Baggage - first or second date, and they mention the ex? React - (59)
Elegsabiff: Truly shaken to realize I have baggage - I was on a date and suddenly found myself wanting to mention my ex. WHY?? We have no unresolved issues, we're buddies, and suddenly I wanted to quote him (unnecessarily) in the conversation?
I absolutely hate it when someone is with me but wants to talk about 'her', and I've never known how to handle it. A giant yawn seems rude. I don't see them again, though.
I bit the comment back in time and made it general but for the first time I understand how it can happen. What's the acceptable norm?
(We're talking first few dates here, obviously if this is a real relationship pasts have to be covered at some point.)
I absolutely hate it when someone is with me but wants to talk about 'her', and I've never known how to handle it. A giant yawn seems rude. I don't see them again, though.
I bit the comment back in time and made it general but for the first time I understand how it can happen. What's the acceptable norm?
(We're talking first few dates here, obviously if this is a real relationship pasts have to be covered at some point.)
Maybe I'm ahead of my time but there wouldn't be much talking involved on a second date and even if there was, most men wouldn't be taking much notice as they're probably planning in their head how many more drinks she need to give into temptation.
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allthegoodnamest: Maybe I'm ahead of my time but there wouldn't be much talking involved on a second date and even if there was, most men wouldn't be taking much notice as they're probably planning in their head how many more drinks she need to give into temptation.
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I think it's a discussion that has to happen at some time, but the first or second date is not the time.
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allthegoodnamest: Maybe I'm ahead of my time but there wouldn't be much talking involved on a second date and even if there was, most men wouldn't be taking much notice as they're probably planning in their head how many more drinks she need to give into temptation.
...what will you do if she doesn't drink..
Plan B...plan..C...
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allthegoodnamest: most men wouldn't be taking much notice
Phew, that's put my mind at rest
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Willow3939: I think it's a discussion that has to happen at some time, but the first or second date is not the time.
And wait until asked, right, not just draggggggggg ol' Wossname in to be the corpse at the feast
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Lillie49: ...what will you do if she doesn't drink.. Plan B...plan..C...
I'd slip a couple of wine gums in her diet coke, that usually works.
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allthegoodnamest: I'd slip a couple of wine gums in her diet coke, that usually works.
you got it all figured out...almost as if..you've done this before..
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allthegoodnamest: I'd slip a couple of wine gums in her diet coke, that usually works.
On the bright side, I'm guessing you not only don't discuss your ex partners, you refuse to discuss them on the grounds it may incriminate you ...
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Elegsabiff: On the bright side, I'm guessing you not only don't discuss your ex partners, you refuse to discuss them on the grounds it may incriminate you ...
I wound disrespect my date by mentioning past relationships.
A second date involves making her feel special and putting her at ease.
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allthegoodnamest: I wound disrespect my date by mentioning past relationships.
A second date involves making her feel special and putting her at ease.
A second date involves making her feel special and putting her at ease.
With wine or additives. Got it.
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Lillie49: you got it all figured out...almost as if..you've done this before..
There no fooling you , is there?
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Elegsabiff: With wine or additives. Got it.
It's amazing how alcohol can listen a woman's thigh muscles , or so I'm lead to believe
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allthegoodnamest: It's amazing how alcohol can loosen woman's thigh muscles , or so I'm lead to believe
Loosen.
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Elegsabiff: Truly shaken to realize I have baggage - I was on a date and suddenly found myself wanting to mention my ex. WHY?? We have no unresolved issues, we're buddies, and suddenly I wanted to quote him (unnecessarily) in the conversation?
I absolutely hate it when someone is with me but wants to talk about 'her', and I've never known how to handle it. A giant yawn seems rude. I don't see them again, though.
I bit the comment back in time and made it general but for the first time I understand how it can happen. What's the acceptable norm?
(We're talking first few dates here, obviously if this is a real relationship pasts have to be covered at some point.)
I absolutely hate it when someone is with me but wants to talk about 'her', and I've never known how to handle it. A giant yawn seems rude. I don't see them again, though.
I bit the comment back in time and made it general but for the first time I understand how it can happen. What's the acceptable norm?
(We're talking first few dates here, obviously if this is a real relationship pasts have to be covered at some point.)
Early on in a relationship is not the time to talk about the ex unless asked. I met a man a few years ago from another dating site and email exchanges gave no indication of the bitterness he held for his ex wife until we met face to face. Needless to say, there was no second date.
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2intrigued: Early on in a relationship is not the time to talk about the ex unless asked. I met a man a few years ago from another dating site and email exchanges gave no indication of the bitterness he held for his ex wife until we met face to face. Needless to say, there was no second date.
Aw deb's
Why was that, didn't he fancy you?
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uptall: Aw deb's Why was that, didn't he fancy you?
Who knows, maybe he did it purposely because I'm so darn ugly.
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2intrigued: Early on in a relationship is not the time to talk about the ex unless asked. I met a man a few years ago from another dating site and email exchanges gave no indication of the bitterness he held for his ex wife until we met face to face. Needless to say, there was no second date.
I like to think I show 'em such a good time they forget their own names, let alone their ex's
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If they carry huge bitterness or giant scars, way better to know straightaway.
A cabby was telling his fare about Mr Jones. Amazing man - cooked, sang, dressed superbly and looked good in anything, brilliant mind, wonderful husband and father.
Wow said the fare, friend of yours?
Never met the guy, the cabby bitterly. I married his widow.
A cabby was telling his fare about Mr Jones. Amazing man - cooked, sang, dressed superbly and looked good in anything, brilliant mind, wonderful husband and father.
Wow said the fare, friend of yours?
Never met the guy, the cabby bitterly. I married his widow.
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2intrigued: Who knows, maybe he did it purposely because I'm so darn ugly.
Now you know it was just a joke, you're not ugly!!
Sorry if I upset you
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2intrigued: Early on in a relationship is not the time to talk about the ex unless asked. I met a man a few years ago from another dating site and email exchanges gave no indication of the bitterness he held for his ex wife until we met face to face. Needless to say, there was no second date.
He might not even have realized that bitterness until he was sitting with you. Baggage is a funny, funny thing. But hell yes you were right to avoid a second date!
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serene56: I like to think I show 'em such a good time they forget their own names, let alone their ex's
*approvingly* now THAT's a proper date.
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2intrigued: Who knows, maybe he did it purposely because I'm so darn ugly.
Then that photo is SERIOUSLY misleading. Tut.
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Chromedome56: If they carry huge bitterness or giant scars, way better to know straightaway.
A cabby was telling his fare about Mr Jones. Amazing man - cooked, sang, dressed superbly and looked good in anything, brilliant mind, wonderful husband and father.
Wow said the fare, friend of yours?
Never met the guy, the cabby bitterly. I married his widow.
A cabby was telling his fare about Mr Jones. Amazing man - cooked, sang, dressed superbly and looked good in anything, brilliant mind, wonderful husband and father.
Wow said the fare, friend of yours?
Never met the guy, the cabby bitterly. I married his widow.
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serene56: I like to think I show 'em such a good time they forget their own names, let alone their ex's
Now I know why all your ex's wore name tags
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Chromedome56: Not long after i got divorced I went out to dinner with a woman who had the same name as my wife
Except she didn't.
Except she didn't.
Bad move dude
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Baggage - first or second date, and they mention the ex? React -(Vote Below)
I absolutely hate it when someone is with me but wants to talk about 'her', and I've never known how to handle it. A giant yawn seems rude. I don't see them again, though.
I bit the comment back in time and made it general but for the first time I understand how it can happen. What's the acceptable norm?
(We're talking first few dates here, obviously if this is a real relationship pasts have to be covered at some point.)