If you learned she is pregnant with someone else's kid (29)
Ken_19: It broke your heart but you broke up with your girl because you learned she cheated on you and she moved out. Two months later you get word she wants to get back with you. Checking it out you learn she is now two months pregnant with the other guy's kid. Would you take her back into your home and life anyway, or do you consider her defiled and the idea of spending your money to raise his kids really dumb?
Can`t have it both ways...it`s his problem not mine. Her kid she has to deal with it herself. She now has to deal with the consequences. No way that I`m getting involved.
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This sounds like something you'd see on the "Maury show".
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Ken_19: It broke your heart but you broke up with your girl because you learned she cheated on you and she moved out. Two months later you get word she wants to get back with you. Checking it out you learn she is now two months pregnant with the other guy's kid. Would you take her back into your home and life anyway, or do you consider her defiled and the idea of spending your money to raise his kids really dumb?
She cheat = no trust anymore
2 months and is pregnant = is it his or yours good question?
However i personally would never take her back and she would have to prove its mine first
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Ken_19: It broke your heart but you broke up with your girl because you learned she cheated on you and she moved out. Two months later you get word she wants to get back with you. Checking it out you learn she is now two months pregnant with the other guy's kid. Would you take her back into your home and life anyway, or do you consider her defiled and the idea of spending your money to raise his kids really dumb?
I'd laugh in her face.
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Ken_19: It broke your heart but you broke up with your girl because you learned she cheated on you and she moved out. Two months later you get word she wants to get back with you. Checking it out you learn she is now two months pregnant with the other guy's kid. Would you take her back into your home and life anyway, or do you consider her defiled and the idea of spending your money to raise his kids really dumb?
Sadly - if you take her back into your home and life, and forgive her, there is still the baby's father that also can come back into your home.
It might work out, it might not. However, this new wonderful innocent child now has the option of two fathers. The biological who might or might not have rights and the nuturing father who raises this child with the mother.
Nothing happens in isolation.
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Ken_19: If you learned she is pregnant with someone else's kid
Tell her to join connectingsingles.com
There's a bunch of them here with selfies showing their bumps.
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I think it depends on several things or ways of feeling -
How does the person feel about adoption? It is the same concept of loving a child that was not your own biological child. We humans have a great capacity to form bonds and align families even those that are not our own. Fostering, adoption, and marrying a person who already has children.
There are different roles one can play in one's live.
So imagine forgiving your girl, taking her back in, and when this child is born, he/she looks up at you in such love and knows that you will protect them and raise them as your own....... and learns later in life that you are not the biological father but they don't care, because you are their father......
or not.
How does the person feel about adoption? It is the same concept of loving a child that was not your own biological child. We humans have a great capacity to form bonds and align families even those that are not our own. Fostering, adoption, and marrying a person who already has children.
There are different roles one can play in one's live.
So imagine forgiving your girl, taking her back in, and when this child is born, he/she looks up at you in such love and knows that you will protect them and raise them as your own....... and learns later in life that you are not the biological father but they don't care, because you are their father......
or not.
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suppose just suppose, she had been taken away against her will, drugged and abused and finally she escaped.....
how would you feel about taking her back now? and what if she did not want to give up this child?
how would you feel about taking her back now? and what if she did not want to give up this child?
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JeanKimberley: suppose just suppose, she had been taken away against her will, drugged and abused and finally she escaped.....
how would you feel about taking her back now? and what if she did not want to give up this child?
how would you feel about taking her back now? and what if she did not want to give up this child?
were I with a man and this happened (role reversal) I do not think I would take him back until he had completed some counseling but if the child were mine & his I would allow a limited visitation while he was in counseling for his trauma. If he loved me and vice versa I would take it slow and save a space in my heart and home...no one should have to endure violent criminalization. I would help him and that he had been abused would not cause me to love him any less
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No. I don't think any sane man would get back with a girlfriend who did all those terrible things.
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I think the real questions you should ask your self Ken, would you be able to trust her enough to build a life with her,and how much would it matter to you that the kid is someones else, i mean people raise someone else kids all the time and they end up loving them like they were their own
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Ken_19: It broke your heart but you broke up with your girl because you learned she cheated on you and she moved out. Two months later you get word she wants to get back with you. Checking it out you learn she is now two months pregnant with the other guy's kids. Would you take her back into your home and life anyway, or do you consider her defiled and the idea of spending your money to raise his kids really dumb?
As they say, you fool me once, shame on you. You fool me twice, shame on me. So, the question is how many times you are willing to get fooled..
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I am not a man, but have an opinion anyway......
All people are different but I dont think its good to take her back, you cant trust her.
But, you always have to listen to your own heart, what is right for you is what you should follow.......
All people are different but I dont think its good to take her back, you cant trust her.
But, you always have to listen to your own heart, what is right for you is what you should follow.......
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ah after I read the question I see she has cheated
can't really answer this as it just cannot happen here !
but say she was pregnant to another man who forced himself not nice but perhaps an other poll ?
For us its about the child not the stupid things people do
S&eM
can't really answer this as it just cannot happen here !
but say she was pregnant to another man who forced himself not nice but perhaps an other poll ?
For us its about the child not the stupid things people do
S&eM
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syeco: ah after I read the question I see she has cheated
can't really answer this as it just cannot happen here !
but say she was pregnant to another man who forced himself not nice but perhaps an other poll ?
For us its about the child not the stupid things people do
S&eM
can't really answer this as it just cannot happen here !
but say she was pregnant to another man who forced himself not nice but perhaps an other poll ?
For us its about the child not the stupid things people do
S&eM
That sounds creepy to me.
Nice to feel sure about one's partner commitment but how I read it it's all about controlling.
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Ken_19: It broke your heart but you broke up with your girl because you learned she cheated on you and she moved out. Two months later you get word she wants to get back with you. Checking it out you learn she is now two months pregnant with the other guy's kid. Would you take her back into your home and life anyway, or do you consider her defiled and the idea of spending your money to raise his kids really dumb?
Check the motives for wanting to come back under your guidance. And, you're sure it's the other guy's child??? In that case she got pregnant pretty quickly. How long were you with her?? Did you want children together? Lots of unknowns here!!!!!!!!
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sorry you think control is at work its just the opposite cheating means breaking the rules 
how can you break rules if there are none How can we control without rules
all due respect sorry but you assume a lot buddy just ask
how can you break rules if there are none How can we control without rules all due respect
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Mauss: That sounds creepy to me.
Nice to feel sure about one's partner commitment but how I read it it's all about controlling.
Nice to feel sure about one's partner commitment but how I read it it's all about controlling.
sorry you think control is at work its just the opposite cheating means breaking the rules confused how can you break rules if there are none confused How can we control without rulesconfused
all due respect laugh sorry but you assume a lot buddy just ask
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we are looking for girlfriends our reason is pure but its our reason I can say plutonic and years down the line my wife falls in love would that have been honest I don't think so I could say we want THOUSONDS of girls but that would stop single girls
MY INTENTIONS ARE REAL MY DESIRES ARE MY OWN YOU HAVE TO UNLOCK THEM
SERENE PLEASE DONT judge see me write if u want I will make you see
sorry if our profile is misleading in anyway its meant to make questions happen
MY INTENTIONS ARE REAL MY DESIRES ARE MY OWN YOU HAVE TO UNLOCK THEM
SERENE PLEASE DONT judge see me write if u want I will make you see
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Ken_19: It broke your heart but you broke up with your girl because you learned she cheated on you and she moved out. Two months later you get word she wants to get back with you. Checking it out you learn she is now two months pregnant with the other guy's kid. Would you take her back into your home and life anyway, or do you consider her defiled and the idea of spending your money to raise his kids really dumb?
first i'd ask is it your kid or the other guys kid...( the two month thing doesn't make sense ) if it is your kid you don't have to take her back but you are responsible for the child... if it isn't your kid ... NO WAY do NOT take her back unless your a fool!
even if you LOVE her ... i don't think her motives are straight concerning you.. she is looking for someone to take care of her and the baby ... i'd asked her why you and not the babies father...
I wouldn't trust her for one second..
be careful be REAL careful
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I've not read anyone else comments on this issue , it's really a no brainer. Walk away from the tart.
If other circumstances were she was out and had a few got caught up in a really bad situation......
You'd have to stand by her
If other circumstances were she was out and had a few got caught up in a really bad situation......
You'd have to stand by her
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this happened to me when i was younger, we tried to make it work but she ended up getting back with the guy and i think it was for the best.
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Ken_19: It broke your heart but you broke up with your girl because you learned she cheated on you and she moved out. Two months later you get word she wants to get back with you. Checking it out you learn she is now two months pregnant with the other guy's kid. Would you take her back into your home and life anyway, or do you consider her defiled and the idea of spending your money to raise his kids really dumb?
curious...
9 months (pregnant) - 2 months moved out = 7 months still together. is there a paternity test, or information not provided which confirms who is the father of the child?
....'defiled'...
while there are behaviors, even choices i find abhorrent...i don't think i am capable of seeing a person as 'defiled'. that doesn't mean i continue to place myself in situations i find deplorable, or even unpleasant. i just believe that with folks...there's alway room for change. infact, change is guaranteed.
does it really matter how someone else/ strangers would respond to this situation?
we often see questions posted in the forums as a means of seeking public or 'generalized' answers to personal questions as we seek for our own truths, or develop awareness of our own perceptions. other times, folks are trying to find self validation in the opinion of others.
it appears your answer lies within your question if one observes the bias inherent.
i wonder what would happen if more folks listened, then spoke from their hearts, rather than from their intellect?
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wanted to add...
i did read the dates wrong.
doesn't change my opinion though.
i did read the dates wrong.
doesn't change my opinion though.
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When i first looked at the literature on men bring up other mens children (unwittingly) it may cause an awful lot of you to reconsider your positions, if you have fathered children.
Statistically i have an awful point to make. Someone reading this, who undoubtedly reacted with predictable disgust, will be bringing up children that he thinks are his, but are in actual fact someone elses.
Feel free to check the statistics. You are in for one hell of a shock! The number is less than 1/25 in the population, so that's an awful lot of unfaithful, naughty women!
Statistically i have an awful point to make. Someone reading this, who undoubtedly reacted with predictable disgust, will be bringing up children that he thinks are his, but are in actual fact someone elses.
Feel free to check the statistics. You are in for one hell of a shock! The number is less than 1/25 in the population, so that's an awful lot of unfaithful, naughty women!
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jono7: wanted to add...
i did read the dates wrong.
doesn't change my opinion though.
i did read the dates wrong.
doesn't change my opinion though.
I stand corrected. Since I did lift the example from the book of Deut, I did indeed use the word Moses allegedly used, defiled. I threw in a 2 month pregnancy for the heck of it, and later forgot I had copied the 'defiled' word.
Your answer thenm if I am understanding you properly is 'view it as a mistake and contemplate taking them back and accepting the child.'
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My lady friend's husband cheated on her. She found out and she got in contact with the mistress. Her husband had told a horror story to his mistress, namely his wife had cancer and that's why he couldn't divorce her.
Well, my friend and her husband got a divorce. She met someone else and she got pregnant. She didn't tell this to the guy cause she knew she couln't have a commited relaton with him. So she told this guy bye, bye, he doesn't know he has a kid.
But some months later, my friend got back together with her ex-husband, he loved her, she loved him... He decided that the unborn kid would be his as well. He raises the kid as his own, the kid is now 6 years old.
The tragedy is that my lady friend discovered last year she had Hodgkin lymphoma... She is in remission now.
Well, my friend and her husband got a divorce. She met someone else and she got pregnant. She didn't tell this to the guy cause she knew she couln't have a commited relaton with him. So she told this guy bye, bye, he doesn't know he has a kid.
But some months later, my friend got back together with her ex-husband, he loved her, she loved him... He decided that the unborn kid would be his as well. He raises the kid as his own, the kid is now 6 years old.
The tragedy is that my lady friend discovered last year she had Hodgkin lymphoma... She is in remission now.
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