When is an age difference too much? ( Archived) (135)

Aug 4, 2015 1:28 PM CSTWhen is an age difference too much?
Elegsabiff
ElegsabiffElegsabiffMotril-ish, Andalusia, Spain24 Threads 20 Polls 695 Posts

When is an age difference too much?(Vote Below)

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Anything more than 3 years
7
4%
Anytime he's younger, she's older
9
5%
When it is obvious
42
25%
When one could be the other's parent
108
65%
Total Votes
166
When a guy is not only over 10 years younger, but looks 10 years younger than he really is, insists he is seriously keen on a woman he knows well in real life, and the woman is saying NO purely on the basis of what people will think of them as a couple ... is she right or wrong?
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Aug 4, 2015 1:30 PM CST When is an age difference too much?
Elegsabiff
ElegsabiffElegsabiffMotril-ish, Andalusia Spain24 Threads 20 Polls 695 Posts
Elegsabiff: When a guy is not only over 10 years younger, but looks 10 years younger than he really is, insists he is seriously keen on a woman he knows well in real life, and the woman is saying NO purely on the basis of what people will think of them as a couple ... is she right or wrong?


I worked with a guy who looked older than his age, and had a wife 17 years his junior. People constantly assumed she was his daughter, she thought it funny but it really curled him up.
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Aug 4, 2015 1:33 PM CST When is an age difference too much?
DertyHarry44
DertyHarry44DertyHarry44Lakeland, Florida USA91 Threads 1,102 Posts
Elegsabiff: When a guy is not only over 10 years younger, but looks 10 years younger than he really is, insists he is seriously keen on a woman he knows well in real life, and the woman is saying NO purely on the basis of what people will think of them as a couple ... is she right or wrong?


back in the 80s I had this affair with a woman 20 years older

her 2 songs hated me, I was making double the money she wasgift

life is sweetgift
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Aug 4, 2015 1:34 PM CST When is an age difference too much?
RainComeShine
RainComeShineRainComeShineDevon, England UK22 Threads 22 Polls 425 Posts
Elegsabiff: I worked with a guy who looked older than his age, and had a wife 17 years his junior. People constantly assumed she was his daughter, she thought it funny but it really curled him up.
I guess if one of you is under age.

wink

Some younger people come across as very mature and visa versa.
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Aug 4, 2015 1:45 PM CST When is an age difference too much?
jac_the_gripper
jac_the_gripperjac_the_gripperTonyrefail, South Glamorgan, Wales UK24 Threads 5,363 Posts
Elegsabiff: When a guy is not only over 10 years younger, but looks 10 years younger than he really is, insists he is seriously keen on a woman he knows well in real life, and the woman is saying NO purely on the basis of what people will think of them as a couple ... is she right or wrong?

She's neither right, nor wrong.

It's simply her choice.

Whatever choice she makes, she has to live with the consequences.

I certainly have some empathy for not wanting to deal with being bombarded with age prejudice. When I was a mum of a five year old I looked about 13 years old. It's much more enjoyable being treated like a respectable young mum now, when I'm out with my granddaughter. laugh

Having said that, other people's ignorance was never going to be a reason for giving up my greatest love, my daughter. Learning to ignore it, confront , laugh at it, whatever, was by far the most preferable option.
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Aug 4, 2015 1:46 PM CST When is an age difference too much?
Obstinance_Works
Obstinance_WorksObstinance_WorksManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK3 Threads 1 Polls 3,514 Posts
+/- 25% of your own age before it starts to look like there's something else going on. Which could be anything from his ludicrous wealth or legendary personality to her foreign accent or potentially abusive stepfather. The older one usually has a large compensating factor and the younger one a gross personal defect or economic disadvantage.
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Aug 4, 2015 1:47 PM CST When is an age difference too much?
Obstinance_Works
Obstinance_WorksObstinance_WorksManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK3 Threads 1 Polls 3,514 Posts
Obstinance_Works: +/- 25% of your own age before it starts to look like there's something else going on. Which could be anything from his ludicrous wealth or legendary personality to her foreign accent or potentially abusive stepfather. The older one usually has a large compensating factor and the younger one a gross personal defect or economic disadvantage.


Sometimes it's only one of them and sometimes it is both.
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Aug 4, 2015 1:54 PM CST When is an age difference too much?
When u spend too much time worrying about it
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Aug 4, 2015 1:56 PM CST When is an age difference too much?
Elegsabiff
ElegsabiffElegsabiffMotril-ish, Andalusia Spain24 Threads 20 Polls 695 Posts
DertyHarry44: back in the 80s I had this affair with a woman 20 years older

her 2 songs hated me, I was making double the money she was

life is sweet


Back in the 80s, though, she was probably late 30s, maybe mid 40s? Its an age where women look pretty ageless. Did you ever get comments / odd looks, did they bother you if you did?
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Aug 4, 2015 2:00 PM CST When is an age difference too much?
Elegsabiff
ElegsabiffElegsabiffMotril-ish, Andalusia Spain24 Threads 20 Polls 695 Posts
RainComeShine: I guess if one of you is under age.


No, well clear of that particular nightmare, he's in his mid-40s! cool
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Aug 4, 2015 2:01 PM CST When is an age difference too much?
Elegsabiff
ElegsabiffElegsabiffMotril-ish, Andalusia Spain24 Threads 20 Polls 695 Posts
Obstinance_Works: Sometimes it's only one of them and sometimes it is both.


In my boss's case he was the funniest and most charming man I ever met, and had lots of money. She fell for the charm, the money probably didn't hurt. grin
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Aug 4, 2015 2:02 PM CST When is an age difference too much?
Obstinance_Works
Obstinance_WorksObstinance_WorksManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK3 Threads 1 Polls 3,514 Posts
I'd also say that how old you look, rather than how old you actually are, gets more important with age. If you're 50 and you look 40 then you're not far away from the maturity and life development of a 40 year old, but if you're 15 and you look 20 then you're still a kid.
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Aug 4, 2015 2:03 PM CST When is an age difference too much?
Elegsabiff
ElegsabiffElegsabiffMotril-ish, Andalusia Spain24 Threads 20 Polls 695 Posts
hoolet: When u spend too much time worrying about it


Too glib, too glib. If it was only ever the two of them, and the outside world didn't matter, yes. But people love to judge, and mock, and make comments. Old guy, lovely young wife, phew, the jokes rocket around.

Cher and Joan Collins took some flak on their young men, and look how good they looked. doh
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Aug 4, 2015 2:07 PM CST When is an age difference too much?
Elegsabiff
ElegsabiffElegsabiffMotril-ish, Andalusia Spain24 Threads 20 Polls 695 Posts
Obstinance_Works: I'd also say that how old you look, rather than how old you actually are, gets more important with age. If you're 50 and you look 40 then you're not far away from the maturity and life development of a 40 year old, but if you're 15 and you look 20 then you're still a kid.


She looks her age, not in a bad way, but not going to fool anyone she's 10 - or 20! - years younger than she is. I don't think she'd want to. Part of the problem.
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Aug 4, 2015 2:08 PM CST When is an age difference too much?
Stedan
StedanStedanLiverpool, Merseyside, England UK2 Threads 1,780 Posts
Elegsabiff:

Cher and Joan Collins took some flak on their young men, and look how good they looked.


Yes amazing what a good makeover can do......rolling on the floor laughing
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Aug 4, 2015 2:09 PM CST When is an age difference too much?
2intrigued
2intrigued2intriguedMississauga, Ontario Canada11 Threads 18,576 Posts
Elegsabiff: When a guy is not only over 10 years younger, but looks 10 years younger than he really is, insists he is seriously keen on a woman he knows well in real life, and the woman is saying NO purely on the basis of what people will think of them as a couple ... is she right or wrong?


Can't say if she's right or wrong because it's her own sense of being judged by others that's messing with her head. Only she can choose based on what she's comfortable with.

wave
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Aug 4, 2015 2:10 PM CST When is an age difference too much?
Elegsabiff
ElegsabiffElegsabiffMotril-ish, Andalusia Spain24 Threads 20 Polls 695 Posts
jac_the_gripper: She's neither right, nor wrong.

It's simply her choice.

Whatever choice she makes, she has to live with the consequences.

I certainly have some empathy for not wanting to deal with being bombarded with age prejudice. When I was a mum of a five year old I looked about 13 years old. It's much more enjoyable being treated like a respectable young mum now, when I'm out with my granddaughter.

Having said that, other people's ignorance was never going to be a reason for giving up my greatest love, my daughter. Learning to ignore it, confront , laugh at it, whatever, was by far the most preferable option.


Good for you and yes you have put the case well. hug
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Aug 4, 2015 2:11 PM CST When is an age difference too much?
pedalguy59
pedalguy59pedalguy59Burlington, Ontario Canada28 Threads 1 Polls 6,976 Posts
Stedan: Yes amazing what a good makeover can do......


laugh More like a rebuild.
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Aug 4, 2015 2:12 PM CST When is an age difference too much?
Elegsabiff
ElegsabiffElegsabiffMotril-ish, Andalusia Spain24 Threads 20 Polls 695 Posts
2intrigued: Can't say if she's right or wrong because it's her own sense of being judged by others that's messing with her head. Only she can choose based on what she's comfortable with.


She's judged in the past. (Must be money, couldn't be real attraction, etc etc.)

Come back to bite her now!
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Aug 4, 2015 2:12 PM CST When is an age difference too much?
Stedan
StedanStedanLiverpool, Merseyside, England UK2 Threads 1,780 Posts
pedalguy59: More like a rebuild.


I was not going to take that road...but yes some models have been re-furbished....rolling on the floor laughing
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Aug 4, 2015 2:13 PM CST When is an age difference too much?
Elegsabiff
ElegsabiffElegsabiffMotril-ish, Andalusia Spain24 Threads 20 Polls 695 Posts
Stedan: Yes amazing what a good makeover can do......


Come ON Stedan, you've have turned either one down in their later heyday?
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Aug 4, 2015 2:14 PM CST When is an age difference too much?
2intrigued
2intrigued2intriguedMississauga, Ontario Canada11 Threads 18,576 Posts
Elegsabiff: She's judged in the past. (Must be money, couldn't be real attraction, etc etc.)

Come back to bite her now!


Maybe this experience will be a good lesson to her. laugh
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Aug 4, 2015 2:14 PM CST When is an age difference too much?
pedalguy59
pedalguy59pedalguy59Burlington, Ontario Canada28 Threads 1 Polls 6,976 Posts
Stedan: I was not going to take that road...but yes some models have been re-furbished....


Dolly Parton, three rebuilds on that lovely set.laugh
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Aug 4, 2015 2:14 PM CST When is an age difference too much?
Elegsabiff
ElegsabiffElegsabiffMotril-ish, Andalusia Spain24 Threads 20 Polls 695 Posts
pedalguy59: More like a rebuild.


There ya go. Older women jokes. Okay, Cher did serious renovations!
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Aug 4, 2015 2:16 PM CST When is an age difference too much?
Stedan
StedanStedanLiverpool, Merseyside, England UK2 Threads 1,780 Posts
Elegsabiff: Come ON Stedan, you've have turned either one down in their later heyday?


When Cher was in her Hey Day...she was married to Bono....

When Joan was looking good was back in the day with Anthony....


Since then for both of them it has been the money that has kept the look not the natural development of aging...... prefer someone who can look nice without too much effort....the above two take away the cosmetics and you would not recognise any of them.grin
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Aug 4, 2015 2:19 PM CST When is an age difference too much?
allthegoodnamest
allthegoodnamestallthegoodnamestLondon, Essex, England UK40 Threads 4,697 Posts
Elegsabiff: In my boss's case he was the funniest and most charming man I ever met, and had lots of money. She fell for the charm, the money probably didn't hurt.

Yes, rich bosses have that certain charm about themwow rolling on the floor laughing
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Aug 4, 2015 2:19 PM CST When is an age difference too much?
pedalguy59
pedalguy59pedalguy59Burlington, Ontario Canada28 Threads 1 Polls 6,976 Posts
Elegsabiff: There ya go. Older women jokes. Okay, Cher did serious renovations!


Let's do older Men's jokes, saggy prune bags etc.laugh

To the question.

age: 20-27......up to 20 years older.(but the clock is ticking)
30.........15 years(clock ticking again)
At 55 now, 7 years down, and 5 years up, preferably.
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Aug 4, 2015 2:28 PM CST When is an age difference too much?
Elegsabiff
ElegsabiffElegsabiffMotril-ish, Andalusia Spain24 Threads 20 Polls 695 Posts
pedalguy59: Let's do older Men's jokes, saggy prune bags etc.

To the question.

age: 20-27......up to 20 years older.(but the clock is ticking)
30.........15 years(clock ticking again)
At 55 now, 7 years down, and 5 years up, preferably.



Ta, a sensible answer, rolling on the floor laughing and useful ...
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Aug 4, 2015 2:30 PM CST When is an age difference too much?
pedalguy59
pedalguy59pedalguy59Burlington, Ontario Canada28 Threads 1 Polls 6,976 Posts
Elegsabiff: When a guy is not only over 10 years younger, but looks 10 years younger than he really is, insists he is seriously keen on a woman he knows well in real life, and the woman is saying NO purely on the basis of what people will think of them as a couple ... is she right or wrong?


wave After just reading your last post on a Blog, " I'm trying
to psych myself up for a liaison against my better judgement",
You will go with gut instinct I'm sure.wink
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Aug 4, 2015 2:31 PM CST When is an age difference too much?
Elegsabiff
ElegsabiffElegsabiffMotril-ish, Andalusia Spain24 Threads 20 Polls 695 Posts
Stedan: When Cher was in her Hey Day...she was married to Bono....

When Joan was looking good was back in the day with Anthony....Since then for both of them it has been the money that has kept the look not the natural development of aging...... prefer someone who can look nice without too much effort....the above two take away the cosmetics and you would not recognise any of them.


Interesting, I thought they both looked their best in their forties and fifties. AND Dolly P, and for that matter Tina Turner. Stunning late bloomers, but yup, there's a pic of Goldie Hawn without makeup that's a bit scary. I'm up there age-wise myself, do like my 10p's worth of slap uh oh
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Aug 4, 2015 2:32 PM CST When is an age difference too much?
Elegsabiff
ElegsabiffElegsabiffMotril-ish, Andalusia Spain24 Threads 20 Polls 695 Posts
pedalguy59: After just reading your last post on a Blog, " I'm trying
to psych myself up for a liaison against my better judgement",
You will go with gut instinct I'm sure.


Ha, lots of people making lots of decisions, every day rolling on the floor laughing Believe it or not, not ALWAYS all about me. innocent
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