equiya: In Belgium it's even by law, the women are not allowed to take the husband's last name.
I honestly do not see the need for it anyway.
You spend all your childhood and half your adult life with one name, and then you suddenly change it to another name, just because that happens to be the surname of the man you are married to?
Could you just imagine if you told adult men that their name was no longer good enough, and they had to take yours??
MrRick77: Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?
Many ladies will keep their maiden names upon marriage for several reasons, while some will keep their maiden name, but with a hyphen & their married name. Most take their married name. It's all a matter of preference & I don't think it dooms a marriage....that usually happens because of other factors,
As for me, I dumped my married name when I got divorced & am now back to my maiden name, because I didn't want my single life doomed
Tormented: What can I say Molly,am a little old fashioned.
Through the generations we as children have inherited our father's surname,while still holding a fondness for our mother's surname.
Like u said Molly,your proud of your name...thank Dad, yeah
My answer to your question is no.
That tradition is from a time when women were considered to be men's property..passed by her father to her husband and having to take his name as proof of his ownership of her.
We are beyond that now...or should be...
If a man is not secure enough in himself that he cannot be married to a woman who wants to keep her own name, then it is he has the problem.
mollybaby: That tradition is from a time when women were considered to be men's property..passed by her father to her husband and having to take his name as proof of his ownership of her.
We are beyond that now...or should be...
If a man is not secure enough in himself that he cannot be married to a woman who wants to keep her own name, then it is he has the problem.
Just about all married women I know(friends/relatives)were more than happy to take their man's name in marriage and it has nothing to do with ownership or women considered to be men's property.
who's name should the children take Molly or will we divide them??
They may not have thought about it like that, but they are carrying on the ownership tradition, whether they mean to or not. The cycle should be consciously broken.
I am quite happy with the kids taking one surname. I think double - barrelled surnames are pretentious.
Tormented: Just about all married women I know(friends/relatives)were more than happy to take their man's name in marriage and it has nothing to do with ownership or women considered to be men's property.
who's name should the children take Molly or will we divide them??
well in Spain they take both - the last namr of the mother and that of the father in France if the father does not show up and 'recognizes' the child as his, even if married to the mother, the child automatically gets the mother's last name.
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Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?(Vote Below)