ChambellaCanberra (ACT) & Batemans Bay, New South Wales Australia525 posts
I am torn on this and I ahve thought about it even before... but I don't think I would want to tell anyone... once on my death bed I guess my family and close friends will get the idea LOL
The option of any intimate relationship would the off the table completely. Any one that might be thinking in those lines would deserve to know and why distance is kept.
Select family members would deserve to know.
Other than what's stated, silence on the part of the people with the truth of the situation would have to be a must. It's always easier said than done, but no one gets out alive so no reason for people make a fuss or feel bad about. Including myself.
I tried not to tell anybody; but all the vomiting gave me away, and I had to tell my girlfriend.
I didn't tell my children, or anybody else.
I still feel bad about it; because my friend died while I was going through it, and kept asking me for help: but I wouldn't let him know why I couldn't help him more.
In the event of an Emergency, and I've had three strokes... I don't plan on allowing anybody I know to find out, or visit me.
I love my children, too much to want their last memory of me be in a bed.
Besides, that's the time I need to be alone with God.
mykingdomforanam: I went through 6 months of chemotherapy.
I tried not to tell anybody; but all the vomiting gave me away, and I had to tell my girlfriend.
I didn't tell my children, or anybody else.
I still feel bad about it; because my friend died while I was going through it, and kept asking me for help: but I wouldn't let him know why I couldn't help him more.
In the event of an Emergency, and I've had three strokes... I don't plan on allowing anybody I know to find out, or visit me.
I love my children, too much to want their last memory of me be in a bed.
Besides, that's the time I need to be alone with God.
Wow so sorry you have been through the mill
I tend to agree with you about not telling anybody, I have 3 sons who live in different parts of the country and I have spent time crying silently over them and their trials in life. Helped where I could, but truly I would cry if they were near me at that time and I do not want to leave this earth crying I want to be at peace. Not with a god like yourself but a joining with the universe needs to be done alone.
Redex: Wow so sorry you have been through the mill
I tend to agree with you about not telling anybody, I have 3 sons who live in different parts of the country and I have spent time crying silently over them and their trials in life. Helped where I could, but truly I would cry if they were near me at that time and I do not want to leave this earth crying I want to be at peace. Not with a god like yourself but a joining with the universe needs to be done alone.
I don't feel like I've had it too bad.
6 months of chemo cured me.
I pretty much recovered from my strokes. I had to learn to roll joints again; but now I can roll as perfect and fast as ever.
I thought I'd have to give up all my musical instruments; but I kept on doing piano exercises, and got my ability to play them back.
My last stroke made me forget my Daughter's face; which I didn't realize, until she recently told me; but my I remember her clearly now; and every picture I ever had of her is still in my memories.
mykingdomforanam: I don't feel like I've had it too bad.
6 months of chemo cured me.
I pretty much recovered from my strokes. I had to learn to roll joints again; but now I can roll as perfect and fast as ever.
I thought I'd have to give up all my musical instruments; but I kept on doing piano exercises, and got my ability to play them back.
My last stroke made me forget my Daughter's face; which I didn't realize, until she recently told me; but my I remember her clearly now; and every picture I ever had of her is still in my memories.
Hav'nt had it bad, all that sounded bad enough, but yout atitude to life probably helped too.
BerrySmoothieMy Retreat, Auckland New Zealand4,733 posts
I'd probably keep it to myself for a bit....give it a chance to sink in.
I'd make arrangements in preparation.
I guess by the time I am hospitalised for the illness, the cat would be out of the bag. I'd like family and close friends to know to give them an opportunity to spend time with me. It wouldn't come so much as a shock to them, if I said nothing, and it would be therapeutic in it would start the grieving process for them.
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