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Elegsabiff: When you KNOW the thing you are about to do is something you shouldn't do, but it will cost you money and upset someone close to you if you don't - what do you do?
in this particular case, going on a holiday I didn't want, with a relative who is counting on me, and the closer it gets the more panicky I get, and I don't know why.
Just wondered if anyone has had the same and what the outcome was.
It could equally apply to changing jobs, moving country, getting married, much more serious things ...
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Elegsabiff: When you KNOW the thing you are about to do is something you shouldn't do, but it will cost you money and upset someone close to you if you don't - what do you do?
It depends on what the "something" is.
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Elegsabiff: in this particular case, going on a holiday I didn't want, with a relative who is counting on me, and the closer it gets the more panicky I get, and I don't know why.
Just wondered if anyone has had the same and what the outcome was.
It could equally apply to changing jobs, moving country, getting married, much more serious things ...
Just wondered if anyone has had the same and what the outcome was.
It could equally apply to changing jobs, moving country, getting married, much more serious things ...
Aha, I knew I should have waited...now we've got the "something" bit.
I've never been in that situation so I'm not much help as far as the flight with a relative goes. Other serious, life changing things would cause a lot of anxiety for me but if it's going to benefit me, I'll bite the bullet, grit my teeth and fight the anxiety.
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2intrigued: It depends on what the "something" is.
Does it? I've spent so long going with the flow and never doing what doesn't feel right that I'm not coping with the feeling I should not be doing this
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2intrigued: Aha, I knew I should have waited...now we've got the "something" bit.
I've never been in that situation so I'm not much help as far as the flight with a relative goes. Other serious, life changing things would cause a lot of anxiety for me but if it's going to benefit me, I'll bite the bullet, grit my teeth and fight the anxiety.
I've never been in that situation so I'm not much help as far as the flight with a relative goes. Other serious, life changing things would cause a lot of anxiety for me but if it's going to benefit me, I'll bite the bullet, grit my teeth and fight the anxiety.
I do feel this will be life-changing. And not for the better. Stupid plane will probably crash. *deep gloom*
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2intrigued: Other serious, life changing things would cause a lot of anxiety for me but if it's going to benefit me, I'll bite the bullet, grit my teeth and fight the anxiety.
The level of anxiety is way, way out of proportion to the event!
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Elegsabiff: The level of anxiety is way, way out of proportion to the event!
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pedalguy59: Smoke some Herb
Rush some to me. Please. I'll try anything right now.
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Elegsabiff: 'I don't know why' is for sure the most relevant bit. I'm going on a holiday, FFS. This is not usually a panic situation! but I am in a wave of fear. RiDICulous.
Just go and enjoy yourself, think of the ones who can't take
a Holiday in Spain for various reasons.
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pedalguy59: Just go and enjoy yourself, think of the ones who can't take a Holiday in Spain for various reasons.
All I can think is that I would offer them mine in a heartbeat. It's not fear of flying or of being away from home, I've done a ton of travelling in the last 18 months. It started as not wanting to think about it, not wanting to prepare for it, and now that I have to because it is imminent, I am in a cold sweat of fear and can't pin down why.
So I brought it to the polls, because this is a great place to talk things out.
I'm SCARED. How stupid is that?
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Elegsabiff: All I can think is that I would offer them mine in a heartbeat. It's not fear of flying or of being away from home, I've done a ton of travelling in the last 18 months. It started as not wanting to think about it, not wanting to prepare for it, and now that I have to because it is imminent, I am in a cold sweat of fear and can't pin down why.
So I brought it to the polls, because this is a great place to talk things out.
I'm SCARED. How stupid is that?
So I brought it to the polls, because this is a great place to talk things out.
I'm SCARED. How stupid is that?
It's NOT stupid your first point of call is discuss it with your GP, he will be familiar with the problem and will point you in the right direction for help. Do it you owe it to yourself.
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Elegsabiff: 'I don't know why' is for sure the most relevant bit. I'm going on a holiday, FFS. This is not usually a panic situation! but I am in a wave of fear. RiDICulous.
What does the fear remind you of?
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jac_the_gripper: What does the fear remind you of?
the Welsh pilot.......
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tomcatwarne: It's NOT stupid your first point of call is discuss it with your GP, he will be familiar with the problem and will point you in the right direction for help. Do it you owe it to yourself.
Whoa time is tight for that one. Monday is a local public holiday, at work Tuesday, leave Wednesday morning. (Actually shuddered as I typed that)
But drugging myself implies it is irrational - I'm okay with finding it is, but I'm not usually given to irrational fears. That's part of why this is freaking me out.
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jac_the_gripper: What does the fear remind you of?
I think - it was a long time ago but feels familiar - the last time I was this panicky was two days before my wedding. Not because I didn't want to marry him, because of immense family tensions (divorced hostile parents, all sorts of complications) I DID get meds that time and was so sedated by the actual day I don't remember much about it. The relative concerned wasn't there, as it happens, so this isn't flashbacks.
And yes, thanks. That was okay in the end, there was no reason for such terror. That helps! It was all fairly awful, but it wasn't a tragedy.
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Elegsabiff: Whoa time is tight for that one. Monday is a local public holiday, at work Tuesday, leave Wednesday morning. (Actually shuddered as I typed that)
But drugging myself implies it is irrational - I'm okay with finding it is, but I'm not usually given to irrational fears. That's part of why this is freaking me out.
naaaa stop worrying..its only a short flight........i have never flowen either...but when i do it will take about 15 hours.....how do you think i feel.....i,m shaking more then you.....hey you might enjoy it...But drugging myself implies it is irrational - I'm okay with finding it is, but I'm not usually given to irrational fears. That's part of why this is freaking me out.
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Elegsabiff: I think - it was a long time ago but feels familiar - the last time I was this panicky was two days before my wedding. Not because I didn't want to marry him, because of immense family tensions (divorced hostile parents, all sorts of complications) I DID get meds that time and was so sedated by the actual day I don't remember much about it. The relative concerned wasn't there, as it happens, so this isn't flashbacks.
And yes, thanks. That was okay in the end, there was no reason for such terror. That helps! It was all fairly awful, but it wasn't a tragedy.
And yes, thanks. That was okay in the end, there was no reason for such terror. That helps! It was all fairly awful, but it wasn't a tragedy.
With this post and you previous one about feeling unable to back out of the flight, I'm hearing something about entrapment, or feelings of loss of control.
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truheart1941: naaaa stop worrying..its only a short flight........i have never flowen either...but when i do it will take about 15 hours.....how do you think i feel.....i,m shaking more then you.....hey you might enjoy it... pete.
Are you going to SA Pete????
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How badly is this relative depending on you to go, do they realize how much this has you stressed. Might want to have a talk with them.
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truheart1941: naaaa stop worrying..its only a short flight........i have never flowen either...but when i do it will take about 15 hours.....how do you think i feel.....i,m shaking more then you.....hey you might enjoy it... pete.
Yikes, that's a serious flight! But it really isn't the flight that's bugging me, I'm used to coping with that. (Get valium. Sleep all the way, arrive refreshed and ready to enjoy that holiday of yours!)
I'm not even that worried if it DOES crash. When it's time, it's time. A bit early but hey ...
it's the whole thing. Any part I think of, try to look forward to, I start shaking.
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Elegsabiff: I'm beginning to think it must be the commitment. All recent holidays have been to please myself and I knew I could cancel at any point up to the point the plane door closed (by which time I had taken the valium ...) this time I can't. Well, I can, but it would be utterly selfish.
And yes, Jac has been a blessing on many of my previous howls for help! I'm beginning to realize I'm a bit of nutcase after all.
And yes, Jac has been a blessing on many of my previous howls for help! I'm beginning to realize I'm a bit of nutcase after all.
Just a bit of a nutcase
what the hell, a week or two fliesby in no time.
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Elegsabiff: I'm beginning to think it must be the commitment. All recent holidays have been to please myself and I knew I could cancel at any point up to the point the plane door closed (by which time I had taken the valium ...) this time I can't. Well, I can, but it would be utterly selfish.
And yes, Jac has been a blessing on many of my previous howls for help! I'm beginning to realize I'm a bit of nutcase after all.
And yes, Jac has been a blessing on many of my previous howls for help! I'm beginning to realize I'm a bit of nutcase after all.
You're not even a bit of a nutcase.
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jac_the_gripper: With this post and you previous one about feeling unable to back out of the flight, I'm hearing something about entrapment, or feelings of loss of control.
Thinking ....
Previous holidays I have been staying with someone and had little or no control. But I didn't want to go from the beginning, let myself get talked into this. Maybe it IS latent resentment flaring big-time. Second childhood time and I'm throwing a toddler tantrum? against myself?
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Track16: How badly is this relative depending on you to go, do they realize how much this has you stressed. Might want to have a talk with them.
Pretty badly. And it is too close to let them down without basically ruining their holiday.
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pedalguy59: Just a bit of a nutcase what the hell, a week or two flies
by in no time.
by in no time.
Just ONE week! Hell, the thought of two made my chair shake, not just me!! Interesting. That implies it is the holiday itself and definitely not the flights.
Where's that herb you promised me?
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Elegsabiff: Just ONE week! Hell, the thought of two made my chair shake, not just me!! Interesting. That implies it is the holiday itself and definitely not the flights.
Where's that herb you promised me?
Where's that herb you promised me?
One week, easy peasy, have fun with it, you will be fine when
you get there. The weather is 100% better than Britain right now.
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2intrigued: You're not even a bit of a nutcase.
now you made me cry.
Proving I'm a gold-plated loon, and not your national bird, either. The human type. Bloody hell, what's WRONG with me?
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Elegsabiff: Just ONE week! Hell, the thought of two made my chair shake, not just me!! Interesting. That implies it is the holiday itself and definitely not the flights.
Where's that herb you promised me?
Hmmm sit back have a nice dram and just let the feelings glow...... well its a break from the routine and chance of some serious Sun..lap it up once there you will feel the sunshine feel the warmth then you can let yourself go...Where's that herb you promised me?
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pedalguy59: One week, easy peasy, have fun with it, you will be fine when you get there. The weather is 100% better than Britain right now.
You're very sensible. And you ducked the question about the herb ...
The sun will be shining, won't it? That IS something ...
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The irony is, you went and bought a new Bathing suit because
you did not want to go.
you did not want to go.
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