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Apr 17, 2017 1:31 PM CSTHow many times should you break up with your SO without calling it splittsville?
Lonely1
Lonely1Lonely1Ottawa, Ontario, Canada76 Threads 21 Polls 1,858 Posts

How many times should you break up with your SO without calling it splittsville?(Vote Below)

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1 - We have only just begun
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3 - This is fun
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5 - I love pain
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How many times should you break up with your significant other before calling it splittsville? Cannot see the light? Something rotten in Denmark?smitten
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Apr 17, 2017 1:34 PM CST How many times should you break up with your SO without calling it splittsville?
Lonely1: How many times should you break up with your significant other before calling it splittsville? Cannot see the light? Something rotten in Denmark?



Just once.
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Apr 17, 2017 1:38 PM CST How many times should you break up with your SO without calling it splittsville?
Lonely1
Lonely1Lonely1Ottawa, Ontario Canada76 Threads 21 Polls 1,858 Posts
mykingdomforanam: Just once.


Even when there are kids..and the house..and the motorcycle...alimony..? wow
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Apr 17, 2017 1:42 PM CST How many times should you break up with your SO without calling it splittsville?
If you think you had problems the first time you broke up...

Wait till you meet the guy she hooked up with when you dumped her for flirting with your best friend: and she tells you, "It's all your fault."
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Apr 17, 2017 1:42 PM CST How many times should you break up with your SO without calling it splittsville?
EggSalad
EggSaladEggSaladMálaga, Andalusia Spain4 Threads 149 Posts
Lonely1: How many times should you break up with your significant other before calling it splittsville? Cannot see the light? Something rotten in Denmark?

Is splittsville in Denmark? What´s Denmark got to do with the price of fish anyway?
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Apr 17, 2017 1:51 PM CST How many times should you break up with your SO without calling it splittsville?
Lonely1
Lonely1Lonely1Ottawa, Ontario Canada76 Threads 21 Polls 1,858 Posts
mykingdomforanam: If you think you had problems the first time you broke up...

Wait till you meet the guy she hooked up with when you dumped her for flirting with your best friend: and she tells you, "It's all your fault."


Man, that's deep. Sounds like three guys after the same girl:
+ You
+ Guy she hooked up with
+ Your best friend

Everybody's something?grin
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Apr 17, 2017 1:56 PM CST How many times should you break up with your SO without calling it splittsville?
Lonely1: Man, that's deep. Sounds like three guys after the same girl:
+ You
+ Guy she hooked up with
+ Your best friend

Everybody's something?



Not me.


Flirting with my best friend would have me over her right away.


And maybe not my best friend...
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Apr 17, 2017 2:13 PM CST How many times should you break up with your SO without calling it splittsville?
Lonely1: Yes, I did get the motorcycle..after the fourth breakup. Had to go back a few times to finally convince her that she did not like the motorcycle that much.



Did your girlfriend make you post this thread?
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Apr 17, 2017 2:23 PM CST How many times should you break up with your SO without calling it splittsville?
Lonely1
Lonely1Lonely1Ottawa, Ontario Canada76 Threads 21 Polls 1,858 Posts
mykingdomforanam: Did your girlfriend make you post this thread?


No. If she knew I was on here she would probably..break up!.laugh
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Apr 17, 2017 2:24 PM CST How many times should you break up with your SO without calling it splittsville?
mykingdomforanam: Did your SO make you post this thread?
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Apr 17, 2017 2:25 PM CST How many times should you break up with your SO without calling it splittsville?
Lonely1: No. If she knew I was on here she would probably..break up!.



I'd advise her to dump you, and get on with her life.
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Apr 17, 2017 3:50 PM CST How many times should you break up with your SO without calling it splittsville?
Lonely1
Lonely1Lonely1Ottawa, Ontario Canada76 Threads 21 Polls 1,858 Posts
mykingdomforanam: I'd advise her to dump you, and get on with her life.


Actually, I am trying to dump her. uh oh
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Apr 17, 2017 3:55 PM CST How many times should you break up with your SO without calling it splittsville?
mollybaby
mollybabymollybabyCork City, Cork Ireland56 Threads 8 Polls 23,608 Posts
Lonely1: How many times should you break up with your significant other before calling it splittsville? Cannot see the light? Something rotten in Denmark?



You will know when it is really over.
It is different from from the other times.
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Apr 17, 2017 4:23 PM CST How many times should you break up with your SO without calling it splittsville?
Lonely1: Actually, I am trying to dump her.



By hiding the fact you're on CS?
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Apr 17, 2017 4:32 PM CST How many times should you break up with your SO without calling it splittsville?
Chambellaonline today!
Chambellaonline today!ChambellaCanberra (ACT) & Batemans Bay, New South Wales Australia525 Posts
MY motto is "Three strikes and you are out"
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Apr 17, 2017 5:20 PM CST How many times should you break up with your SO without calling it splittsville?
jono7
jono7jono7Out West, British Columbia Canada3 Threads 8,017 Posts
how many times?

as many as you need.

i'm big on think back to what attracted you to the person, remember when you were the object of attention for each other, find that mindset again, and work through what you need to work through with the person. there is a reason you came together. you are a gift to each other.

otherwise, you just take 'it' into the next relationship.

you'll know when you're done. you won't have the question.

find the love, and either stay together or separate with love.

jmho

jono
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Apr 17, 2017 5:30 PM CST How many times should you break up with your SO without calling it splittsville?
Bogart_1960
Bogart_1960Bogart_1960Ask me !, Provence-Alpes-Cote d'Azur France36 Threads 1 Polls 10,012 Posts
jono7: how many times?

as many as you need.

i'm big on think back to what attracted you to the person, remember when you were the object of attention for each other, find that mindset again, and work through what you need to work through with the person. there is a reason you came together. you are a gift to each other.

otherwise, you just take 'it' into the next relationship.

you'll know when you're done. you won't have the question.

find the love, and either stay together or separate with love.

jmho

jono



thumbs up wine


wave
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Apr 17, 2017 5:37 PM CST How many times should you break up with your SO without calling it splittsville?
jono7
jono7jono7Out West, British Columbia Canada3 Threads 8,017 Posts
wave

hiya Bogart
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Apr 17, 2017 5:41 PM CST How many times should you break up with your SO without calling it splittsville?
Bogart_1960
Bogart_1960Bogart_1960Ask me !, Provence-Alpes-Cote d'Azur France36 Threads 1 Polls 10,012 Posts
jono7: hiya Bogart



Hi Jono, hope all is well with you.

wave
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Apr 17, 2017 7:52 PM CST How many times should you break up with your SO without calling it splittsville?
GalaxyLux
GalaxyLuxGalaxyLuxBanfield, Buenos Aires Argentina5 Threads 3 Polls 89 Posts
Chambella: MY motto is "Three strikes and you are out"


Not me. I run a strict household. professor

If he's talking out of turn? That's a paddlin'.
Is he lookin' out the window? That's a paddlin'.
Staring at my boots? That's a paddlin'.
Is he refusing to do the dishes? Oh, you better believe that's a paddlin'.


devil



laugh
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Apr 17, 2017 7:57 PM CST How many times should you break up with your SO without calling it splittsville?
HexagonKeySet
HexagonKeySetHexagonKeySetCentral, Waikato New Zealand150 Threads 7 Polls 3,829 Posts
Lonely1: Actually, I am trying to dump her.


You said you got the bike right ?

So, get on the bike Mike !

The problem is all inside your head, she said to me
The answer's easy if you take it logically
I'd like to help you in your struggle to be free
There must be fifty ways to leave your lover

She said it's really not my habit to intrude
For the more I hope my meaning won't be lost or misconstrued
So I repeat myself, at the risk of being crude
There must be fifty ways to leave your lover,

Just slip out the back, Jack, make a new plan, Stan
Don't need to be coy, Roy, just listen to me
Hop on the bus, Gus, don't need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee, and get yourself free
Just slip out the back, Jack, make a new plan, Stan
Don't need to be coy, Roy, just listen to me
Hop on the bus, Gus, don't need to discuss much
Just…set yourself free



cheers
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Apr 17, 2017 7:59 PM CST How many times should you break up with your SO without calling it splittsville?
HexagonKeySet
HexagonKeySetHexagonKeySetCentral, Waikato New Zealand150 Threads 7 Polls 3,829 Posts
GalaxyLux: Not me. I run a strict household.

If he's talking out of turn? That's a paddlin'.
Is he lookin' out the window? That's a paddlin'.
Staring at my boots? That's a paddlin'.
Is he refusing to do the dishes? Oh, you better believe that's a paddlin'.



Bl**dy hell ... and your facebook profile says you;re a "submissive woman looking for a dominant man !"

rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
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Apr 17, 2017 11:05 PM CST How many times should you break up with your SO without calling it splittsville?
Lonely1: No. If she knew I was on here she would probably..break up!.



Lonely1: Actually, I am trying to dump her.



It doesn't sound like the choice is yours.


On the upside, Hexagonkeyset is right...

A motorcycle in Florida right now (for spring break), can change your life forever; and you can be there in a couple days.
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Apr 17, 2017 11:16 PM CST How many times should you break up with your SO without calling it splittsville?
Nevermind.

Bike Week was last month.
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Apr 17, 2017 11:31 PM CST How many times should you break up with your SO without calling it splittsville?
lifeisadream
lifeisadreamlifeisadreamMexi Go, Mexico State Mexico156 Threads 20 Polls 16,713 Posts
Lonely1: How many times should you break up with your significant other before calling it splittsville? Cannot see the light? Something rotten in Denmark?


One is enough.
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Apr 18, 2017 2:27 AM CST How many times should you break up with your SO without calling it splittsville?
HexagonKeySet
HexagonKeySetHexagonKeySetCentral, Waikato New Zealand150 Threads 7 Polls 3,829 Posts
Lonely1: How many times should you break up with your significant other before calling it splittsville? Cannot see the light? Something rotten in Denmark?



All depends on what was happening, how long it had been happening, and whether or not there was goodwill on the part of both parties towards an authentic resolution and future progress.

I guess I've seen all the variations!

From bouncing to and fro where leaving and making up has been anything from 12 hours to a week but happened many times over ( and they're still at the same game a decade later )

And a very close friend who decided that after years of 'trying to make things right with her' marriage counselling would be a good idea.

One session together to explain 'how it works'

One session each separately

Session four each was asked the Big Q by counsellor "Are you here to end it or mend it?"

He said MEND

She said END

Like he said over a beer ... there's absolutely no point after that reply.

I have to agree.

Life ... it goes on regardless !



peace
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Apr 18, 2017 5:37 PM CST How many times should you break up with your SO without calling it splittsville?
Lilith10
Lilith10Lilith10unknown, Alberta Canada25 Threads 2,078 Posts
GalaxyLux: Not me. I run a strict household.

If he's talking out of turn? That's a paddlin'.
Is he lookin' out the window? That's a paddlin'.
Staring at my boots? That's a paddlin'.
Is he refusing to do the dishes? Oh, you better believe that's a paddlin'.






laugh
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Apr 18, 2017 6:35 PM CST How many times should you break up with your SO without calling it splittsville?
Lonely1
Lonely1Lonely1Ottawa, Ontario Canada76 Threads 21 Polls 1,858 Posts
mollybaby: You will know when it is really over.
It is different from from the other times.


For sure laugh

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Apr 18, 2017 6:37 PM CST How many times should you break up with your SO without calling it splittsville?
Lonely1
Lonely1Lonely1Ottawa, Ontario Canada76 Threads 21 Polls 1,858 Posts
HexagonKeySet: You said you got the bike right ?

So, get on the bike Mike !

The problem is all inside your head, she said to me
The answer's easy if you take it logically
I'd like to help you in your struggle to be free
There must be fifty ways to leave your lover

She said it's really not my habit to intrude
For the more I hope my meaning won't be lost or misconstrued
So I repeat myself, at the risk of being crude
There must be fifty ways to leave your lover,

Just slip out the back, Jack, make a new plan, Stan
Don't need to be coy, Roy, just listen to me
Hop on the bus, Gus, don't need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee, and get yourself free
Just slip out the back, Jack, make a new plan, Stan
Don't need to be coy, Roy, just listen to me
Hop on the bus, Gus, don't need to discuss much
Just…set yourself free
thumbs up applause
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Apr 18, 2017 6:42 PM CST How many times should you break up with your SO without calling it splittsville?
Lonely1
Lonely1Lonely1Ottawa, Ontario Canada76 Threads 21 Polls 1,858 Posts
HexagonKeySet: All depends on what was happening, how long it had been happening, and whether or not there was goodwill on the part of both parties towards an authentic resolution and future progress.

I guess I've seen all the variations!

From bouncing to and fro where leaving and making up has been anything from 12 hours to a week but happened many times over ( and they're still at the same game a decade later )

And a very close friend who decided that after years of 'trying to make things right with her' marriage counselling would be a good idea.

One session together to explain 'how it works'

One session each separately

Session four each was asked the Big Q by counsellor "Are you here to end it or mend it?"

He said MEND

She said END

Like he said over a beer ... there's absolutely no point after that reply.

I have to agree.

Life ... it goes on regardless !
cheers

The issue is:
- How do you get someone who does not want to go to go?
- How do you get someone who does not want to stay to stay?

laugh
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Apr 18, 2017 7:26 PM CST How many times should you break up with your SO without calling it splittsville?
HexagonKeySet
HexagonKeySetHexagonKeySetCentral, Waikato New Zealand150 Threads 7 Polls 3,829 Posts
Lonely1: The issue is:
- How do you get someone who does not want to go to go?
- How do you get someone who does not want to stay to stay?



Either you're taking the P155 or yer not right in the head fella :-) :-) :-)

You don't!

If you don't want to be with someone any more ... you tell them and you leave.

If you don't want to be with someone and you have them living in your home with you then you give them notice and a fixed time by which they leave. If your country of residence has 'Relationship Property laws' then you might be advised to seek legal advice dependent on how long you cohabitted, and absolutely need to do that if you were married.

If someone does not want to be with you any longer ... then you accept as gracefully as you can and then show respect to them and self respect to yourself by getting gone, getting on with your life and leaving them be to get on with theirs.

If you grovel, whine, promise to change / be a better person in future ... all it does is to destroy any respect they may had for you in the past - without mutual respect there cannot be any love.

Just wave bye bye and get on with whatever comes next

cheers
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