What should be your decision! (23)

May 17, 2018 4:53 AM CSTWhat should be your decision!

What should be your decision!(Vote Below)

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They should obey parents and cancele marriage
5
23%
They should go against the parents and marry
17
77%
Total Votes
22
Even though people often say that age does not matter in love but it is easy to say to just have a simple love affair or even if you want to live together ..
But what if a couple where the bride is elder of 3 years or more than that than the groom and their parents will not accept this relationship, what should they do!
Should they obey their parents and cancelle the idea of getting married
or
They should stick to the theory of age dies not matter and marry against their parents decision..
May 17, 2018 9:28 AM CST What should be your decision!
SweetnFunnyChic
SweetnFunnyChicSweetnFunnyChicSharjah, United Arab Emirates10 Threads 5 Polls 516 Posts
They should do what they want! One day the parents will be dead and gone and the couple will live their life regretting not getting married because the parents were against it. I know many people like this. They got married to others and still pining for their choice.
May 17, 2018 11:03 AM CST What should be your decision!
Unless they are both underage people but instead consenting adults then they should be let to make their own choices and get married regardless of what other people think.
May 17, 2018 11:08 AM CST What should be your decision!
If they are both of age,then they should marry, it's their life, not their parents....
May 17, 2018 12:13 PM CST What should be your decision!
ChesneyChristonline now!
ChesneyChristonline now!ChesneyChristManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK4,223 Posts
It would depend on a lot of things, like how long we’ve been together. 3 months with her would not be worth more than 30 years with my parents.
May 17, 2018 12:16 PM CST What should be your decision!
Poitin
PoitinPoitinClare, Ireland25 Posts
So many parents in the world view their children as an extension of themselves when the reality is they are individual n unique. Yes parents can make important decisions for their children when they are small but once they turn 18 they have every right to make their own decisions n the parents have to respect that freedom. Its a tragedy when parents let their egos take priority over parental love.
May 17, 2018 12:49 PM CST What should be your decision!
First I want to Thank You all for participating in my poll by voting and comments..

Actually in our society people often say big things to build their own larger than life image.. But when it comes to take action in reality, most of them act exactly opposite what they have been declared before..

Saying age does not matter to get a lover(specially elder women) is very easy for peoples..
But
Marry the same elder woman against parents and society's decision is something else ..

People don't really mean what they often say..
May 17, 2018 12:50 PM CST What should be your decision!
Nothing wrong with parents wanting the best for their kids, 18 or 48 you will always be someones' child...
Instead of rushing into rebellious scenario, I'd give the relationship some time to prove itself...
May 17, 2018 6:14 PM CST What should be your decision!
The only way the parents won’t except you
is that they don’t like you, or think you’re
not for there son, 3years not much of a big age difference
May 17, 2018 6:25 PM CST What should be your decision!
Elder woman?...three years difference is hardly elderly and if you live the rest of your life according to your parents decisions then you're obviously co-dependent and cant make decisions for yourself....doh
May 17, 2018 8:31 PM CST What should be your decision!
Mr_Amoronline today!
Mr_Amoronline today!Mr_AmorAllahabad, Uttar Pradesh, India10 Posts
It is not a simple question.
According to Indian culture parents love their childrens unti death. Parents love is bigger than few days of relationship love.
In today modern world relationship (love) is like a chewing-gum. Chewed until the sweetness is over, after then it is spitted in form of breakups & divorces.
How can we go against parents dicision only for a few days of relationship.

I am not religious but i will say one amazing thing in Hindu religion, there is no word defined for divorce in Hindi dictionary.
May 17, 2018 10:41 PM CST What should be your decision!
She's too old.

He should obey his parents!
May 17, 2018 10:45 PM CST What should be your decision!
Don't waste your youth on older women.
May 18, 2018 1:04 AM CST What should be your decision!
It's funny how the lot of you live in multicultural societies and swear you are all for tolerance and understanding...but when it comes to show it you lack the slightest ability to do so...
It's not a Hollywood read of an exotic love story, it's life for those people, and it's harsh too...
May 18, 2018 7:54 PM CST What should be your decision!
Mr_Amoronline today!
Mr_Amoronline today!Mr_AmorAllahabad, Uttar Pradesh, India10 Posts
Mostly love makes blind & marriage opens the eyes.
Before marriage (in love relationship) everything looks correct (everything seems fair in love), age doesn't matter, face doesn't matter, disabilities doesn't matter, etc. etc.
And after marriage everything does matter.
I will not say everybody is like that, but mostly is like that.
Our parents have marriage experience, we don't have. They knows better (before marriage & after marriage).

So we have to tel our parents everything about our love relationship in beginning. They will suggest you correctly.
May 18, 2018 11:55 PM CST What should be your decision!
Mr_Amor: It is not a simple question.
According to Indian culture parents love their childrens unti death. Parents love is bigger than few days of relationship love.
In today modern world relationship (love) is like a chewing-gum. Chewed until the sweetness is over, after then it is spitted in form of breakups & divorces.
How can we go against parents dicision only for a few days of relationship.

I am not religious but i will say one amazing thing in Hindu religion, there is no word defined for divorce in Hindi dictionary.
Another trippy thing.

In my study of comparative religions, it seems to me that a virgin birth would be most impressive in a Vedic society; and The Bible has prophecys that were made specifically for the benefit of Gentiles.
May 19, 2018 3:30 AM CST What should be your decision!
3 years is not a big age gap when you're in adult stage..
May 19, 2018 4:12 AM CST What should be your decision!
Rachie14
Rachie14Rachie14Stafford, Staffordshire UK1 Threads 3,289 Posts
Well I live in the UK and I don't have cultural aspects to consider. Does it matter if I am older. To me yes it does, I would feel odd about it. But there again I doubt I would be in this position.

As for my parents. Well I am old enough and stupid enough to go with what my heart says. After all I am living my life, they are not living it for me.

I would hope, that they would respect that. Especially at my age.
May 19, 2018 4:15 AM CST What should be your decision!
Mr_Amor: It is not a simple question.
According to Indian culture parents love their childrens unti death. Parents love is bigger than few days of relationship love.
In today modern world relationship (love) is like a chewing-gum. Chewed until the sweetness is over, after then it is spitted in form of breakups & divorces.
How can we go against parents dicision only for a few days of relationship.

I am not religious but i will say one amazing thing in Hindu religion, there is no word defined for divorce in Hindi dictionary.
According to Indian society the real fact is ..

Most Indian parents, from all the economical or cultural background..

Treat their child as Property to posses and as Investment of future...

That's why Most Indian parents don't hesitate to kill girl child and don't want to raise girls as equally as boys..
Because Most Indian parents don't consider their girl child as worthy as boys to treat as property or investment..

That is the real mentality of most Indian parents towards their own child..

If you don't agree then just take a look at the results of survey and statistics to find the number of only Reported cases of
child labour, child prostitution, child marriage, child abuse and rape, abortion and killing of girl child, honour killing etc...

It is good to glorify your society
But
Also show the courage to admit the ugly facts too.. thumbs up
May 19, 2018 8:08 AM CST What should be your decision!
Mr_Amoronline today!
Mr_Amoronline today!Mr_AmorAllahabad, Uttar Pradesh, India10 Posts
Tanzila: According to Indian society the real fact is ..

Most Indian parents, from all the economical or cultural background..

Treat their child as Property to posses and as Investment of future...

That's why Most Indian parents don't hesitate to kill girl child and don't want to raise girls as equally as boys..
Because Most Indian parents don't consider their girl child as worthy as boys to treat as property or investment..

That is the real mentality of most Indian parents towards their own child..

If you don't agree then just take a look at the results of survey and statistics to find the number of only Reported cases of
child labour, child prostitution, child marriage, child abuse and rape, abortion and killing of girl child, honour killing etc...

It is good to glorify your society
But
Also show the courage to admit the ugly facts too..
You are correct Tanzila. I am agree with you. You made me speechless.
May 19, 2018 8:14 AM CST What should be your decision!
pat8lanips
pat8lanipspat8lanipsbabinda, Queensland Australia64 Threads 11 Polls 6,818 Posts
3 years older is not much really, I could handle 6 or 7 years older and I dont even have any tattoos.
May 19, 2018 10:01 AM CST What should be your decision!
CestMero
CestMeroCestMeroRostrenen, Bretagne France1 Threads 1 Polls 45 Posts
3 years is nothing. I married at 23, my wife was 17. We were together for forty three years and parted amicably.
May 19, 2018 10:10 AM CST What should be your decision!
CestMero: 3 years is nothing. I married at 23, my wife was 17. We were together for forty three years and parted amicably.
We were both 21 when we got married, and parted 7 years later, not amicably.
May 19, 2018 10:13 AM CST What should be your decision!
CestMero: 3 years is nothing. I married at 23, my wife was 17. We were together for forty three years and parted amicably.
I miss the nice pics and profile, what happened to it ?

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