friend.....au revoir..
twazzle70: discuss it and gauge the reaction from said partner,if its early in a relationship then as the lady already said its quite likely a"rebound"....if its further down the line in the relationship then thats not good either.......in my opinion there is no need whatsoever to hide pictures of an ex...not healthy....tiz only my humble view though my friend.....au revoir..
i would expect folks to have photos from their past, which would include photos of previous partners.
and re: hidden... having it somewhere where it's not displayed might be done out of consideration, doesn't mean it's hidden.
and...laugh: as for the 'finding it by mistake'...that would depend on where one found it. and if it was discovered...suggests to me it wasn't all that hidden.
now if it was well hidden...and you found it... bigger question to me is..'what were ya doing..snooping though someone else's stuff?
I dated a fellow for a long time that never told me about his past loves. He always lied and said there was no one before me.
Which we both knew was a lie, and he was right. There were women he dated before me, however, there was no one sharing a place in his heart but me. I did not care, nor did I ever ask again and it was never important.
Some times too much sharing of your past life becomes a burden in a relationship. Of course, for some it is difficult to explain the children from previous marriages....
JeanKimberley: I dated a fellow for a long time that never told me about his past loves. He always lied and said there was no one before me.
Which we both knew was a lie, and he was right. There were women he dated before me, however, there was no one sharing a place in his heart but me. I did not care, nor did I ever ask again and it was never important.
Some times too much sharing of your past life becomes a burden in a relationship. Of course, for some it is difficult to explain the children from previous marriages....
yeah you are right sometimes talking about past doesnt help :)
JeanKimberley: I dated a fellow for a long time that never told me about his past loves. He always lied and said there was no one before me.
Which we both knew was a lie, and he was right. There were women he dated before me, however, there was no one sharing a place in his heart but me. I did not care, nor did I ever ask again and it was never important.
Some times too much sharing of your past life becomes a burden in a relationship. Of course, for some it is difficult to explain the children from previous marriages....
Just dropping them off at a far away motorway service stations solves that.
It happened to me in 1958 when my to-be-husband and I were dating.
I don't remember why he asked me to get money out of his wallet. When I did that I saw a picture of a Japanese woman in his wallet.
He said he forgot that the picture was there. He was home from Korea for two years at that point.
I showed him how upset I was that he was still carrying her picture and he tore it up at that point. He said she was his girlfriend when he was in Korea.
I was upset and questioned him. He responded and that was the end of it.
people have their past... I would not want to ask someone to give up totally on their past... That is how they got to where they are now... it is life...
If the picture is out and discovered through honest, accidental means; it only makes sense to be open and ask about it. Doesn't take an online poll or forum for that(it shouldn't at least).
If it was discovered through less open and less accidental means, you need to come clean and leave that person alone because it's only going to get worse....for them. Seek counseling or something because that is wrong.
geoabcd1234: Wht you would do if you found out that your bf\gf hides a photo of his\her ex and havent told you about it ? post more reactions :)
I think that if they still hang on to a t-shirt or jewellery or material things, it doesn't really mean anything. They could just love it for its own sake. BUT, holding on to a photo (to me) means: the person is still still somewhat emotionally tied and hoping that something will happen for them to get back together. If the photo is a group photo, they might keep it, because of the other people in it.
tomcatwarneOcean City, Plumouth, Devon, England UK17,106 posts
enock007: present is most important past are only memories, u can't erase all memories , but love only can fill the emptiness and regrets .
What she did pre me is really her business. As long as she didn't make it into a shrine, it's really partly what has made her the woman I love. No possessiveness from me.
tomcatwarne: What she did pre me is really her business. As long as she didn't make it into a shrine, it's really partly what has made her the woman I love. No possessiveness from me.
Absolutely, If I Spent Many Years with a Woman, and Possibly had Children with Her, Who in a month or two will make any difference if I have Pic of my past life or Not, It seems Then they have a jealousy problem, It Would Make me Probably RUN!
Cyn_RealHappily Taken,, New Territories Hong Kong515 posts
geoabcd1234: thank you for explaining in greek doesnt mean that its more close to the meaning of second option
Second option is another matter.
IMO, a little bit jealousy is OK. That would be a big question if you are not jealous at all during your relationship with any woman. Once we have exclusivity, we will automatically lose our freedom in certain extent. That's why we all need to respect each other feelings.
I am wondering if there is any guy that has never been jealous at all to his lady and vice versa then I can freely go to the club with any guy anytime I want because he gives me 100% freedom (no exclusivity)
geoabcd1234: Wht you would do if you found out that your bf\gf hides a photo of his\her ex and havent told you about it ? post more reactions :)
You'll have to excuse the social misfits here but the way I understand it is that the partner keeps a photo in a private setting like a purse or a handbag or someone close to him/her. Yes that might be a little disconcerting.
Cyn_RealHappily Taken,, New Territories Hong Kong515 posts
geoabcd1234: Wht you would do if you found out that your bf\gf hides a photo of his\her ex and havent told you about it ? post more reactions :)
Frankly, you raise a very interesting topic.... Because it is very contradictive with numbers of threads related to "jealousy is unhealthy feeling-topic" or "what do you think if your partner still keeps in touch with his/her ex?-topic" or any kind of "respect bla bla bla-topics"
I bet you are still a normal guy that would not let your lady to get drunk with aother guy in the club...
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You found out that your bf\gf still keeping a photo of his\her ex.How you would react ?(Vote Below)