If you fell for someone and they say they feel the same but will not marry under any circumstances w

live with them regardless
42
49%
hold out for a wedding date
2
2%
live with them hoping they would change.
12
14%
move on
30
35%
Total Votes
86
Would you

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Hi Tomcat,

I would live with someone regardless of no official marriage......because love can keep two people together.... A piece of paper is no guarantee of love and togetherness. How about you?

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tomcatwarne


Hi JoyI think your answer reflects my own feelings, I have been married and it is no guarantee of lifelong love.handshake

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allthegoodnamest


Marriage just complicates the inevitable breakup, especially in the USA , where it's considered a successful marriage if it outlasts milk.

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tomcatwarne


Very witty All, but I suppose their are still some girls who dream of weddings and confetti etc, but do any blokes feel the same way?

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serene56



laugh

Although I'm no serial bride, I might be curious in the face of point-blank refusal as perhaps that person is already married hmmm

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tomcatwarne


Good point from the wizardgrin

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Dreamcatcher99
If it can be avoided, I'd very much don't wanna go through another marriage again.

If it's possible, I'd love to remain in my own country coz life's good here.

Ideally, I should get someone who already like it here and do not need any convincing to relocate to be with me.

I thought I've found someone who fits the bill but sadly, it didn't work out.

However, I'd not rule out the possibility of relocating to another country if it's to be with someone I love but then, I'd have to marry him in order to be able to remain in his country.

So, see the dilemma I'm in?!?!? doh grin

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Ccincy
I have no plans on ever remarrying again but being always curious I would ask him why.

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allthegoodnamest


Well, we all know what curiosity did to the cat.cats meow wink laugh

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Elegsabiff


I'm with you on this one. Already married / commitment issues / phoning it in but already knowing there's no future / other

I failed at marriage once and I don't expect to do it again - certainly not something I plan on. But when you meet a guy who says never no way no chance, that's too much emphasis. I did meet a man like that, who raised the subject long, long before it was something I would have even thought of, and it turned out there were huge issues. It's one of those useful little warning signs. rolling on the floor laughing

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serene56


No, what uncertain


laugh

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tomcatwarne
Elegsabiff


The marriage thing is a knotty question at the best of times. Bringing it up too soon is eek why. OFFERING it too soon is eek BYE rolling on the floor laughing

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tomcatwarne
serene56



Hmm yes, perhaps conversing

I mean I understand that many people have little or no desire to say 'I do', but to me there's a difference between saying 'I most likely won't' and 'Not a snowball's chance in hell, sister, noo way, not this lil black duck, nada!' whilst making gagging or choking noises conversing

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Elegsabiff


Tom, are you in love? nerd

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Elegsabiff


Beautifully put rolling on the floor laughing

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allthegoodnamest


Which does beg the question.. Why would one get hitched after a certain age other than for financial gain.confused

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tomcatwarne


Maybegrin

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serene56




One could ask that question at any age surely confused


People get married because they want to, age has nothing to do with it, it's a choice.

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Elegsabiff


Aw! joy cartwheel boogie dancing

Stop being so quiet and reticent about it, she may not guess rolling on the floor laughing

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Elegsabiff


It's the best way of saying 'I think this thing will last the distance and if so being married is the best way of keeping the paperwork straight once one of us dies'

It is a commitment to the other person which says tomorrow is a given, but you are thinking of the day after tomorrow. And a year away. And forever. Which is precisely why it is absolutely terrifying and shouldn't be discussed while things are still at the 'love you today, love you tomorrow, let me check my diary re next week' stage. Very few of us once-bitten twice-shy want to think ahead.

It is digging foundations, rather than pitching a tent. Like I said, absolutely terrifying. rolling on the floor laughing

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allthegoodnamest


Call me any old romantic but marriage at our age , to me , is an unnecessary expense. That's not to say we couldn't have the honeymoon. wink laugh

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tomcatwarne


This is not about me and she knows.

The question was put generally to CS.I'm surprised more men haven't come in on this. Maybe the old adage that a man chases a woman until she catches him is true.

You can really only generalise on a thread like this, all circumstances are different, but remember it is a leap year.

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Elegsabiff


Hadn't forgotten. On one hand I almost feel I should propose, because I may not even be around in 4 years. Last chance to try a new experience.

On the other hand - what if he said yes? Full-blown panic. It wouldn't happen, it couldn't, but .0000001% of a chance is too high a percentage to risk.

rolling on the floor laughing

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I've missed that boat I think. Why would anybody want to marry a middle-aged bloke who's parents are doing alright?

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tomcatwarne



Well if you haven't cut the apron strings by nowdunno

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Thats the thing, the apron strings are well and truly cut. The only interest I'd get in that way is some scammer/foreigner hoping they could be reattached.

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tomcatwarne
serena123
Some people may be scared of marriage..maybe they came from a bad home.. Seen other marriages not working etc..wouldn't push them into something they weren't comfortable withdunno

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