What is #1 reason people don't put up recent profile pictures.

They are ugly
22
37%
They are married, or involved
7
12%
They are scammers
7
12%
Don't have a camera
3
5%
They are in the witness protection program
4
7%
They are afraid of identity theft
17
28%
Total Votes
60
I don't understand why so many people don't put up a fairly accurate picture of themselves. If there is some good reason please let me know. Maybe I should take mine down and put up a fake. Thanks in advance for responding.

Comments (197)

Deedee123x
They may not feel confident in how they look.

Sometimes i feel its a thing where, they are not being their real selves on here , so they much rather not put a real pic to the fake persona!!

Some are not here to date so dont need to put one up.

Dont change ur pic....its nice to see peoples faces

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Bearwoman
I took mine down earlier today but I have no problem putting it back up.

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I've never really believed in trying cast any illusions, what's the point? It is what it is, people are either going to accept it or not. I've met people from this dating site who didn't resemble their profile pic at all when we met, they'd used much younger images. Although maintaining politeness throughout our dates, I had already withdrawn any interest as they had deceived me already.

Suck it up, You are what you are and look like what you look like.

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Cachuchi
I had no pic for a couple of months when I joined the site, I didn´t have it because I was not really interested in dating here, no that I´m now but I just changed my mind; in any case my profile (I think) is very clear about that and also my behavior around forums & blogs.

I think each of us can do whatever we want with this picture thing, options are there, and no pic is one of them ....

I don´t know maybe they are just ...insecure? or prefer to use their words and no images, in any case it must be difficult if your image doesn´t match with the personality you tried to show here ....I don´t know.
Don´t really care dunno

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galrads


I have neither looks nor personality. I’m in the zone. The ozone. Doesn’t bother me though that I’m ugly.

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Miwagi
I can't remember what the options were when I signed up, but I thought it asked for a close up picture. I'd say a blank is more honest than a fake. But after a while I think people seeing so many blanks just decide to start taking theirs down too. Not really sure how that benefits the site. Anyway I don't care if people do or don't, just interested in hearing some of the reasons. Like ali says, it's just a chat.wave

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Cachuchi


You are not ugly ....at all. Live with that! LOL dancing

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I'm one of those who shouldn't have a pic up laugh

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Cachuchi


Ok another one....who told you that?
Track stop the BS....you are a nice looking guy, I told you once, you are too young for me but if you were more that 45 ha! I would have gone after your bones, guitar included....and that snow you have there wouldn´t stop me at all head banger

Now take a couple of kisses from your virtual-CS-untouchable-big-sista LOL lips lips

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2intrigued
My reason for no pic is that I'm not on the site for dating and not having a pic up keeps the mailbox empty which is the way I like it. laugh Some people have had their profile pictures used by others who were up to no good as well.

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galrads
Yeah, I remeber Pompoms youtube video. Kind of one reason why I don’t paste a more recent photo.

wave

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2intrigued


Yep, it was shortly after that incident that kinda killed it for me too. wave

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Everyminute
Maybe because they are shy OR they don't have confidence OR because they are scammers

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pat8lanips
Its up to the individual if they put a picture up or not. As Tokyo said, whats the point of using an old picture? However, if you're unlikely to actually meet anybody in person, whats the point of putting one up at all?

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Miwagi
But if something happened on this site that makes people reluctant to post a real photo, then how about a head's up for the rest of us. I wasn't around for the pompom video.

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Miwagi
Everybody else must have different rules than I do.

Rules
A nude or obscene photo will get you permanently banned for this site
Primary photo must be of YOU and must show YOUR face clearly.
Do NOT include CHILDREN for SAFETY reasons.
Must reflect your true appearance.
Must match your stated gender.
No celebrities, models, copyrighted or altered images, cartoons, or drawings.
No special effects or frames.
No nudity, obscenity, s*xual or offensive photos, display of weapons, or illegal activity.
No photos in which you are, or appear to be under age 18 years.
Tiny photos do not post well and will be deleted.
Dark, blurry or poor quality photos will not be posted.
Must be in .jpg format, no larger than 1 MB.
**Report photos that break the rule

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galrads
Yep, show your face clearly....



Yep, show your face clearly.

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Kaybee50
And maybe in some cases, their photos are current.
I've been accused on more than one occasion of posting older photos of myself.

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Miwagi
I may I say you marvelous darling.teddybear

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Kaybee50
yeah yeah yeah laugh

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Miwagi
I mucked that up, got hung up looking for the quote button. frustrated

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Miwagi
#1 and #2 are getting 82% of the vote.

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jac_the_gripper
One of my photos is 8 years old and I'd gladly take it down, but I don't know if I've stored it, I'm low on technology at the moment and my daughter took it, so I'd like to keep it.

The other two are 3/4 years old (my hair is much longer now), but I don't have anything more recent.

I'm not looking, I haven't changed dramatically and having no photo makes using the forums a bit confusing.

I'd rather people had any picture representing an aspect of themselves, whether that's their face, a beloved pet, their humour, their artwork, whatever. There's more to people than just their looks.

I think it's a rather silly and objectifying rule that you can have your face, or no face and it's rather inconsistently administered by the site.

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KremaP
I still see a lot of profiles having the same pictures from six years ago when I joined CS...
I understand some people don't want to have a picture up, but don't understand why would you put an old or even very old one on your profile (Jac excluded)
Being in the virtual world a photo is a the first thing one will be attracted (or not) to...like it or not...
For those not looking (like myself) I believe is a way of showing a bit of respect to the others when talking to them on forums and blogs.

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jac_the_gripper
I don't understand your comment about respect for other posters, Krema.

I'm probably being somewhat pragmatic and maybe missing some social etiquette.

I'm using my phone, people's photos are tiny smudges with no username attached. Pat's pic is one of the most easily identifiable for me - I think his pic is great for that reason and I don't find it disrespectful that it's not altogether...um...up to date. dunno

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mollybaby
Jac. you think Pat has aged since that pic? wow

I think everybody should be allowed to put up any kind of pic they feel represents them, whether it is a puppy or a flower or a crash test dummy.

It would be much easier to identify who is posting if we could see a pic we identify with that person

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jac_the_gripper
Yeah, Krema is right, we are generally visual creatures, but if we're not looking for a relationship where that's relevant there's no need for anyone to be attracted to us.

Any identifiable visual aid will do for recognition purposes.

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Deedee123x
Well given i received abuse for having my pic up ,when ive stated in my profile im not looking, ive decided to take mine down.

Sheeesshh...u cant please some people.

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Miwagi
I'm still hoping someone will tell us the story of the pompom video.

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Deedee123x
I cant help u there as i wasnt around when it happened

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