What should be your decision! ( Archived) (21)

May 17, 2018 3:53 AM CSTWhat should be your decision!
Tanzila
TanzilaTanzilaCity Of Joy, West Bengal, India77 Threads 47 Polls 554 Posts

What should be your decision!(Vote Below)

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They should obey parents and cancele marriage
6
24%
They should go against the parents and marry
19
76%
Total Votes
25
Even though people often say that age does not matter in love but it is easy to say to just have a simple love affair or even if you want to live together ..
But what if a couple where the bride is elder of 3 years or more than that than the groom and their parents will not accept this relationship, what should they do!
Should they obey their parents and cancelle the idea of getting married
or
They should stick to the theory of age dies not matter and marry against their parents decision..
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May 17, 2018 8:28 AM CST What should be your decision!
SweetnFunnyChic
SweetnFunnyChicSweetnFunnyChicSharjah, United Arab Emirates10 Threads 5 Polls 374 Posts
They should do what they want! One day the parents will be dead and gone and the couple will live their life regretting not getting married because the parents were against it. I know many people like this. They got married to others and still pining for their choice.
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May 17, 2018 10:03 AM CST What should be your decision!
Bearwoman
BearwomanBearwomanNorthgate, Ohio USA9 Threads 3,267 Posts
Unless they are both underage people but instead consenting adults then they should be let to make their own choices and get married regardless of what other people think.
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May 17, 2018 10:08 AM CST What should be your decision!
Tresssa
TresssaTresssaOn a Cloud, Devon, England UK2 Threads 207 Posts
If they are both of age,then they should marry, it's their life, not their parents....
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May 17, 2018 11:13 AM CST What should be your decision!
ChesneyChrist
ChesneyChristChesneyChristManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK7,144 Posts
It would depend on a lot of things, like how long we’ve been together. 3 months with her would not be worth more than 30 years with my parents.
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May 17, 2018 11:16 AM CST What should be your decision!
Poitin
PoitinPoitinClare, Ireland14 Posts
So many parents in the world view their children as an extension of themselves when the reality is they are individual n unique. Yes parents can make important decisions for their children when they are small but once they turn 18 they have every right to make their own decisions n the parents have to respect that freedom. Its a tragedy when parents let their egos take priority over parental love.
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May 17, 2018 11:49 AM CST What should be your decision!
Tanzila
TanzilaTanzilaCity Of Joy, West Bengal India77 Threads 47 Polls 554 Posts
First I want to Thank You all for participating in my poll by voting and comments..

Actually in our society people often say big things to build their own larger than life image.. But when it comes to take action in reality, most of them act exactly opposite what they have been declared before..

Saying age does not matter to get a lover(specially elder women) is very easy for peoples..
But
Marry the same elder woman against parents and society's decision is something else ..

People don't really mean what they often say..
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May 17, 2018 11:50 AM CST What should be your decision!
pKrema
pKremapKremaAt home, Shumen Bulgaria6 Threads 4,707 Posts
Nothing wrong with parents wanting the best for their kids, 18 or 48 you will always be someones' child...
Instead of rushing into rebellious scenario, I'd give the relationship some time to prove itself...
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May 17, 2018 5:14 PM CST What should be your decision!
The only way the parents won’t except you
is that they don’t like you, or think you’re
not for there son, 3years not much of a big age difference
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May 17, 2018 5:25 PM CST What should be your decision!
M4_Mischief
M4_MischiefM4_MischiefBelleville, Ontario Canada6,250 Posts
Elder woman?...three years difference is hardly elderly and if you live the rest of your life according to your parents decisions then you're obviously co-dependent and cant make decisions for yourself....doh
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May 17, 2018 7:31 PM CST What should be your decision!
Mr_Amor
Mr_AmorMr_AmorAllahabad, Uttar Pradesh, Uttar Pradesh India8 Threads 87 Posts
It is not a simple question.
According to Indian culture parents love their childrens unti death. Parents love is bigger than few days of relationship love.
In today modern world relationship (love) is like a chewing-gum. Chewed until the sweetness is over, after then it is spitted in form of breakups & divorces.
How can we go against parents dicision only for a few days of relationship.

I am not religious but i will say one amazing thing in Hindu religion, there is no word defined for divorce in Hindi dictionary.
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May 17, 2018 9:41 PM CST What should be your decision!
She's too old.

He should obey his parents!
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May 17, 2018 9:45 PM CST What should be your decision!
Don't waste your youth on older women.
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May 18, 2018 12:04 AM CST What should be your decision!
pKrema
pKremapKremaAt home, Shumen Bulgaria6 Threads 4,707 Posts
It's funny how the lot of you live in multicultural societies and swear you are all for tolerance and understanding...but when it comes to show it you lack the slightest ability to do so...
It's not a Hollywood read of an exotic love story, it's life for those people, and it's harsh too...
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May 18, 2018 6:54 PM CST What should be your decision!
Mr_Amor
Mr_AmorMr_AmorAllahabad, Uttar Pradesh, Uttar Pradesh India8 Threads 87 Posts
Mostly love makes blind & marriage opens the eyes.
Before marriage (in love relationship) everything looks correct (everything seems fair in love), age doesn't matter, face doesn't matter, disabilities doesn't matter, etc. etc.
And after marriage everything does matter.
I will not say everybody is like that, but mostly is like that.
Our parents have marriage experience, we don't have. They knows better (before marriage & after marriage).

So we have to tel our parents everything about our love relationship in beginning. They will suggest you correctly.
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May 18, 2018 10:55 PM CST What should be your decision!
Mr_Amor: It is not a simple question.
According to Indian culture parents love their childrens unti death. Parents love is bigger than few days of relationship love.
In today modern world relationship (love) is like a chewing-gum. Chewed until the sweetness is over, after then it is spitted in form of breakups & divorces.
How can we go against parents dicision only for a few days of relationship.

I am not religious but i will say one amazing thing in Hindu religion, there is no word defined for divorce in Hindi dictionary.
Another trippy thing.

In my study of comparative religions, it seems to me that a virgin birth would be most impressive in a Vedic society; and The Bible has prophecys that were made specifically for the benefit of Gentiles.
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May 19, 2018 2:30 AM CST What should be your decision!
One2note
One2noteOne2noteLondon, Essex, England UK286 Threads 3 Polls 7,606 Posts
3 years is not a big age gap when you're in adult stage..
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May 19, 2018 3:12 AM CST What should be your decision!
Rachie14
Rachie14Rachie14Stafford, Staffordshire, England UK1 Threads 2,330 Posts
Well I live in the UK and I don't have cultural aspects to consider. Does it matter if I am older. To me yes it does, I would feel odd about it. But there again I doubt I would be in this position.

As for my parents. Well I am old enough and stupid enough to go with what my heart says. After all I am living my life, they are not living it for me.

I would hope, that they would respect that. Especially at my age.
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May 19, 2018 7:14 AM CST What should be your decision!
pat8lanips
pat8lanipspat8lanipsbabinda, Queensland Australia67 Threads 14 Polls 6,372 Posts
3 years older is not much really, I could handle 6 or 7 years older and I dont even have any tattoos.
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May 19, 2018 9:01 AM CST What should be your decision!
CestMero
CestMeroCestMeroRostrenen, Bretagne France1 Threads 1 Polls 26 Posts
3 years is nothing. I married at 23, my wife was 17. We were together for forty three years and parted amicably.
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May 19, 2018 9:10 AM CST What should be your decision!
Snookums33
Snookums33Snookums33Joburg, Gauteng South Africa601 Threads 2 Polls 5,760 Posts
CestMero: 3 years is nothing. I married at 23, my wife was 17. We were together for forty three years and parted amicably.
We were both 21 when we got married, and parted 7 years later, not amicably.
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May 19, 2018 9:13 AM CST What should be your decision!
Snookums33
Snookums33Snookums33Joburg, Gauteng South Africa601 Threads 2 Polls 5,760 Posts
CestMero: 3 years is nothing. I married at 23, my wife was 17. We were together for forty three years and parted amicably.
I miss the nice pics and profile, what happened to it ?
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