. Yes you are right to side with him, its good you do like all others will, if people always stay on the side of the majority they are always right, when l am right l am always wrong. As l think he speaks English l would have thought that he would read to post in religion, but there again l am wrong about that too, hope you are having yet another happy day being correct.
tomcatwarneOcean City, Plumouth, Devon, England UK17,106 posts
yubba: . Yes you are right to side with him, its good you do like all others will, if people always stay on the side of the majority they are always right, when l am right l am always wrong. As l think he speaks English l would have thought that he would read to post in religion, but there again l am wrong about that too, hope you are having yet another happy day being correct.
. This is a blog and sums up another person feelings of how bad people have joined CS and changed it:
Heydays
CS was once a vibrant site offering the possibilities of finding romance among the copious volume of regularly active members. These days, the number of people online at any one time barely fills one page.
Has CS’s heyday come and gone?
Having said that there has always been plentiful heaps of filth on here with a bad mouth and l remember the first tart that posted something bad to me in about 2004 simply because l posted in an EU forum and she thought l was not entitled too. Recently you have foul mouthed American women that start threads and you can imagine that the way they post here is the way they run their lives and indeed treat the spouse, American, Foul Mouthed and religious too, what a lovely combination.
For me: yes. It's actually the main requirement for my partner - to belong to the same axiomatic system. You don't want to spend all time discussion subjects that are given from your point of view: as "same pay for same job" and the like.
TheRedSquirrel87Manchester, Greater Manchester, England UK1,107 posts
dazzling87: is it important ?
As a reluctant atheist guarding against nihilism I'd prefer to have kids with somebody moderately religious.
I'm looking to grow and for my kids to be raised under the Goldilocks principle and for this I must have my complementary opposite to share certain fundamental disagreements. Man and woman or Mum and Dad must not be the same person.
TheRedSquirrel87Manchester, Greater Manchester, England UK1,107 posts
TheRedSquirrel87: As a reluctant atheist guarding against nihilism I'd prefer to have kids with somebody moderately religious.
I'm looking to grow and for my kids to be raised under the Goldilocks principle and for this I must have my complementary opposite to share certain fundamental disagreements. Man and woman or Mum and Dad must not be the same person.
I want her to be more emotional than me, less of a disciplinarian, and to be so deeply embedded in her social class that she scarcely recognises the existence of social class. Within certain cultural limits(e.g. I don't want a mother who believes in wearing the burqa)I want a wife and mother of my kids who has not seen the things that I have seen nor been the places that I have been. I want a love which transcends all walks of life.
daearsIn a house lol, Hawke's Bay New Zealand1,542 posts
Spells and potions are more used for cures and healings. The other side you have to be really ready. A bad spell cast returns tenfold. So if even you wish some bad thing. It comes back many times more. Even if only in your thoughts. So if you think bad things for someone. The spirits are listening.
TheRedSquirrel87Manchester, Greater Manchester, England UK1,107 posts
TheRedSquirrel87: I want her to be more emotional than me, less of a disciplinarian, and to be so deeply embedded in her social class that she scarcely recognises the existence of social class. Within certain cultural limits(e.g. I don't want a mother who believes in wearing the burqa)I want a wife and mother of my kids who has not seen the things that I have seen nor been the places that I have been. I want a love which transcends all walks of life.
On paper this shouldn't be too difficult. Seldom do I meet a woman who is less emotional, more of a disciplinarian, with an upbringing and life less eclectic than my own.
On paper I'm looking for the bog standard, middle class and pee-cee woman of the enclaves. As an oddball made weird by life and eccentric parents I want the run-of-the-mill snowflake entranced by her own uniqueness and raised by sensible and generic parents. I want a woman who talks a lot about not being like everybody else seen as being like everybody else is extremely difficult for me.
TheRedSquirrel87Manchester, Greater Manchester, England UK1,107 posts
TheRedSquirrel87: On paper this shouldn't be too difficult. Seldom do I meet a woman who is less emotional, more of a disciplinarian, with an upbringing and life less eclectic than my own.
On paper I'm looking for the bog standard, middle class and pee-cee woman of the enclaves. As an oddball made weird by life and eccentric parents I want the run-of-the-mill snowflake entranced by her own uniqueness and raised by sensible and generic parents. I want a woman who talks a lot about not being like everybody else seen as being like everybody else is extremely difficult for me.
TheRedSquirrel87Manchester, Greater Manchester, England UK1,107 posts
TheRedSquirrel87: On paper this shouldn't be too difficult. Seldom do I meet a woman who is less emotional, more of a disciplinarian, with an upbringing and life less eclectic than my own.
On paper I'm looking for the bog standard, middle class and pee-cee woman of the enclaves. As an oddball made weird by life and eccentric parents I want the run-of-the-mill snowflake entranced by her own uniqueness and raised by sensible and generic parents. I want a woman who talks a lot about not being like everybody else seen as being like everybody else is extremely difficult for me.
However, in addition to these differences which complement a love also requires having things in common.
When I've worked out all the ways in which clashing with a woman is in fact matching with a woman and matching with a woman is in fact clashing with a woman then I'll write a book.
My late husband and I had different beliefs rather they be religious or not to which I showed respect for his.Maybe that is why our marriage lasted so long as it did cause we both had respect for one another.
TheRedSquirrel87Manchester, Greater Manchester, England UK1,107 posts
TheRedSquirrel87: However, in addition to these differences which complement a love also requires having things in common.
When I've worked out all the ways in which clashing with a woman is in fact matching with a woman and matching with a woman is in fact clashing with a woman then I'll write a book.
Somebody should write a book on it if they've not already. Some of the more sophisticated cliches on those little pictures girls put up on their instagram are expressing the very same thing.
Unfortunately girls don't want to explain the truth of themselves in any great detail - hence the cliches - and thus it needs to be a man to write the how, when and why of being obstinate.
I think a relationship has a better chance of being successful if both have the same idea about religion.
I'm not religious at all. If I was in a relationship with someone who went to church on Sunday and never spoke a word about the bible, god, the virgin mary or anything of that nature in our home I would respect his choice but don't annoy me with religious chatter.
secretagent09: I think a relationship has a better chance of being successful if both have the same idea about religion.
I'm not religious at all. If I was in a relationship with someone who went to church on Sunday and never spoke a word about the bible, god, the virgin mary or anything of that nature in our home I would respect his choice but don't annoy me with religious chatter.
i,m a quaker...who likes his oats..(quaker oats.).....
TheRedSquirrel87Manchester, Greater Manchester, England UK1,107 posts
Forgive me for accidentally on purpose hijacking your thread.
I don't necessarily apply this to religion, but my point is that a couple works best when they are, in some respects, savagely different. It is vitally important to be able to disagree with and hurt the other person. Love soothes the burn and to feel the love she must first feel the burn.
any religion is fine as long as i think the person is rational. not important, but I wouldn't date a puritanical or dogmatic religious person in the first place.
123whisperMelbourne, Victoria Australia2,116 posts
Conrad73: it probably would help! Enough tensions arise,without having disagreements in the most fundamental issues!
"This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness." ~Dalai Lama
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