matureduchess: Why do men view the same profile 30+ times and not respond to messages
Maybe not amnesia but possibly an issue with Short term memory allocation. Possibly they catch a glimpse on the forum and then want a closer look..maybe then they realize that there was a criteria that they do not meet..or one that I have found quite often is you realize after thinking about it you can not send a correspondence because of certain limitations set by the Woman and her profile. I have seen that happen a lot...even in a friendly message to be sent and you find you just can not do it. I once even made a comment that I could not send the message on the forum but to my surprise they did not believe me because they could send me a message~ Of course that is only because I did not have the same limitations. And then once a contact is made then a return mail or flower is not blocked. But still the woman did not believe me so there was no dialogue to follow. I have seen many "quirks" and very "common computer glitches" that can cause unrest and a lack of trust if no caution is taken in how the response or the inquiry is made. I have had times where I had been talking with a very lovely young lady (yeah, hard t believe) and at some point while "corresponding", and we did this daily....many times 5-6 times in the times we were online...sometimes more or even less if we were also talking on another media. But this one time I was confused as the mail I sent was not read. Now I know that in new introductions this happens many times and the mail goes in the garbage never to be read till the end of time. But she had read it! It just never showed on my side that it had been opened.. it was something that may have been fixed though even now I have at least one mail....and 2 flowers that were sent and not to a new person but someone that had had high praise in my writings before I removed all those...and another to someone that was simply casual but still would read and return...so yes!! All these things can be an increasingly valid question. I think that as I myself work on computers when I have the chance and in the past about 18 hours a day! that depending on the site and how things are set up that even the best or popular sites can have these glitches and to actually know why a person repeatedly is on your "viewed" list could mean a lot of different things. One that also comes to mind, Especially years back was many of us would jump to one profile to get to another because we knew that other person was on their "friends" or "fan" list.. Anyway..I hope that my long written post might give some ideas or possibilities to what the reason may be. And of course you can simply "ask"..LOL.. maybe that is what the guy is hoping. Maybe he is incredibly shy and passive aggressive is his way. Either way "Good Luck" ;-}
matureduchess: In social settings starring is impolite so why do people do its equivalent on dating sites....
starkers like to look but not engage,,,,could be shy,,someone rated my pictures all the time just hanging and viewing,so I sent him a message thought we see what we had in common ,,,,just talk,,, after 2 emails no more viewing or rating pictures,,, he is still on here gave me no reason why he stop sharing ,,,,weird
matureduchess: In social settings starring is impolite so why do people do its equivalent on dating sites....
You forget that this is not a social setting. It is a dating site. Dating.
Thank means that first you check out what is available, then you compare what is available, then you check out some more.
If this were the theatre, then one would only stare for a little while and move on. But this site is about looking for someone to hook up with (while some will want to deny this truth).
So what is someone checks out your profile a lot? So they don't contact you? Be flattered that they think your profile is worth checking out. Isn't that what a profile is for? A.K.A. looking at it?
Since these men haven't contacted you, is that more the real reason your not happy about it?
You sure this was a "mistake" and not the gals?? Was on that horible POF site and it is the WOMEN who look and never reply, even after emailing them. I was told by a few guys at work, its all numbers to get ladies to reply. His proven formula was out of 40 - 50... 2-3 will answer.
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