Ladies, How would you feel if a man read poetry to you? (38)

I'm not sure why that guy judged and attacked you for no reason at all The problem is we have trolls on CS and some just like to post to upset others and get a bad reaction from them.

You are your own person, Your opinion is you own and nobody else's

marlindap•2 hrs ago•Clearwater, British Columbia Canada•67 Posts
you judge me so quickly, just because i cannot be won over with false words. Only in the silence can you hear what one thinks. Only in times where you need nothing from them and they nothing from you.If i do not feel loved by someones actions, i do not need their words.

Hi Marlindap

YOU misjudge ME! I WASN'T judging you, in the sense of you're a good or bad person! Or that your thoughts are well thought out, or not. I was only WONDERING about your "priorities" in life. I'm NOT you, so I'll be the LAST person to try to say that "I" know better the YOU, how YOU should be. Or what you should do. But, you see, I have an INSATIABLE curiosity, and am prone to reflection/thinking. And I found your "position" difficult to fathom. I agree with you that NO ONE ever lives up to all our hopes and expectations! But I DON'T see that as a reason for giving up on people and/or personal relationships. And, when someone DOES take time out of their life, to do something for ME, I really appreciate that, because it DOES happen so seldom. If they're willing to invest part of THEIR life, in MINE, I have to admit that I'm attracted to such a person. Because NOT MANY WILL do that! And I LIKE having people, ESPECIALLY those that care enough (about me, OR others), to give of the one IRREPLACEABLE asset they possess - their time! And I find it difficult to understand why you have no "respect/appreciation" for that. And I'm NOT suggesting that you be "won over" by "words". I'll be the FIRST to accept that ACTIONS speak louder than WORDS! But, when somebody goes out of their way, spends some part of their life DOING something for ME (such as writing a poem especially for ME), it's NOT the "words" of the poem (although nice words are nice, too), but the fact of the ACTION that impresses/attracts ME! And writing a poem, or even taking the time to find someone else's that expresses their "thoughts/feelings" to/for me, IS an "action", NOT "just a bunch of 'false words'"!

And, if you can only "read" another persons thoughts/feelings/intentions - in silence, then I feel sorry for you. I wonder at the limitations of your intellect! But I WILL admit that the TRUE compatibility of two people can be judged by how "COMFORTABLE" the "silences" are, between them.

As far as your comment about "need/needing", if you discount my childhood (when I needed my parents "help"), I've never "needed" anyone. I've WANTED some. I've ENJOYED some. But NEED? NO! Never. And I've been on my own, supporting myself and providing for all my own "needs" for over 50 years, now. No, I DON'T "NEED" their words! But their words CAN BE pleasant/enjoyable, and INDICATIVE of the quality of OUR relationship! And, just because they're "words", DOESN'T mean they're "false".

Just a little "food for thought", Marlindap. NO condemnation here.

I'd share a shower with him first

marlindap: you judge me so quickly, just because i cannot be won over with false words. Only in the silence can you hear what one thinks. Only in times where you need nothing from them and they nothing from you.If i do not feel loved by someones actions, i do not need their words.


I'm not sure why that guy judged and attacked you for no reason at allconfused The problem is we have trolls on CS and some just like to post to upset others and get a bad reaction from them.

You are your own person, Your opinion is you own and nobody else's


Now, for YOU, Mr. "freedomofspeech". I'll be the first to defend YOUR right to say what's on your mind! But I WOULD hope you actually THINK before you speak!

#1. I'm NOT "that guy", thank you. I'm a person. You're welcome to refer to me as "Let_Us", or by "James/Jim?, if you prefer. But I WONDER at your usage of the UBIQUITOUS and PREJUDICIAL "they/them" (THAT guy" form of address. Or is it just that you're NATURALLY impolite? As well as a STEREOTYPER of people? Do YOU like being "classed" by people that DON'T know you? I'm sorry if you have no understanding of the old saying "Do unto others, as you would have them do unto YOU!"
#2. I WASN'T judging her! I was curious and wondering out loud! Is THAT all right with you? Or DON'T you believe in the "freedom of speech" you use as a "nom de plume"?
#3. I DIDN'T "attack" her! If you thought THAT was an "attack", you're NOT PREPARED to see me ACTUALLY swing into action! "I", like YOU, only exerted MY right to freedom of speech, and wondered - OUT LOUD (on paper) - about the causes/reasoning BEHIND her statements/assertions. Is it ALL RIGHT if "I" do that? Or is that only YOUR privilege? (oR DO you ONLY one AUTHORIZED TO MAKE derogatory "COMMENTS/CONTRIBUTIONS to the general discussion?)
#4. WHAT is a ""troll"? And am "I" to assume that YOU consider ME one? Since YOU seem to be doing much more "contributing" (in a LOT of different forums - EVERYONE I've looked at, so far) than "I" do, are we to consider YOU a "troll"? Or just a "contributor"?
#5. You're making UNWARRANTED "assumptions" about me! You're ASSERTING that my comments/posts have NO OTHER purpose/intention that to "disturb/upset" someone. Which is NEVER the case, WITH ME! (I can't speak for YOU!) When "I" make comments, it's generally (although NOT always) an observation of/on a/that person's commentary, as a means of eliciting a response, so that "I" (and others) can better understand their position. But I DO admit to presenting an ALTERNATE "option", for THEM to "consider", as well. In what way are YOU seeking to assist in the "understanding" of the topic under discussion? Or is YOUR position only that of a "spectator/sniper"?

I COULD go on, buts what's the point? Is YOUR "commentary" going to benefit/improve from ANY of these observations? J

mollybaby•33 mins ago•Cork City, Cork Ireland•25,021 Posts
×pat8lanips: Any lady thats stupid enough to fall for poetry, will also fall for the accoustic guitar routine, and probably sleeps with dirty long-haired hippies.



I'd share a shower with him first wink


Thank you, Molly.