Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ? ( Archived) (44)

Jul 14, 2014 7:10 AM CSTIs the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?

Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?(Vote Below)

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Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?
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Jul 14, 2014 7:15 AM CST Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?
MrRick77: Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?
i never thought before,nice poll rickdunno
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Jul 14, 2014 7:18 AM CST Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?
lucynad
lucynadlucynadSunny city, Sicilia Italy7 Threads 2,431 Posts
hi mr rick wave

the world we live in is not the same everywhere...

in italy no one takes the others surname/changes his surname in consequence of the marriage...
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Jul 14, 2014 7:52 AM CST Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?
KNenagh
KNenaghKNenaghAachen, Kilkenny Ireland12 Threads 11,160 Posts
If you can't even agree on that, you better don't bother marrying. laugh
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Jul 14, 2014 4:32 PM CST Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?
mollybaby
mollybabymollybabyCork City, Cork Ireland56 Threads 8 Polls 23,608 Posts
I have my own name, I don't need a new one snooty
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Jul 14, 2014 5:09 PM CST Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?
Ken_19
Ken_19Ken_19Winchester, Virginia USA68 Threads 26 Polls 1,055 Posts
If you are marrying me, you want the Universe to know you joined with me. If you don't feel that way, relax, I will never ask you to anyway.
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Jul 14, 2014 5:21 PM CST Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?
galrads
galradsgalradsDublin, Ohio USA2,264 Threads 279 Polls 36,283 Posts
MrRick77: Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?

. I'll keep mine, thank you.cool
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Jul 14, 2014 5:23 PM CST Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?
equiya
equiyaequiyaunknown, Ontario Canada2 Threads 4,055 Posts
lucynad: hi mr rick

the world we live in is not the same everywhere...

in italy no one takes the others surname/changes his surname in consequence of the marriage...


In Belgium it's even by law, the women are not allowed to take the husband's last name.
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Jul 14, 2014 5:26 PM CST Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?
equiya
equiyaequiyaunknown, Ontario Canada2 Threads 4,055 Posts
mollybaby: I have my own name, I don't need a new one


thank you.

and i like my name. i like the name my father gave me at birth
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Jul 14, 2014 5:26 PM CST Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?
equiya
equiyaequiyaunknown, Ontario Canada2 Threads 4,055 Posts
mollybaby: I have my own name, I don't need a new one


thank you.

and i like my name. i like the name my father gave me at birth
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Jul 14, 2014 5:30 PM CST Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?
mollybaby
mollybabymollybabyCork City, Cork Ireland56 Threads 8 Polls 23,608 Posts
equiya: In Belgium it's even by law, the women are not allowed to take the husband's last name.


I honestly do not see the need for it anyway.

You spend all your childhood and half your adult life with one name, and then you suddenly change it to another name, just because that happens to be the surname of the man you are married to?uh oh

Could you just imagine if you told adult men that their name was no longer good enough, and they had to take yours?? laugh
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Jul 14, 2014 5:38 PM CST Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?
MrRick77: Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?
thumbs down
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Jul 14, 2014 6:29 PM CST Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?
Tormented
TormentedTormenteddublin, Louth Ireland2 Threads 228 Posts
MrRick77: Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?


Most women are happy to take the man's surname here(tradition).

Family with one name,represents unity.

All for one and one for all (lol)
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Jul 14, 2014 6:31 PM CST Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?
mollybaby
mollybabymollybabyCork City, Cork Ireland56 Threads 8 Polls 23,608 Posts
Tormented: Most women are happy to take the man's surname here(tradition).

Family with one name,represents unity.

All for one and one for all (lol)


So you would be willing to take your wife's surname for the sake of 'unity'?
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Jul 14, 2014 6:42 PM CST Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?
Brannigan70
Brannigan70Brannigan70Yellow Brick Road , Manchester, Mayo Ireland35 Threads 2,339 Posts
mollybaby: So you would be willing to take your wife's surname for the sake of 'unity'?
RayBaby , how does that sound ? tongue rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
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Jul 14, 2014 6:47 PM CST Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?
MrRick77: Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?


Many ladies will keep their maiden names upon marriage for several reasons, while some will keep their maiden name, but with a hyphen & their married name. Most take their married name.
It's all a matter of preference & I don't think it dooms a marriage....that usually happens because of other factors,

As for me, I dumped my married name when I got divorced & am now back to my maiden name, because I didn't want my single life doomed rolling on the floor laughing
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Jul 14, 2014 6:48 PM CST Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?
mollybaby
mollybabymollybabyCork City, Cork Ireland56 Threads 8 Polls 23,608 Posts
Brannigan70: RayBaby , how does that sound ?


Consider yourself married! heart wings
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Jul 14, 2014 6:51 PM CST Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?
Brannigan70
Brannigan70Brannigan70Yellow Brick Road , Manchester, Mayo Ireland35 Threads 2,339 Posts
mollybaby: Consider yourself married!
Yaaaaay heart wings yay yay yay yay peace peace peace


laugh laugh
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Jul 14, 2014 6:55 PM CST Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?
Tormented
TormentedTormenteddublin, Louth Ireland2 Threads 228 Posts
mollybaby: So you would be willing to take your wife's surname for the sake of 'unity'?


What can I say Molly,am a little old fashioned.

Through the generations we as children have inherited our father's surname,while still holding a fondness for our mother's surname.

Like u said Molly,your proud of your name...thank Dad, yeahthumbs up

My answer to your question is no.
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Jul 14, 2014 6:59 PM CST Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?
mollybaby
mollybabymollybabyCork City, Cork Ireland56 Threads 8 Polls 23,608 Posts
Tormented: What can I say Molly,am a little old fashioned.

Through the generations we as children have inherited our father's surname,while still holding a fondness for our mother's surname.

Like u said Molly,your proud of your name...thank Dad, yeah

My answer to your question is no.


That tradition is from a time when women were considered to be men's property..passed by her father to her husband and having to take his name as proof of his ownership of her.

We are beyond that now...or should be...

If a man is not secure enough in himself that he cannot be married to a woman who wants to keep her own name, then it is he has the problem.
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Jul 14, 2014 7:28 PM CST Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?
Tormented
TormentedTormenteddublin, Louth Ireland2 Threads 228 Posts
mollybaby: That tradition is from a time when women were considered to be men's property..passed by her father to her husband and having to take his name as proof of his ownership of her.

We are beyond that now...or should be...

If a man is not secure enough in himself that he cannot be married to a woman who wants to keep her own name, then it is he has the problem.


Just about all married women I know(friends/relatives)were more than happy to take their man's name in marriage and it has nothing to do with ownership or women considered to be men's property.

who's name should the children take Molly or will we divide them??
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Jul 14, 2014 7:33 PM CST Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?
mollybaby
mollybabymollybabyCork City, Cork Ireland56 Threads 8 Polls 23,608 Posts
They may not have thought about it like that, but they are carrying on the ownership tradition, whether they mean to or not. The cycle should be consciously broken.

I am quite happy with the kids taking one surname. I think double - barrelled surnames are pretentious.
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Jul 14, 2014 7:41 PM CST Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?
sirLarryIII
sirLarryIIIsirLarryIIIClump, Kildare Ireland72 Threads 9 Polls 2,016 Posts
mollybaby: I think double - barrelled surnames are pretentious.


Quite right! Dont want our children to be called BabyIIIscold
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Jul 14, 2014 7:42 PM CST Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?
mollybaby
mollybabymollybabyCork City, Cork Ireland56 Threads 8 Polls 23,608 Posts
sirLarryIII: Quite right! Dont want our children to be called BabyIII


Nor III scold
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Jul 14, 2014 7:43 PM CST Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?
mollybaby
mollybabymollybabyCork City, Cork Ireland56 Threads 8 Polls 23,608 Posts
That was meant to read:

IIIBabyscold

grin
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Jul 14, 2014 7:44 PM CST Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?
equiya
equiyaequiyaunknown, Ontario Canada2 Threads 4,055 Posts
Tormented: Just about all married women I know(friends/relatives)were more than happy to take their man's name in marriage and it has nothing to do with ownership or women considered to be men's property.

who's name should the children take Molly or will we divide them??


well in Spain they take both - the last namr of the mother and that of the father
in France if the father does not show up and 'recognizes' the child as his, even if married to the mother, the child automatically gets the mother's last name.
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Jul 14, 2014 7:46 PM CST Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?
sirLarryIII
sirLarryIIIsirLarryIIIClump, Kildare Ireland72 Threads 9 Polls 2,016 Posts
mollybaby: That was meant to read:

IIIBaby



Will you do me the honour of becoming MissusIII? bouquet
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Jul 14, 2014 7:50 PM CST Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?
mollybaby
mollybabymollybabyCork City, Cork Ireland56 Threads 8 Polls 23,608 Posts
sirLarryIII: Will you do me the honour of becoming MissusIII?


Aw, that is the nicest thing anybody has asked me today heart wings

But I insist on keeping my own name.

You can become SirLarrybaby if you really want to.
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Jul 14, 2014 7:50 PM CST Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?
equiya
equiyaequiyaunknown, Ontario Canada2 Threads 4,055 Posts
mollybaby: So you would be willing to take your wife's surname for the sake of 'unity'?


thank you
very good question
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Jul 14, 2014 7:54 PM CST Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?
sirLarryIII
sirLarryIIIsirLarryIIIClump, Kildare Ireland72 Threads 9 Polls 2,016 Posts
mollybaby: Aw, that is the nicest thing anybody has asked me today

But I insist on keeping my own name.

You can become SirLarrybaby if you really want to.


So its offical we are to joined in CS wedlock.I want a chocolate fountain at the reception and a bouncy castle in the bridal suiteprofessor
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Jul 14, 2014 7:54 PM CST Is the marriage doomed to fail if no one takes the others last name ?
equiya
equiyaequiyaunknown, Ontario Canada2 Threads 4,055 Posts
Tormented: Most women are happy to take the man's surname here(tradition).

Family with one name,represents unity.

All for one and one for all (lol)


no, not necessarily
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